Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Pyxis

This is the regular repost of the thread etiquette

Pyxis wrote: »

(The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(type of trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc.

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

Georgiegirl256

:wave: Birdie. Sorry you've been poorly I remember when those slankets first came out and everyone went mad for them....they are a brilliant idea, but I think I kept on getting annoyed with mine and it ended up in the boot of the car!

Forgot to say, I went to church again last night, another memorial service, 'Light up a life' it was very emotional of course, but lovely They had a male voice choir, and they were brilliant. There's something so moving about choirs that always sets me off.

tea_lover

tea_lover wrote: »

*trots off to buy potatoes*

Didn't realise it was raining that much.... *shakes like wet dog*

codemonkey

It's stopped raining here, probably becauar I had my brolly. Snow on the ground last night though!

1 day to Christmasness. WaS, did you get your Christmas dresses? Mine aren't here yet, although I do have my snowman leggings.

faerielight

Morning guys I'm not feeling as rouge today so it must mean the infection is getting under control. I'm still in loads of pain but Dr thinks I might get home tomorrow or wed.. Yay! I'm missing my cats so much!

tea_lover

Hope you continue to feel better faerie, and that you're back home soon xx. Your cats will be so pleased to see you (although they might not show it - moody beggars :rotfl:)

lex - did you make it to the post office and back yet??

(((flybaby)))

Good luck at the dr's this evening ono.

whitewing

Children's choirs make me blub.

I am tempted to start Christmasness at 11pm tonight (am out earlier, and DH will be back soon after. I may have a snowball - as in advocat and lemonade. I blame WaS - she talked about eggnog before.)

Georgiegirl256

whitewing wrote: »

Children's choirs make me blub.

Me too. I remember walking past one in Tesco last year, my bottom lip started going, and I had to try and keep it together as I walked past!

Is advocat that orangey/yellow drink? Don't think I've ever tried it?

Glad you're feeling abit better faerie

lexbubbles

tea_lover wrote: »

lex - did you make it to the post office and back yet??

Just got back TL.

Sorting office is in an industrial estate off the motorway (because that's super convenient for everyone). Super duper bleak walk.

Checked with customer service on the phone before I left if they take card - they said yes - got all the way there to find out they didn't :mad:

Of course there's no cash machine for bloody miles because it's in the middle of nowhere, but they let me pay it online using a different date to the one on the card and arrange a 'fake' redelivery and once I showed them the confirm screen they let me take my parcel.

As I was leaving I said "thanks for that lads, don't take this the wrong way but I hope I never see any of you ever again" which they thought was hilarious :rotfl:

They were all shocked/in awe that I walked 6.5 miles for a bloody parcel but it's not like everyone has a car, y'know? Some of us don't have a choice.

lexbubbles

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Is advocat that orangey/yellow drink? Don't think I've ever tried it?

The yellow one, yeah. Tastes a bit like custard (I mean it's called eggnog for a reason). I should really get some this year. Love me a snowball.

Also @ whoever asked: to my knowledge there's no special St. Andrew's greeting. It's not a big deal unlike St. Patrick's.