Fed up with step-children

CrixuS_2

duchy wrote: »

Frankly the whole family dynamic sounds very immature.

They are adults in their thirties and are still playing Mum and Dad off against each other .....and Dad and Step Mum (we don't know about Mum) still feel like they are competing with Mum..

Twenty years of competing is enough - holding resentments from twenty years ago isn't healthy. Most kids in their thirties have their own lives and don't see their parents (even if together) as much as the parents would like. You sound jealous of the Mum - It isn't her fault the kids still love her - but they love their Dad too or they wouldn't still be in your lives.

"Well that's between you and your Mum" is a useful phrase ...or just change the subject when they start witching about her ..... It's only your problem if you allow it to be.

No not jealous at all. It is the other way around. I don't understand what you mean by it isn't her fault they still love her. Of course they love her but the point is they think nothing of falling out with her for themselves but not for their dad. I v'e never tried to replace their mum although I have had to step in and be mum many times over the years. I could start a whole new thread about that.


I don't really want to make this all about their mum. It's a lot of other things as well. As I said they are selfish and do things to suit themselves.