Best way to deal with bad manners...

DaftyDuck

Money, from our long "engagement" on this forum, I would say that the way you see things (say, how someone was treating you) may well be diametrically opposed to how many others might see it. The way you might respond to that situation might be perceived by others as overly strong, say, while you might consider it innocuous.

Frequently, I feel you say something bordering on the racist/offensive/inconsiderate, yet I'm well aware you really don't see it like that.

Doesn't necessarily make you wrong, or me right. But, the way one reacts to these contrasting situations often needs flexibility, compromise, not dogmatic reactions.

Petra_70

jaylee3 wrote: »

I do get tired of this 'Welsh speak Welsh as soon as English come into the shop' myth. I live a hour from Wales and have relatives there (English who moved to Wales.) Me and hubby go there about 10 times a year. Sometimes for the day to the beach, sometimes for 2-3 hours to visit family.

I went on holiday every year from about 5 to mid teens with my family (late 1970s & 1980s.) And lots of daytrips too.

Let's face it, I have been to Wales a lot. (Clywd is lovely Pollypenny!)

I have never ever experienced people talking in English and then switching to Welsh when I walk in the shop or whatever. In fact, they are often speaking Welsh, and switch to English when they hear me!

Nobody in Wales is any more rude than anyone anywhere else. There are certain villages in certain counties (In England) where people get funny with you if you are not from that village!!! Same goes for Scotland, and many other places. Rude people are rude, and it's nothing to do with anyone's nationality! Most Welsh people I know - and have known are friendly and courteous, and our family who have moved there have been welcomed.

So this Welsh bashing is just so old now. And unfair.

Thank you Jaylee. That is appreciated. Particularly by my husband, as he is Welsh! I am English, but we both live in Wales and have done for 15 years. I also agree that it's not true that Welsh people will start talking Welsh when you start talking English. Well it has never happened to me anyway.

Is this one of those Urban Legends like the Kentucky Fried Mouse? :rotfl:

Re the OP, I agree that it's not very nice to interrupt someone's conversation, and if it were a perfect stranger, I would say bog off LOL, but if someone is saying something nasty, then I think they deserve to be called out on it.

cbrown372

DaftyDuck wrote: »

Money, from our long "engagement" on this forum, I would say that the way you see things (say, how someone was treating you) may well be diametrically opposed to how many others might see it. The way you might respond to that situation might be perceived by others as overly strong, say, while you might consider it innocuous.

Frequently, I feel you say something bordering on the racist/offensive/inconsiderate, yet I'm well aware you really don't see it like that.

Doesn't necessarily make you wrong, or me right. But, the way one reacts to these contrasting situations often needs flexibility, compromise, not dogmatic reactions.

And Good Manners