Children pleading for expensive things

ineed

It's not a great idea to overly spoil children, I've said it before on here but my family spoiled me far beyond what was normal and I basically had to learn quickly as an adult things I should have learned as a child.

I never had to do a thing as a child, not even clean my own room or cook something as a teen etc. Everything I wanted I got I didn't even have to nag just ask, from expensive gadgets and electronics and top brand clothes to choosing my own meals everyday even if others weren't having that, it was all cooked fresh too. I also had a huge monthly allowance on top of whatever I asked for which honestly was wasted most of the time as things I wanted had already been bought for me.

Behaviour can be unlearned but I wished I'd learnt it before I got into debt and realised I didn't have a maid to clean up after me in my own place .

barbarawright

It's pretty hard for an under-16 (or even sixth former) to get a job nowadays though. Do paper rounds even exist ? Certainly not round my way (as we found when we tried to get a newsagent to deliver to my workplace)

System

barbarawright wrote: »

It's pretty hard for an under-16 (or even sixth former) to get a job nowadays though. Do paper rounds even exist ? Certainly not round my way (as we found when we tried to get a newsagent to deliver to my workplace)

No shortage of paper rounds in my area. Two newsagents that deliver locally (possibly 3) and also two freebie papers are delivered weekly.

jrtfan

ineed wrote: »

It's not a great idea to overly spoil children, I've said it before on here but my family spoiled me far beyond what was normal and I basically had to learn quickly as an adult things I should have learned as a child.

I never had to do a thing as a child, not even clean my own room or cook something as a teen etc. Everything I wanted I got I didn't even have to nag just ask, from expensive gadgets and electronics and top brand clothes to choosing my own meals everyday even if others weren't having that, it was all cooked fresh too. I also had a huge monthly allowance on top of whatever I asked for which honestly was wasted most of the time as things I wanted had already been bought for me.

Behaviour can be unlearned but I wished I'd learnt it before I got into debt and realised I didn't have a maid to clean up after me in my own place .

A friend is doing the same with her daughter at the moment. Add to this private schooling and fighting all of her "battles" for her. She's doing it with absolutely the very best of intentions (she's a very kind person through and through, to everybody) but she isn't seeing the bigger picture. I suppose all of us are guilty of that to a greater or lesser degree. Another (mutual) friend said recently that she felt quite sorry for both of them because they'll have a rude awakening at some point in the future. I hope she's wrong, but from reading of your own experience it seems that she probably isn't.

carmina_piranha

We have 1 freebie paper delivered to the whole town once a week. My kids and my nephews have paper rounds. I've done them myself in the past too. In my town it seems that hardly anyone thinks it's worth getting off their bum for a couple of hours to earn a tenner or so, so there are always rounds going begging.

carmina_piranha

The woman with all the rules confused me. What would she have done if somebody had bought another doll as a present? Given one to a charity shop, I suppose.

barbarawright

carmina_piranha wrote: »

We have 1 freebie paper delivered to the whole town once a week. My kids and my nephews have paper rounds. I've done them myself in the past too. In my town it seems that hardly anyone thinks it's worth getting off their bum for a couple of hours to earn a tenner or so, so there are always rounds going begging.

Really? That amazes me. But I doubt it's the case everywhere - once every newsagent would have employed half a dozen kids and that isn't the case anymore with hard copy newspaper sales so low (and in London people tend to leave for work before any delivery could happen). And certainly it's not as easy for kids to get work in shops as it used to be since there's so much more competition

ineed

jrtfan wrote: »

A friend is doing the same with her daughter at the moment. Add to this private schooling and fighting all of her "battles" for her. She's doing it with absolutely the very best of intentions (she's a very kind person through and through, to everybody) but she isn't seeing the bigger picture. I suppose all of us are guilty of that to a greater or lesser degree. Another (mutual) friend said recently that she felt quite sorry for both of them because they'll have a rude awakening at some point in the future. I hope she's wrong, but from reading of your own experience it seems that she probably isn't.

I think she might be right unfortunately, I feel bad for the girl. I pretty much had the same upbringing and i would agree she is in for a very rude awakening.

sooty&sweep

Of course children will try it on to get their own way / the expensive gadget / cheap plastic tat toy !
Who wouldn't if you get your own way with enough whinging ?
I personally try very hard not to give in to whinging although I have to confess I'm not always sucessful. However I don't buy my children expensive gadgets or clothing and I do my best to make them realise how much things cost and when the money is spent it's gone so we should maximize what we get for it !
My son is becoming an expert at searching the internet for the best price !
The issue I have is people spending money they don't have to buy whatever to keep up with whoever and teaching their children that it's ok to live on the never never.
I remember going to a wedding with a friend many years ago who got envious / jealous stares from others we knew about what she was wearing. We laughed because yes her shoes were expensive but she'd borrowed the hat & the dress (expensive make) was from a car boot. Some people believe that the expensive brands make them appear more important but the people I know with money don't care !

Jen

carmina_piranha

barbarawright wrote: »

Really? That amazes me. But I doubt it's the case everywhere - once every newsagent would have employed half a dozen kids and that isn't the case anymore with hard copy newspaper sales so low (and in London people tend to leave for work before any delivery could happen). And certainly it's not as easy for kids to get work in shops as it used to be since there's so much more competition

I didn't mean rounds with a newsagent, I have no idea about that. I used to do 3 rounds before school every morning :rotfl:

It's the free paper that the boys all deliver, to every house in a round of 1-200 or so.