CSA and working nights.

davesbigsack

merlin68 wrote: »

She obviously has them more. When mine were at secondary school they didn't get home till 4 30 and you state that they go home 2 hrs before bed.
So 9-8 in the morning is far more than the 4 and a half hrs that you have them for.
Or am i missing something.
Are the debts in your name of joint?

she has them from about 8pm to just after 6 am
and most of that time of course their asleep.

northerntwo1

davesbigsack wrote: »

she has them from about 8pm to just after 6 am
and most of that time of course their asleep.

So you pick your children up at 6am and then drive them home for breakfast then to school.

Blackpool_Saver

Poor kids, what a merry go round

davesbigsack

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Poor kids, what a merry go round

id love to hear your alternative?

swingaloo

Seems to me that you would be far better keeping things as amicable as possible. You are both sharing the care, even if they are asleep she still has to be there, and as you are getting the benefits/credits for them then you are in a better position than your ex.


If you insist in claiming then you have to work out if the small amount you would be able to claim is worth the animosity it will cause.


I don't think you will achieve anything claiming but have a lot to lose by doing so.

pol-zeath

Quote:
Originally Posted by Blackpool_Saver
Poor kids, what a merry go round

id love to hear your alternative?

That you find some day work and try and give these poor children herded from pillar to post some quality family life,

DUTR

pol-zeath wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by Blackpool_Saver
Poor kids, what a merry go round

id love to hear your alternative?

That you find some day work and try and give these poor children herded from pillar to post some quality family life,

For some finding any kind of work is hard, at least he is not resolving to a life of total state handouts.

Blackpool_Saver

I'll tell you what the alternative is, you and your ex need to stop sparring and you need to get a day job OR NOT, but your decisions should be based around your children and not what suits you as adults.

duchy

If you let things deteriorate enough that you end up in court to settle this -the court won't give a stuff that you feel resentful over past joint debts or that your ex is now dating her boss. They will simply want to know who can offer the children the most stability.

Why are you collecting the children at 6am ? Surely they are old enough to travel to school by themselves so why don't they breakfast at their Mother's and then go to school ?

I suspect though the legal stance would be as they spend five nights a week under their mother's roof and only two under yours that it is your ex who is the one legally entitled to child benefit and child tax credit as it seems to be where the children sleep that appears to matter when it comes to child support .

Frankly it sounds a mess and the sensible thing to do would be to switch from nights to days - You might earn less but that's what tax credits are for . Many single parents earn less than their potential to make sure their kids don't suffer for it. You seem to want the kids to live with you but not compromise on how your life was before. It simply doesn't work that way.

In the current situation if you annoy your wife enough she could insist the kids are resident with her and stay with you two nights so tax credits and child benefit are payable to her -and that any debts in your name are your problem. Probably better to compromise than end up in that situation.

davesbigsack

pol-zeath wrote: »

Quote:
Originally Posted by Blackpool_Saver
Poor kids, what a merry go round

id love to hear your alternative?

That you find some day work and try and give these poor children herded from pillar to post some quality family life,

brilliant, now find me a day job that i can do and also do the school run!!!
yea should be easy

duchy wrote: »

Why are you collecting the children at 6am ? Surely they are old enough to travel to school by themselves so why don't they breakfast at their Mother's and then go to school ?

because their mum lives out of town so i pick them up on the way home from work.
i admit its not an ideal situation and oh my god!!!
as if finding a job is that simple, especially one that i can still be there for my kids lol.