Your partner doesn't drive, does it bother you?

LandyAndy

Lololololol

Use public transport?

Ok.

geerex

devilivus wrote: »

^^
Disgraceful to make fun of someone with mental health issues. Can't get much lower....

Oh, lighten up.
There's always someone who takes it all personally, isn't there?
I await yet another yellow card from the site admin because yet again someone can't take a joke...

pickledonionspaceraider

The way people talk to each other on here sometimes, makes me wonder how they fare in the real world.

What kind of social circles do people have, if every time someone else speaks, they are met with sarcasm and patronising remarks?

I think there are a lot of friendless folk who log in here, to take out their frustrations

persa

I don't drive. I don't want to. Frankly, if I started dating someone and he insured me on his car for a month with the aim of teaching me how to drive by the end of it, I'd dump him straight away.

Forcing someone to change to do something you want them to is bloody unattractive and controlling.

With that said, people who always accept lifts and/or let others travel to see them all the time have no self-awareness. I wouldn't offer petrol money as I have no idea how much it costs to travel a particular distance, but I would do something like regularly treat the other person to dinner to address the imbalance.

You can live in most big cities without having to drive, and given I hate the countryside, that works out well for me.

balletshoes

LandyAndy wrote: »

Lololololol

Use public transport?

Ok.

are you feeling alright Andy?

PeacefulSlumber

I met my husband 15 years ago and he has always riden motorbikes. He has a car license but is not a good driver and never ever drives our family car, he's not even on the insurance.

When we met it was sexy, exciting, adventurous that he was always leather clad and on a bike, fast forward 15 years and two kids later it is really very annoying that he still won't drive.

If I could do things differently I would insist he get behind the wheel sooner rather than later.

PeonySugar

persa wrote: »

I don't drive. I don't want to. Frankly, if I started dating someone and he insured me on his car for a month with the aim of teaching me how to drive by the end of it, I'd dump him straight away.

Forcing someone to change to do something you want them to is bloody unattractive and controlling.

With that said, people who always accept lifts and/or let others travel to see them all the time have no self-awareness. I wouldn't offer petrol money as I have no idea how much it costs to travel a particular distance, but I would do something like regularly treat the other person to dinner to address the imbalance.

You can live in most big cities without having to drive, and given I hate the countryside, that works out well for me.

I didn't bring up the idea of being insured for a month, he did. He finds it easier to learn with me as he knows me rather than someone he doesn't. Which is why I agreed to it along as he then books lessons straight away so he doesn't get out of the swing of driving therefore rendering me teaching him for a month pointless.

DS4215

I drive and the Mrs doesn't. She had lessons, but failed the test and didn't carry on. At times it is a pain, especially when she is criticizing my driving (too fast, too close, not fast enough, etc, etc) and there are occasions when I really do not to drive and have no choice.

On the rare occasions we do go out, I would like to have a drink sometimes, but I never can without spending a fortune on a taxi (probably £15 from the nearest town and lots more from the places we normally go to). My other main complaint is when I am expected to take her to a gig that isn't in the nearest venue. Having to drive 40+ miles each way doesn't exactly fire my enthusiasm when the same band are also playing 15-20 miles away - usually because she prefers the venue.

engineer_amy

DS4215 wrote: »

On the rare occasions we do go out, I would like to have a drink sometimes, but I never can without spending a fortune on a taxi (probably £15 from the nearest town and lots more from the places we normally go to). My other main complaint is when I am expected to take her to a gig that isn't in the nearest venue. Having to drive 40+ miles each way doesn't exactly fire my enthusiasm when the same band are also playing 15-20 miles away - usually because she prefers the venue.

I was in a similar situation, my partner had lost his licence before I met him through drink driving, so I always had to drive. Most of our friends were able to take it turn about to drive if they were going out as a couple, whereas I always had to be the sober one, or spend a fortune on taxis.

duchy

geerex wrote: »

Oh, lighten up.
There's always someone who takes it all personally, isn't there?
I await yet another yellow card from the site admin because yet again someone can't take a joke...

Whilst acknowledging the admin can be heavy handed with yellow cards and don't appear at times to be capable of taking posts in context but read them in isolation - if you keep getting them perhaps it isn't always someone else's fault and perhaps it's time to accept that sometimes your posts are crass and inappropriate.