sharing houses and selfish people

fimonkey

Ah Melancholly, don't take any of this personally, you posted your rant for all to see, and it was just that, a rant. However it so happened to be an interesting topic of discussion, hence the many and varied replies. .... No one here knows you so can't make any judgement, but we CAN make judgement on the situation you described, adding in a few assumtptions along the way, and otherwise brightening the dreary dull day a lot of us suffer in front of our desks.

Austin_Allegro

What I've found in flatshares is that the inconsiderate types who don't pull their weight or pay their fair share, always disguise this by making out it's the others who have the problem, are 'anal' or pennypinching.

The trouble is that there are three main types of flatsharers. On the one extreme you get the pennypinchers and rota obsessives. On the other extreme you get the 'laid back', 'hey, it's only a sausage' types who love living like slobs and 'doing their own thing' regardless of others. Somewhere in the middle are the normal decent people who are considerate of others and understand the 'share' part of 'flatshare'!

The problem is finding a flatshare made up of your sort of person! Thankfully I don't have to do this anymore - what a relief!

Melissa177

In my experience, the trouble begins when one of the housemates starts seeing someone and they stay over constantly or move in.

I remember when one of my friends moved her boyfriend in (without asking anyone), and they split the rent on her room and her bills. This has happened twice - I wouldn't have minded so much if the couples hadn't completely dominated the communal space.

Now I'm kinda on the other side of the fence - I spend a disproportionate amount of time at my boyfriend's flat. Fortunately, I get along very well with his housemate, and do my bit by cooking dinner, cleaning the flat, buying him beer.. Sh*t, I probably treat him better than my boyfriend!