My stag do issue: advice please

summerspring

I would just say it's been cancelled, then. If he really won't listen, tell him you're calling it off (the stag night I mean, not the wedding!)

Good on you for not wanting to drink yourself into oblivion, just because it's "what people do".

If you go along on Friday night you will probably end up around a group of drunken stags, possibly getting your drink spiked, as someone has said, and not enjoying it. I'm sorry your best man has put you in this position

Applecart

Very good advice here OP. I hope things turn out the way you wish if he is any kind of friend let alone your best man, he should be fully sympathetic to your concerns despite what the masses might class as a good stag night.

All the best x

Brighton_belle

I'm sorry your evening has been high jacked OP. My own DH didn't have a stag night and I know other men who didn't either. Stand strong on knowing yourself well.

owlet

You've got to stand up for yourself with this one. It's YOUR stag do, not your friends. Tell your best man that you won't go - you need to make him understand that neither you nor your health will enjoy it.

It's no fun at all being forced into a do that you will hate. I know I would hate that scene & I wouldn't go.

Janepig

amistupid wrote: »

Think positive. The worst thing that can happen is them stripping you naked and duct taping you to a lamp post. Anything less than that is a bonus.

The husband of a colleague was sporting a heavily bandaged arm at his wedding after he was clingfilmed naked to a lamppost on his stag do and his "friends " slashed him with a Stanley knife while cutting him free. You'd think he'd have known better, being one of our finest local constabulary but there you go :D

Jx

DCFC79

If your not comfortable going then you and your 3 friends do your own thing.

If he's a good friend to you then he should do what you want to do.

SmlSave

I hope your talk with your friend goes well OP. My hen do was a disaster due to a couple of idiots planning it, we no longer speak and six years down the line I still feel disappointed when the subject of hen/stag dos come up.

Stand firm and have the night you wish.

Buzzybee90

Your evening sounds great.

Don't let him overrule your evening, I'd rather cancel than have an evening like that.

pinkshoes

You sound similar to my best mate, so I organised her hen do as she trusted me. We went to a matinee of The Lion King, happy hour in a tasteful cocktail bar, then a nice meal. It is exactly what she wanted and she loved it.

just tell your best man that this is YOUR stag do, and you appreciate his ideas, but it is your idea of hell, so would prefer to stick to the original plans as otherwise you will be having an early night.

Some people just don't get it!

ripplyuk

It's all to do with the wording. As soon as you say "Stag" or "Hen Party", people get a preconceived idea of what should happen and it'll inevitably turn into the usual nonsense of being taped to a lamppost or girls running around wearing inflatables and L plates etc. Someone will always want to push it too far because they feel that is what a stag do is. I always think it's best to say you're not having a stag/hen do and then just arrange a 'normal' night out with friends.