Fed up with step-children

CrixuS_2

tomtontom wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4022299

Seems to be an ongoing situation, albeit last time OP was equally scathing about her own children. Makes you wonder where the problem really lies ...

If you bothered to read the thread you would realise I was talking about them and yes it is an on going situation, hence I have had enough.


And why would you bother to look back?

CrixuS_2

Gigglepig wrote: »

Sorry OP but this sounds completely unreasonable to me. Refused to go to his wedding because you didn't get your way with the seating plan? Not saying it was nice of him to seat you this way, to me it sounds like you were not very graceful about it.

No not just that, fed up with being treated badly and them bending over backwards to appease their mum.

tomtontom

CrixuS wrote: »

If you bothered to read the thread you would realise I was talking about them and yes it is an on going situation, hence I have had enough.


And why would you bother to look back?

Your previous post refers to all your children, including the two you have with your husband - you do specify that.

Sorry OP, these things are rarely one sided. How do they feel about your relationship?

CrixuS_2

marisco wrote: »

I disagree. As a step parent the OP has put a hell of a lot of blood, sweat and tears in over the years to help raise these kids. Something they should appreciate and value not be using every given opportunity to throw that back into her and her partners faces.


Healthy for her to come on here to vent, release and seek advice from others who may have been through similar. It shows that she cares and wants to know how others have coped rather than just throwing in the towel when things are getting unbearable.

I can see you understand Marisco.


Yes I'm venting, visited one of them yesterday for granddaughter's birthday and couldn't wait to get home.

marisco_2

tomtontom wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4022299

Seems to be an ongoing situation, albeit last time OP was equally scathing about her own children. Makes you wonder where the problem really lies ...

I don't understand your confusion or why you seem so hell bent on discrediting the OP. A read through that thread shows it to be blatantly clear that she and her husband did their level best to raise all the kids well and instil good values in them. Natural that she was despairing of how they have turned out. Would you feel differently if your kids treated you as she was describing?

Gigglepig

CrixuS wrote: »

We only asked for one thing and that was to sit with our son, never been to a wedding before where we havn't sat with our family and the only reason he did it was because his brother wasn't talking to his mum and if she would get the hump if we were with ours and she wasn't with hers..

The way I read this: battle of wills between mum and stepmum. Son stuck between rock and a hard place and puts mums wishes before Stepmum's. Stepmum has a strop and refuses to come.

Surely it is not so strange that they put their mum before you - would it not be better not to force them to take sides?

jaylee3

Can't offer any additional advice OP, but I just wanted to say I feel sorry for you. I am so glad I don't have step kids. I have a few friends that have them, and they almost all have problems.

CrixuS_2

tomtontom wrote: »

Your previous post refers to all your children, including the two you have with your husband - you do specify that.

Sorry OP, these things are rarely one sided. How do they feel about your relationship?

I posted that years ago, our two have grown up now and are ok.
Our daughter is fed up with them as well and wants nothing to do with them anymore.


They expect me to treat them exactly the same as our own, which I have always done. they are in their 30's now and I have had years of it. They want to do exactly what they want when they want without consideration for our feelings. I am mum when the mood takes them but more importantly I hate how they treat their dad who has always stood by them when their mum hasn't. Selfish and arrogant is how I describe them.


We are people as well as parents and have feelings.

thorsoak

CrixuS wrote: »

I posted that years ago, our two have grown up now and are ok.
Our daughter is fed up with them as well and wants nothing to do with them anymore.


They expect me to treat them exactly the same as our own, which I have always done. they are in their 30's now and I have had years of it. They want to do exactly what they want when they want without consideration for our feelings. I am mum when the mood takes them but more importantly I hate how they treat their dad who has always stood by them when their mum hasn't. Selfish and arrogant is how I describe them.


We are people as well as parents and have feelings.

They are adults - so tell them exactly what you have told us!

CrixuS_2

Gigglepig wrote: »

The way I read this: battle of wills between mum and stepmum. Son stuck between rock and a hard place and puts mums wishes before Stepmum's. Stepmum has a strop and refuses to come.

Surely it is not so strange that they put their mum before you - would it not be better not to force them to take sides?

Why should their mum be put before their dad?


We wanted to sit with our son. That is not taking sides, that is doing the right thing.


She was already sitting with the grandchildren and he wasn't so the least he could of done was put his father with his own son.


I also find it strange that you think penalising us because his mum and brother were not talking to be acceptable.