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Faith177

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

*hugs* It's totally understandable that the first person you thought of phoning was your Mum. I was always taking photos and emailing them to my Dad, of all different kinds of things, scenery, food, funny things, and I quite often find myself thinking how my Dad would have loved to see that photo that I'd just taken. He had the most amazing sense of humour, and I miss our jokes, the laughter and being able to talk to someone who understood me totally.

I'm not doing too bad. Good days and bad days. I cried myself to sleep the other night because I was going over and over his last day/week in my head, and the feeling that I'd totally let him down was overwhelming....so, I can totally relate to the feelings of guilt, I can't seem to shake them either.

You're not letting your Mum down if you go back on medication. By the sounds of it, she was a lovely caring lady, and she'd totally understand.

You've joined a great thread here. They're a fab bunch, and someone is always on hand to offer advice or just to listen.

codemonkey wrote: »

Hi Faith. Going back on medication wouldn't be letting your mum down at all, anymore than taking medication for blood pressure or thyroid problems or any other malfinction. If you need it, you need it. Hugs for losing your mum though. My parents are in their 70s and 80s and I know my time with them is limited.

Thank you both

I know what you mean about the sending things we use to send a lot of e-mails to each other when at work just things from websites that we thought the other would like there were 2 today I really wanted to send her but it's mainly the phone calls i miss atm I was constantly on the phone to her several times a night sometimes with stupid things the cats had done or something on tv that made me laugh

I just feel like it's never going to get easier how can it I was lucky when I lost my dad that I was so young so I missed him but not like this

Think I'm going to try and get an appointment with my doctor and go from there. I'm going away to a festival in 2 weeks with my OH and a few friends so I'm hoping that'll get me feeling a bit better

disabled_NCIS_fan

Welcome Faith! I'm so sorry about your mum. And I think she would be proud of you for realising you need medication and are sorting it out. It's not weakness but a strength. I will keep you in my thoughts.

mellymoo74

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repeatedly told to communicate via email/writing advised i have had a TIA. send an email requesting a meeting head styarted again

Hoipolloi

Faith, I'm Sorry to read of the sudden death of your beloved Mum. My thoughts are with you.

Pyxis

Faith, remember that you are grieving, and the horrid feelings of devastating loss that are part of grieving are not the same as your prior problems.

Some GPs are reluctant to prescribe meds for someone who is grieving, because it is felt that the stages of grief have to be worked through, else they won't resolve.

The feeling of loss is overwhelming, though, and of course, sometimes it can trigger other problems, so if you feel it has, do talk to your GP.
It's nice that Georgie's on this thread, as her situation is so like yours, you'll be good for each other.

And remember, that even if your family are far away, we are here for you, so do post at any time.

We'll have to rebuild the duvet fort, folks! And we've run out of biscuits!

What are your biscuit favourites, Faith?

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

We'll have to rebuild the duvet fort, folks! And we've run out of biscuits!

What are your biscuit favourites,

Jaffa cakes please.

My sleep is really messed. I am happy but I know that if I don't get my sleep sort out properly in the next few days I am going to go manic.

My eating has gone to pot. And I have no energy and can't be arsed.

Yours

Calley

Wellyboots6

Midwife appointment was awful. My usual midwife was off and the lady who was covering didn't stop lecturing me long enough to give me chance to mention any of my concerns. She obviously hadn't read my notes either as the gp was supposed to be asking the midwife to do a referral to the specialist mental health midwife, and she didn't once ask how I was feeling.
And now I've just taken it out on OH by moaning at him for making a mess when he has been at work all day.
Hiding in the bath

Georgiegirl256

*hugs* Katy x x Sounds like you've had a stressful day. Hope you've managed to have a nice relaxing bath.

*throws some jammy dodgers into the fort*

Pyxis

Oh dear Katy, what a shame!

Make sure you tell all of this to your usual midwife so that she can ensure your notes are read in future!

And do explain it to your OH as well....I'm sure he'll understand.

Hiding in the bath is not only impossible (:D) it's very uncomfortable!

Wellyboots6

OH is being really nice about it which is making me feel really guilty and even worse!
And then I read other peoples posts and feel bad for being so rubbish when other people are going through a lot worse.
We have a huuuuge bath, so it is quite easy to hide in!