Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Of course, code! That way I could be posted, much cheaper than paying for petrol and air and train fares!

Well done on the phone call, whitewing! I have a huge fear of being criticised, it took me a long time to accept constructive criticism and it still feels like a momentary stab in the heart. In my case I hate feeling I have let people down and I always fear I am wrong anyway so criticism just confirms that all my worse thoughts about myself and all the things my family said were right. I have learnt to accept constructive criticism but it still slightly makes me feel like a failure even if it's put in the gentlest way possible.

codemonkey

I was thinking more that I'd like a WaS in my pocket (ok that just sounds wrong) to cheer me up on bad days. Admittedly you'd get squished when I sat down, especially as I've fallen off the diet wagon.

I agree with you about the criticism WaS. In a job I had years ago my inexperienced line manager decided to use the (insert correct word here as it's slipped my mind) the thingy you have to do every 6 months to discuss your work and how you're doing, anyway he used that do do a list of everything I was doing wrong. I was working really hard and I'd taken on a project well above my paygrade for the experience. Anyway, that just killed my spirits and I stopped working hard and spent my days on the Internets instead. I need lots of praise. Like a dog.

Speaking of which DA dog is spread out on the bed with his paws on me having a snooze. Every so often he growls in his sleep. DA dog likes to have his paws or a body part on one of us at all times. Sometimes he'll cuddle in with his paws over us like he's giving us a hug.

Birdie85

I need constant praise too. My manager's just been off sick for 2 weeks and I did a pretty decent job of keeping things going smoothly in her absence (especially since it was an unplanned absence so I wasn't prepared!); she's back now but has she, or anyone, said 'thanks for stepping up, you did a great job'... nope! So I feel all deflated and wondering why I bothered. Just one little comment, or lack thereof, can change a person's attitude completely!

I would like a little pocket WaS too. I'd keep her safe in my drawer with some tiny cookies and a mini blanket and take her out every so often to shout nice things at me!

codemonkey

I think we all need a pocket sized hbs to do some cheers for us!

codemonkey

Birdie85 wrote: »

I need constant praise too. My manager's just been off sick for 2 weeks and I did a pretty decent job of keeping things going smoothly in her absence (especially since it was an unplanned absence so I wasn't prepared!); she's back now but has she, or anyone, said 'thanks for stepping up, you did a great job'... nope! So I feel all deflated and wondering why I bothered. Just one little comment, or lack thereof, can change a person's attitude completely!

Uggh. So rude. I hate this.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Ok, I shall have to clone myself and live in everyone's pockets. I could pop my head out and shout something encouraging on a regular basis, just drop the occasional chocolate button in to keep me happy.

My Maine Coon cats were like DA dog! Neither of them were lap cats but they would always sleep with either their backs or one paw touching me. I would often wake up to find a random paw on my head or on my foot. Try to get either to cuddle on your lap though and they would run a mile.

faerielight

I spoke to the mental health team again and they have given their final decision that It will be a year and a half to 2 years til I can get to the trauma centre and that absolutely refuse to give me a cpn, and that is their final decision. I give up, there is no more fighting to do with them. They won't engage with any more fight, they will not help me and that is final. I don't to keep going, without any help, I honestly don't . I'm so devastated they just won't help .. All I can do is make a complaint, that's all I can do

onomatopoeia99

codemonkey wrote: »

(insert correct word here as it's slipped my mind)

"review" ?

We don't have those or anything similar, so that's a guess.

Waves_and_Smiles

We used to call them appraisals, code.

Hang in there Faerie. I know that you are so disappointed that a CPN seems impossible but there are other resources. You have your support group and you know that you will get a place in the trauma centre eventually. In the meantime there is the Samaritans, Rethink or Saneline who can all offer support. Do talk to your MIND advocate too about what they might be able to offer. There is also no reason at all that you cannot visit your GP if you need to talk.

There is always us, too! You can post here as much as you wish and we will always listen and you sound you like have a very good friend who understand a lot of what you have been through. I know this probably means very little now because you are so disappointed but try to see the small positives that you do have and cling onto those. Also, please don't see these decisions as rejections of you personally. It is likely budget cuts that are limiting resources that are available, not an attack on you as an individual. There is no reason for anyone to attack you personally and you have done nothing to deserve that.

codemonkey

That's the word WaS, although ono's would have done room. Honestly, I can feel my IQ dropping by the second.

Faerie - sorry about your struggle. As WaS said, it's down to budget cuts. There's just no money for MH anymore as there have been so many NHS cuts it's really impacted on the availability of services. Definitely not a personal thing at all.