House Guest staying longer

KRB2725

Being perfectly honest, if a cousin of mine bought a friend to stay and then left without them I would have asked a lot more questions before allowing them to stay.

You appear to be happy about the situation, but it is not 'normal' to take a stranger into your home, then feed them and provide for their baby.

I would be asking questions asap to make sure you are not harbouring an illegal immigrant (not saying you are, but you don't know that you're not). There are penalties for doing so and if it were the case, I doubt anyone would believe you knew so little about your house guest!

If she is able to stay, then Ask your cousin to help her claim the monies she may be entitled to. It is not good for her to be dependant on a stranger to provide food and nappies.

You have acted with kindness, but I also think you have been naive.

Housing_Benefit_Officer

emmatthews wrote: »

Being perfectly honest, if a cousin of mine bought a friend to stay and then left without them I would have asked a lot more questions before allowing them to stay.

You appear to be happy about the situation, but it is not 'normal' to take a stranger into your home, then feed them and provide for their baby.

I would be asking questions asap to make sure you are not harbouring an illegal immigrant (not saying you are, but you don't know that you're not). There are penalties for doing so and if it were the case, I doubt anyone would believe you knew so little about your house guest!

If she is able to stay, then Ask your cousin to help her claim the monies she may be entitled to. It is not good for her to be dependant on a stranger to provide food and nappies.

You have acted with kindness, but I also think you have been naive.

Illegal immigrant or exceptionally vulnerable adult, alone and isolated miles from anywhere with no transport in a foreign country and wholly dependant for all her needs from an older controlling man. If I had this case upon my desk I would pass the details onto Social Services to investigate.

Jhoney_2

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

I'm not sure what you mean.

Is the cost of the nappies worth having someone around the house to chat to and look after the place?

Yes.

Sorry, I didn't see this post.

It's not just nappies - that's why it's called family planning. Then there's potentially visa/immigration issues, rent,food, baby necessities, ex bf (father of child) issues, her lack of own money issues, her isolation issues, and all the others mentioned in this very thread issues.

If you read your own posts again, you gave a very different account of what she does around the house.

As I have said before but again in summary, if you are happy with the risks, it's not a problem.

JReacher1

i think I would like a 19 year old Ukrainian girl living with me (although the wife would probably complain).

Seriously though if the situation works for you then stick with it.

One thing I would say is if the two of you are only friends and nothing more she will be hard to explain if you do meet someone

Jhoney_2

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

No. I haven't checked her ID.
Is that something you do when a relative and their friend come to stay with you for a while?

Yes OP, if they arrived like this -

"My cousine recently came to visit me and brought a friend with her. This friend is a 19 year old girl with a young baby. She has recently split up from her boyfriend and has been staying with my cousine, in her flat.

They both stayed in my house for a few days. We got on ok. When my cousins left, asked if her friend could stay with me for a while, as there wasn't much room in her flat. I agreed, so my new house guest has been in my house for a few weeks now."

However, sinceit is unlikely to ever happen, let alone get to this stage, I cannot prove it.

Guest101

Housing_Benefit_Officer wrote: »

Illegal immigrant or exceptionally vulnerable adult, alone and isolated miles from anywhere with no transport in a foreign country and wholly dependant for all her needs from an older controlling man. If I had this case upon my desk I would pass the details onto Social Services to investigate.

Wow, that escalated quickly!

Housing_Benefit_Officer

Guest101 wrote: »

Wow, that escalated quickly!

An alternative scenario would be for the destitute Ukrainian/Slovakian whatever reconciles with her former boyfriend who then moves in as he has nowhere else to live.

Jhoney_2

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

I'm 37 - so I'd be glad if you thought I looked 35!
I do feel younger since I moved to the countryside though - seriously.

Maybe I should find out a bit more, before I start declaring things to the council etc.
Like people say, this could be a can of worms.
I'm not sure now is a good time to "rock the boat".
I have renovation work to do. I will probably speak to someone in confidence, CAB or solicitor.

Glad I posted here now. Wasn't expecting some of the risks mentioned.

You're right, my house is actually very isolated. But the good point is that it is extremely unlikely for anyone to know who is staying there, unless they the occupant wants it known.

My cousine could well be a genius!

Serious point here. Does ex bf know your cousin or their address? Your post suggests she visits frequently, so I would not be making assumptions as to what he knows re her whereabouts or even worse, what he may THINK he knows about your living situation.

NYM

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

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She did attend school here, she has spoken of that.
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Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

She speaks little English ........

If she attended school here I'm fairly certain she'd be able to converse in English.

DandelionPatrol

Housing_Benefit_Officer wrote: »

Illegal immigrant or exceptionally vulnerable adult, alone and isolated miles from anywhere with no transport in a foreign country and wholly dependant for all her needs from an older controlling man. If I had this case upon my desk I would pass the details onto Social Services to investigate.

Older, definitely. But controlling? You might suspect it, but then you might get hold of the wrong end of the stick if you tried to pick this relationship up by the controlling end ???