Am i being unreasonable?

elliew92

I wanted to a last minute holiday in September for mine & my OH last holiday before we move out as i know it will be harder to have holidays etc.. and it is best to do all the things we want to do before we cant do it.
I have had holidays most years since i was a child and my OH hasn't.
We have been on holidays together the last 3 years 2 of which flying abroad with no problem.

My OH has anxiety when starting new jobs or "changes" in his life which i helped him over come.
Now when the holiday was brought up he told me i could look for one and then keep changing his mind of i don't like heights, i don't like flying, i cant do it.
I am confused as he has been ok any other year but i understand it is hard with his anxiety and have googled ways around it i.e.. getting anxiety tablets to help with flying and i have asked him to call his GP to speak about his anxiety with flying.

Is it unreasonable of me to go on holiday? wont go alone and i dont want to go without him or with my friends as they are more the historic type rather then beach holidays. I know he would enjoy it once the flight is over with like last year and he has agreed he would enjoy it but it is the flying he is struggling with.

I am sort of running out of options and have said if the GP can't give you tablets i will let it go, but it just saddens me at the fact i couldn't make the most of my "last holiday" last year despite the food poisoning. And i mentioned when we have our honeymoon how will he go abroad? or if one of his mates has a stag do abroad?

Sorry for the rant, just after some advice?

Rosemary7391

Is it the flying he doesn't like? Could you go somewhere in the UK or take the ferry/train to France? Holidays don't have to involve flying!

LisaLou1982

Dont have any personal experience with this as i love holidays, and will look for any excuse to get away, but i do have a friend who is petrified of flying. She has flown once or twice in the past and now wont do it again. It scares her too much.

Her and hubby compromise on going on UK breaks or on a ferry/cruise. That way, no flying is involved, but they can still go abroad if needed.

I have another friend who has been hypotised to try and overcome a fear of flying which has proved quite successful and now a couple of herbal tablets from holland and barrett work well before the flight to keep nerves in check.

elliew92

He said it is the fact he isn't control of driving or the height. I don't like heights myself and said just don't look out the window.

We have a trip to Paris for 3 days but i don't see it as a holiday i see it as a city break, as it is busy and not really "relaxing" as a beach holiday as such. I love going abroad and have learnt about the sounds etc of a plan it is weird being 35000 ft in the air but it is amazing advanced technology.

He isn't too keen on a ferry and says the size of them petrifies him. I have noted that several flying is safe several times and is quite rare, we are most likely to crash in our car on the way to the airport.

Lisalou1982 do you mind me asking what the herbal tablets are called please? It might be worth me looking into.

LilElvis

Some airports/airlines run courses where you can be on an aircraft on the ground to help get over your fear.

If he isn't ready then don't book it - unless you are willing to lose all your money when he wants to get off the plane when it's on the runway.

meritaten

which one of you had the 'food poisoning'? because if it was OH I can understand he doesn't want to risk it again.

elliew92

It was me who caught the food poisoning

enthusiasticsaver

Go on a cruise - they are brilliant and no flying involved.

theoretica

I don't think you are being unreasonable - I also don't think he is being unreasonable.

What might happen if you asked him to find a holiday venue and how to get there?

bylromarha

LilElvis wrote: »

Some airports/airlines run courses where you can be on an aircraft on the ground to help get over your fear.

This

My friend had a massive fear of flying. She went on a couple of these courses, and her job now requires flying all over the world.

missbiggles1

I haven't flown for over 40 years and have gone all over Europe by train. If you start your journey on Eurostar you don't even need to use a ferry - it's a fantastic way to go on holiday, even if you aren't afraid of flying.