Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Run up behind him and shout boo!

Flybaby

Code - feel for you - I am exactly the same - if you are hiding in the bedroom - time to tip out sock and underwear drawers and sort and reorganise...........this will keep you distracted, but also not be something, like reading, where workmen noise will wind you up too much - and I would be doing it with the curtains closed too just in case they were on ladders and peeked in and freaked me out!!!


WaS - remember you have already done something from them by being there and listening - remember how much it can help you just to talk and be listened to? So you are providing that same thing for them, just knowing that you are in their corner and there for them will help.


Welly - sleep every time I would say.


I thoroughly agree about sleep cycles, however as a raving insomniac, I can honestly say that short naps are a saving grace. I think everyone does have their own cycle in that too and for me it is about 25 minutes and If I close my eyes I set my alarm for that and then jump up the minute it goes off and after a few minutes of felling sluggish and like I just want to melt under a warm snuggly bed I find I am up and going again for 90 minutes or so. Unfortunately my nightime sleep cycle is also 20 -25 minutes.


My hubby was all grumpy and tired this morning as the new neighbours baby next door was screaming last night and he was whinging this morning. I was like - Imaging how she feels next door!!! ( she is a newly single mum with three kids that has been screwed over by her husband (who didn't like being fourth in line after the kids) and left her with a 10 month old, 2 year old and 10 year old and is still working and managing to hold it all together and I think she is amazing.)

Wellyboots6

I hate people in my house too Code, they wont be there long though so hang in there.

WaS, I agree your american friend could do with talking to their tutor, or even emailing them if they cant speak face to face. You are obviously a great friend to both people though for them to feel they can open up to you. Just think though, if you could fix things for them, in the long run it wouldnt help them cope with similar situations in the future so by not be able to fix it, but being able to support them to cope with it themselves you are actually being a great help.

I did sleep in the end. I will go to the group next week. Dreading it as I hate new things like that, but I am also hating being stuck in the house all day on my own.
I will take Escapette a walk later,might go to the butchers or something productive. Cant wait until I can take Little Sod out again, just darent at the moment incase he has a melt down and pulls my stitches.

Georgiegirl256

Thanks all! Am already stressed his morning, but I'm sure I'll be fine once we're on our way.

Ordered some more dollars, ordered them into the shop nearest the PO (kill 2 birds and all that), they had 2 members of staff, one would be ages with a customer (fair enough), one had gone out, and the other wasn't allowed to handle money and was useless. She asked if I was going for a wander round town and could I come back, and I said no, I was in a rush (I was, I was taking my Mam to her coffee morning), she said why where are you going, and I was like "on holiday!!" So I told her to forget it and I'd run up to the other shop as it'd be easier Then there was a hassle there....and then I lost my mobile phone, found it again now though phew!

Georgiegirl256

Sleep would always win out for me too!

Hand on in there code! Is it just a one day thing? I hate having to make polite conversation with them and making endless cups of teas....then it's a pita having to clear up afterwards. Hope there's not too much disruption.

You're bound to be tired Pyxis after all that travelling, rest up and take it easy

Waves_and_Smiles

Good luck at uni today, Flybaby!

Glad you got some sleep, Welly. In these early grab as much sleep as you can, when you can. Particularly as your body is still recovering too.

How frustrating, Georgie! At least it is done now and you can relax a bit hopefully. When does the holiday start?

Yes, I think that you are all right about my american friend. I know a lot people, myself included, choose a career in psychology because of what we have been through, I am sure that she wouldn't be the first student to say that she finds a paper deeply upsetting and hopefully they will allow her to study a different area instead. The annoying thing is that this subject wasn't listed on the course prospectus or she would never have signed up for it. I am sure her uni will have experienced it before, as an HIV therapist there were some subjects that I would refer onto other colleagues because I knew that I couldn't be objective enough to be beneficial, all therapists and would-be therapists still have their triggers. Now I have to convince her to say something which will be difficult because she has never discussed this with anyone other than me.

I wish I could clone another two of myself and put one of me up north with my teacher friend and another in America. I do worry about them both, they are lovely people and I just want to take their pain away.

whitewing

I am being a wimp.

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, why do you think you are being a wimp, whitewing? Bet you aren't!

whitewing

I made the phone call I was being wimpish about and it was fine. I am so pathetic to get so anxious and feel so inwardly hostile about it. I think I worry that I am about to be criticised and then I get angry. Why does potentially being criticised feel so painful to me that I would avoid it?

codemonkey

Georgie - it's a couple more days until this part is done. Then there's another bit, which I told this contractor he could do but he was really negative so I got someone else to do a quote and he was more enthusiastic and much cheaper so I'm going to hire him instead. I feel bad about that actually. When do you leave for holibops?

Whitewing, I'm guessing your upbringing involved a lot of criticism so when you think it will happen again it strikes a nerve. Either that or like me, you're a total people pleaser and hate people thinking bad stuff.

Who wants to invent the world's first WaS cloning machine. WaS, can we make you pocket sized?