Here we can all be heard for a little while

dragonette

*waves* welcome to the thread justwe03

I'm awake due to codeine issues, hope you get some sleep soon

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello Justwe! Welcome to our thread! You do have a lot to deal with, I also suffer with depression and Dissociative Disorder, MPD in my case (you will always notice me say MPD rather than DID because my others don't like the latter expression, it sounds too clinical for them whereas 'multiple personality' includes them). I am right with you on the Tramadol dependency too. Well done for juggling everything you face while bringing up your lovely daughters and a kitty, you must feel exhausted sometimes. You are always welcome to post here anytime you wish and I can't wait to get to know you better, there is usually someone around within an hour or two for a chat.

Hugs dragonette. Codeine issues are awful. I do hope that you managed to get some sleep.

As for me, well...I am doing a good impression of a 5 year old on Christmas morning right now? I went to bed at midnight, checked it wasn't morning yet at 2am, then checked again at 4am and then lay there wide awake thinking of beach and sea for an hour and got up! I'm far too excited to sleep anymore. It's holiday day!

dragonette

Aww WaS, i hope you got some rest! I've tested but not slept, balancing the two is a pain with chronic fatigue.

Holidays! It'll be fab

Hmm - I'd like to ask a small question please, if you would all indulge me just a little bit. When I post about personal issues, would it be preferred if I penguin my polyamory? My bf and his wife are a wonderful part of my life, but I understand that it may not be comfortable for some people to read unexpectedly

Waves_and_Smiles

Good morning, dragonette! I had about 4 hours in all I think. I get over-excited! WaSp is extremely lucky that I am not poking him to wake up right now. I might need to be laid down with a bottle of milk for an afternoon nap later!

I hope you can manage to get some rest later on, can you have a day of just watching silly films or listening to quiet music with naps when needed?

Pyxis

The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.
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!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

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dragonette

I can have a pretty restful day, but I can't risk sleeping. I'm due to get a call back from social work about help for esa appeal. Eek!!

Grins, I love the image of being settled down for a nap. That definitely appeals to me to, we could coordinate the times to sleep

Pyxis

I fell asleep, so missed the grand opening of the thread!

codemonkey wrote: »

Yay. Shiny new thread.

And in other news, I seem to have broken through my block and am writing again. I am writing a big pile of mills & boon type pap, based on a dream I had, but at least it's something.

Yey! Go Codemonkey!

Justwe03 wrote: »

Hello all,

Sorry to intrude at this ungodly hour... But wondered if I might join you for a while?

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Hello, Justwe03! :hello:

dragonette wrote: »

Hmm - I'd like to ask a small question please, if you would all indulge me just a little bit. When I post about personal issues, would it be preferred if I penguin my polyamory? My bf and his wife are a wonderful part of my life, but I understand that it may not be comfortable for some people to read unexpectedly

I don't mind! You wouldn't have to penguin it for me!
Don't know about others, though.
But I think we're all pretty tolerant of anything, though, if it's between consenting adults.

Waves_and_Smiles

Good luck with ESA help, dragonette. I have no problem with you posting openly about your happy relationships at all! I am glad that you have them.

Good morning, Pyxis! It's holiday day! Just in case you didn't notice yet...

mellymoo74

Nor me Dragonette.

Yay for WaS holiday day!

Morning all. Moving difficult just getting ready for work.

jobbingmusician

Another vote here for being able to post about polyamory (new word to me!) And how nice that we now have TWO new people on the thread! Welcome JustWe :hello:

HOLIDAY DAY! I have meetings all morning, so this will be my only chance to wish WaS and WaSP a happy journey. The view from my window is beautiful, so I can only hope that the weather stays fair for the week - I am soooo excited! And I feel SUCH gratitude to the lovely person who thought of this holiday - what a really great friend!