My stag do issue: advice please

paddy's_mum

gabriel1980 wrote: »

God I do love strip clubs!!

That's totally fine with me. Your choice, your wallet, your freedom.

Which is exactlywhat the OP should be getting from his [STRIKE]best man[/STRIKE] selfish friend.

persa

Consider sacking the best man. He clearly doesn't know you very well if he's making you feel this miserable.

I can't say I'm the biggest fan of strip clubs, but the point is, your stag do should be fun for you. This sounds like it's more about what's fun for the best man.

seven-day-weekend

I can only agree with everyone else. Try to reason with your best man, and if you don't think he will do what you want, cancel the whole stag do. My husband just went for a drink at the local with his best friend, and thoroughly enjoyed it.

Not the same thing, but when I left my last job, (it was my last job, I'm retired ), I actually took a day's leave on the last day and didn't tell any of my colleagues, because I didn't want the 'do' that they gave everyone who left, nor did I want a drunken lunchtime. I understand completely how you feel.

BarryBlue

I think that if the OP doesn't want the stag do that his best man is planning, he must be quite insistent that it isn't going to happen. It rather sounds as if he has made a very poor choice of best man.

For my first wedding I had 3 stag dos, one in my home city for friends, one in the city where I worked for colleagues, and another 4-day one in Blackpool where I was at a conference. The work one was an all-dayer and one of the participants, a mate of the best man, got it into his head that we should spend the afternoon hours while the pubs were shut to go off to the red light district. This was a step too far and we ended up in a private drinking club instead.

The bottom line is that a bit of mickey-taking is fine but subjecting the stag to something in which he has no interest or desire is a waste of time.

edwink

Just wanted to wish you all the very best for your wedding.


If I were you I would stand firm as others have said and have a chat with your Best Man. And if he does not want to go along with "YOUR" plans for "YOUR" stag night I would actually tell him where to go. Do your own thing with mates you can trust and don't go along with "HIS" plans for "YOUR" night out.


When is your actual wedding?? Have you time to change your Best Man if he totally does not agree with you plans for your night out?


Wish you all the best!! I feel sorry that your Best Man is spoiling things for you!! Nobody deserves that!!


xx

Tropez

I'd tell him two simple words, and the second one would be 'off'.

Personally, I have nothing against strip clubs - my wife and I go together sometimes, and strippers have accounted for a fair bit of my bonus cheques over the years - but if you don't want to go to one, that's your call. You want a quiet night, that's your call. If your best man doesn't get that, not much of a mate, is he?

dacouch

My advice is... Pear Juice.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/hangovers-could-be-prevented-by-drinking-pear-juice-before-alcohol-scientists-say-10435336.html

melanzana

Don't do it. You will be miserable, and everyone else will be having a ball.

If BM won't change it. Don't turn up. Gastro enteritis is very contagious...!

d123

persa wrote: »

Consider sacking the best man. He clearly doesn't know you very well if he's making you feel this miserable.

This was going to be my advice, take him to one side and remind him he is your best man, it is your event that he is supporting you at.

If he wants to do his own thing, or do anything against your wishes you should tell him you will sack him and get someone more capable of supporting you and doing what you want and not some idiotic night that you would hate.

LameWolf

It's your stag do, so it should be what you want to do. If the Best Man really won't see reason, fire him!

Mr LW and I didn't even have separate stag and hen parties, we went out for a meal with two other couples, and the six of us had a lovely evening that we could actually remember the next day!

I wish you and your bride-to-be a long and happy marriage.