CSA and working nights.

davesbigsack

duchy wrote: »

Presumably you want to say you "kept" the kids - but the simple fact is they do now have two homes a weekend/holiday one with you and a weekday one with their mother -and for any legal and practical viewpoint they do live there as they spend more than half of each week sleeping there.

then the law needs to change then, just because they sleep there that means they live there??
that's wrong :mad:

duchy

Why is it wrong ?
It's the roof over their head at night. In its simplest form that is what a home is.

You can try and change the law - but even if you succeeded your kids would be parents themselves by the time it happened so you need to work with what the law currently is and that means providing the place they can and do sleep the majority of nights. You have the can....... you need to sort out the do. Realistically the only way I can see you could do that is find a partner who is prepared to take on two teens living with them full-time ....or find a job that works for a family lifestyle.

davesbigsack

duchy wrote: »

Why is it wrong ?
It's the roof over their head at night. In its simplest form that is what a home is.

because i take them to school, i make sure their dressed properly, i make sure they get home from school ok, i m here when their out playing, i take them to the park, i drop them off at their mates and make sure their ok.
its all well and good telling me to change job, i wish i could but part time work doesn't pay the mortgage.
or maybe i should just ditch the job and house and get a council house in a !!!! area and all my bills payed for me.
but then i will become one of them dole scroungers who we all despise, what a great role model!!!

duchy

Trouble is though with your current situation at any time your ex could insist that child benefit and child tax credit are hers and any debts in your name are your problem. If that happened would you still be able to pay the mortgage and feed , clothe etc the kids ?

For that reason alone you need to find a better solution. From a benefits viewpoint ( and this is the benefits board) you could be in hot water for claiming child tax credit and CB when the children aren't resident with you more than two nights a week.

Ames

Why do you need to work part time if you go days? Your kids are old enough to get themselves up and off to school if they have to leave after you do, and can manage a couple of hours after school on their own.

merlin68

davesbigsack wrote: »

because i take them to school, i make sure their dressed properly, i make sure they get home from school ok, i m here when their out playing, i take them to the park, i drop them off at their mates and make sure their ok.

its all well and good telling me to change job, i wish i could but part time work doesn't pay the mortgage.
or maybe i should just ditch the job and house and get a council house in a !!!! area and all my bills payed for me.
but then i will become one of them dole scroungers who we all despise, what a great role model!!!

How will you manage when you no longer get tax credits and child benefit.
Dont tell me you dress them as well as watch them playing outside.
Try ditching your job, you wont get dole money for doing it.
Why do they need taking to the park at 11 and 13?

Indie_Kid

Ia there no reason why they can't cycle to school? When I was at school, a lot of students did this.

merlin68

M daughters friend is disabled and she gets the bus to college which is an hours journey on her own. All of them on her life skills course do, in actual fact.
You don't want to end up with two kids that cant do anything for themselves.

swingaloo

Just taking it back to basics-


She has the kids more than you
You get the tax credits
You get the child benefit
You have joint debts


So why exactly do you think you should be claiming off her for child maintenance as child maintenance is for the upkeep of the children. It has nothing to do with your debts etc.


From everything you have posted your ex should be getting the tax credits, child benefit and claiming from you.


That apart- the set up you have at the moment will soon fall apart, another year or so and the kids will not want to be moved every night, they will want to be out with friends. Nor is it fair for the children to have to do this. However much you say they don't mind all the to-ing and fro-ing they will soon tire of it when it comes to meeting up with school friends in the evenings and trying to get homework done.


How do you cope with the school holidays as at the moment they are off school so who cares for them then if both you and your ex are working nights?

Spendless

davesbigsack wrote: »

there is no buses in that area at that time in the morning.
and do folks really think its ok for kids to walk 6-7 miles to school?
a 2 hour walk before school?
really?

There's no public transport from their Mum's house that would get them to school by their start time of 8.15am?