House Guest staying longer

Feral_Moon

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

Well, who knows the future?
Not sure what you mean though. Just life events.

You coped well with the interrogation from the firing squad :rotfl:

Penguin_Biscuit

Feral_Moon wrote: »

You coped well with the interrogation from the firing squad :rotfl:

Well, I'm not setting out to defraud. I don't know much about state bureaucracy, despite being British.

FBaby

OP, you seem to be taking everything she tells you for gospel. You don't know her, how do you know she is not telling you a lot of porkies? Do you realise you are the perfect escape to whatever she is doing that might be either illegal or immoral or both?

It's nice that you should help someone in need, but you might want to consider that it isn't impossible that she is totally using you to suit her needs.

If I were you, I would only consider the arrangement as a commercial one and stay away from any personal involvement. Tell her you need to see her passport to ensure you are not keeping an illegal immigrant (which could lead you in trouble), and assuming that she really is Slovakian, then draw a lodger contract asap and tell her that she is x weeks to start paying you rent.

Don't make anything else your business if you want to avoid trouble.

Penguin_Biscuit

FBaby wrote: »

OP,
then draw a lodger contract asap and tell her that she is x weeks to start paying you rent.
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Thanks for the reply.
That was actually one of my original questions when posting - can a single parent be a lodger?
I was informed a single parent could only be a tenant.

I was told this was the case to avoid children being evicted or living in "inappropriate" circumstances.

FBaby

I've never heard of this, I thought the rules around being a tenant vs a lodger was dependent on whether they lived with you and had access to joint facilities or their own (or something around that line), nothing to do with being a single parent or not.

Still best would be to contact your local housing association and ask.

Jhoney_2

If ex ditched her, isn't stalking her etc, why did she and the baby move out of their original home?

Anyway, at least it got you thinking and asking questions perhaps long overdue.

No-one accused you of beating anyone. That's a little melodramatic - the concern was what might be said about you if this total stranger should turn out to be less 'vulnerable' than you were thinking.

Personally, I think you were/are happy to 'capitalise' on the situation for the companionship for as long as the opportunity presented itself, due to your own feelings of isolation. You were also trying to help but there was/is a conflict of interest that made you overlook some essential checks and balances and your decision making processing became somewhat skewered by them .

Living so remotely doesn't sound like your cup of tea, so selling and moving closer to somewhere more lively may be a great option for you.

I don't think being a single parent, excludes your guest from being a lodger. She is a lodger as you are a resident Landlord e.g the owner and also an occupier. If you stop living at the property, she automatically becomes a tenant with additional rights in law. Do check though as my knowledge is not related to any recent changes which may have come onto effect by the present Gov't.

whitewing

You may also want to look into the effect on your household insurance, either way.

summerholiday

Does she have a joint tenancy agreement in place with her ex-boyfriend for the flat she once shared with him? If so they are both liable for the rent. Did she work before she had the baby? What did she do and how long for?

Why are you now thinking about selling the property - what has changed? Are you regretting selling your flat and giving up your job. Money goes quickly.............

In this instance and at your age you should be asking the questions others are putting to you and thankful for all the sensible advice.

Are you serious in good conscience going to be able to give her notice to leave with a bundle and baby in her arms, months down the line ...............?

restless6

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

So what about single parents - unable to work?

Why does being a single parent mean she is unable to work?!!
Plenty do. If it is good enough for English single mothers to work then why not your foreign guest?

I have always worked as a single parent to 3, even since the baby years, It can be done !!
And you are so kind hearted, I bet you would even provide the childcare for her too!!

Catpuss66

I think you have completely misunderstood my post . I did use the word hypothetically
I work in the nursing profession so I do have some understanding . I was trying in my over the top way was trying to warn you to be vigilant, I was in no way accusing you of anything just giving you a scenario .

But....you do not know this girl or her ex boyfriend from Adam. Any information you have is from her, none of this information she has given you can you check. Questions to ask why has she not gone to her parents if she has been abondoned , homeless with no money, more the question why have they not come to get her? If our posts have at least made you think Slightly differently and protect yourself then ...... Job done.
Why if she is registered living at you cousins did she not stay there? I would not be happy if a relative of mine came to stay bought another person and her baby, that I did not know and left them here for me to support it just wouldn't happen..