Separation anxiety from the deposit!

Pixie5740

missbiggles1 wrote: »

The crux of the matter seems to me to be - what has he actually been doing with the money you thought he was saving ?

In one of the OP's other threads it sounds as though he was paying off a loan.

KRB2725

If you are going to look at other posts to form opinions, then it may be best to look at all previous posts rather than just some of them.

I'm guessing that some of this thread may be quite an upsetting read for the OP.

moneyistooshorttomention

Ah...read further back and on a totally different thread - and the pregnancy didn't work out. Apologies to OP for that.

ognum

emmatthews wrote: »

If you are going to look at other posts to form opinions, then it may be best to look at all previous posts rather than just some of them.

I'm guessing that some of this thread may be quite an upsetting read for the OP.

You are right these could be upsetting so hope the OP can read without too much hurt.

I appear to have annoyed another poster on another thread yesterday because I back read some of her previous posts, sadly this happens on public forums when readers feel like there is more to a post than is written.

OP I too would be a bit annoyed but you appear very committed to your partner so I guess you have to move forward. You are allows to be angry with him and your best better is to sit down and talk it through.

DRP

Need more info about boyfriend and his financial situation/plan.

But - if the agreement was made that he'd save for a year and that hasn't happened, then an adult conversation needs to happen sooner rather than later

ognum

DRP wrote: »

Need more info about boyfriend and his financial situation/plan.

But - if the agreement was made that he'd save for a year and that hasn't happened, then an adult conversation needs to happen sooner rather than later

We clearly don't know what the arrangement has been between the couple for the past year, maybe he has paid for them both to go out, go on holidays, paid bits etc etc while she has saved.

As usual, not enough info.

Pixie5740

Then again this could all be FTB nerves. It happens to the best of us.

duchy

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Ah...read further back and on a totally different thread - and the pregnancy didn't work out. Apologies to OP for that.

I guess you didn't read my earlier post in this thread either then -There was quite a big hint there !

moneyistooshorttomention

duchy wrote: »

I guess you didn't read my earlier post in this thread either then -There was quite a big hint there !

Just had a re-read and I cant spot any hints there....

fierystormcloud

Hmmmm .... ot getting a good feeling about this. I would not be so much concerned if my partner had no or little money, as I would be that he had not saved a BEAN towards the deposit, when he promised. He is obviously letting YOU put all the money in OP. I do wonder why.

I used to know a man - a number of years ago - who used to purposely target women who had a house with equity in it, and he would get with them, and make £10-20K each time on the house. As houses got more expensive, he would make more. He had nothing, except an appalling credit record and a criminal record for fraud and theft, and everything was in the woman's name, every time; debts, loans, finance etc... but he made sure HE was on the deeds of the house.

Made a killing from it he did. Doesn't do it anymore, as houses make very little these days, but I do hope the OP's partner is not like this. I am getting bad vibes though, especially as he is contributing ZERO.