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Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

Hey Pyxis. I'm feeling very proud of myself. Someone senior tried to pass the blame onto me for something at work and I stood up for myself and didn't allow it. Go me.

I have also lost another 3lbs as of yesterday (we'll ignore the 2lbs that I gained the week before that) and the jeans that I am wearing today which are supposed to be superskinny are no longer superskinny. They're not even skinny! They're actually a bit baggy :j

How are you?

Yey! As you say, Go Code! :T

codemonkey

It wasn't a big thing but I had a feeling it could come back to bite me on the bum. Part of me thought to just let it go but then I thought 'no, I'm bleeding well not going to take the blame for this' because the person in question juat tries to steamroller everyone so I just turned it back on her advising that I'd given her the options and if she chose the wrong one it wasn't my fault. Boom! :T

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

It wasn't a big thing but I had a feeling it could come back to bite me on the bum. Part of me thought to just let it go but then I thought 'no, I'm bleeding well not going to take the blame for this' because the person in question juat tries to steamroller everyone so I just turned it back on her advising that I'd given her the options and if she chose the wrong one it wasn't my fault. Boom! :T

Quite right, too!

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

I think a pet would be a very good idea. You probably need to consider your mum's lifestyle when deciding on a dog or cat. If your mum goes out and about to a lot of places you can't take a dog then best to get a cat. Having said that, there's a very social aspect to being a dog owner as you meet other dog walkers and other dogs. I know loads of people in the area now despite spending very little time there.

As for bathing, it depends on the dog. DA dog is only bathed 3 or 4 times a year when he goes for his groom (long haired dog). We only give him a bath at home when he's rolled in something nasty. He has been bathed in the bath, in the shower and with buckets of warm water or a watering can outside. Some dogs like the bath. Dogs do need brushing though. DA dog really enjoys being brushed and I like doing it as its a good bonding experience.

I do like cats a lot but definitely more of a dog person.

I'm glad everyone thinks it's a good idea! Unfortunately , it looks likes it's a no go. Told my Mam about this place and the words that made her ears !!!!! up were 'tea room'! She said that she's wary of animals and also as she'd be worried about if she had to go in anywhere. I can understand her worries.

I was buying some cat food earlier and said something again, and she said "you won't persuade me you know!" So I said we'd go somewhere else tomorrow instead as there was no point going there now, and she was like "but it's got a tea room!" :rotfl:

Well done code on standing up for what is right! :T. If people don't stand up to these folk who try and blame others for their mistakes, they'll just carry on doing it. Well done on the weight loss too!

Georgiegirl256

geminilady wrote: »

Calley Do you enjoy walking?how do you motivate yourself? I am out of work and really should exercise but the gym is my worst nightmare and can't see the point of walking just for the sake of it.

From my point of view, I don't really enjoy walking just for the sake of it like say round the block for instance, but if there's a purpose behind it, then I quite enjoy it. Like going hill walking/mountain climbing say, the goal is the top, and I always leave my sarnies and tea until the top!

I like walking by the coast, as I love the sea air and going onto the beach.

But just going out walking (even though I should as it's great exercise) just bores me.

Solarjunkie

In reply to several people, what about a part time dog to give reason for exercise? I am thinking of in particular cinnamon.org.uk who pair up people who would like a dog but not full time with people who are elderly or ill and can't take their dogs out. Win win situation, and a good way to spend some time with a dog before committing yourself full time.
There's also borrowadog and it seems most vets have notice boards asking for dogwalkers, or just for someone to go in at lunchtime and let the dog out into the garden and throw a ball for a few minutes. Like I said, win win!

Pyxis

Georgie, as I said before, drip-feed! She needs time to let the idea sink in!

Go to the tea shop!
Why not? It's a trip out together! And while you're there, you might as well have a peek at some animals, mightn't you?

Georgiegirl256

Pyxis wrote: »

Georgie, as I said before, drip-feed! She needs time to let the idea sink in!

Go to the tea shop!
Why not? It's a trip out together! And while you're there, you might as well have a peek at some animals, mightn't you?

Got it Pyx! I am little by little! Yeah, we're still going. Like you say, it's a trip out and we'll definetly be looking at the animals....I can never resist!

Unfortunately the charity shop doesn't take clothes (I've just sorted LOADS out too), but they're after bric-à-brac and other stuff, so I'm going to have a sort out....and no doubt will come back with something too!

SJ, that sounds like such a beautiful charity! So heartwarming! I'll keep that in mind, thank you.

Pyxis

The internet problem I had yesterday appeared to happen again just now, in that the IP suddenly stopped responding. It came back after about 20minutes, though.

Just in case it's an ongoing problem, I just thought I'd let you know in case I 'disappear'. If I need a new router or something, it might take a couple of days or so to arrive.

Pyxis

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