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Wellyboots6

MU, I am the opposite, I can't open up to female doctors for some reason. There is one at my surgery who is almost OK, but she still intimidates me. I prefer to see a particular male doctor and he is brilliant. He knows less about mental health than the female doctor but he always puts a lot of effort in to helping me out and finding out what needs to be done.
At my surgery, they phone you with your smear results rather than write. Could you maybe ask them to do that with you?

Pyxis

MessedUp, years ago when I knew I'd be moving, I asked my long-standing GP if I could stay on his list. Apparently, if the doctor okays it,you could. He did okay it and I stayed with him. It was a longish bus ride away. The doctor had to okay it, because of any need for home visits...if a patient lives too far away, it could be a pain for them.

These days, home visits are hardly ever done anyway!

The rules might have changed, and it might be more rigid now, but if you'd really rather stay with your your old GP, it may be worth asking them.


So you've moved! How exciting! So not plagued by your odd house-mate any more! :T




DT is not for the faint-hearted. In fact it can be vicious. I would not advise anyone of a sensitive nature to venture into there.
There are several threads in the Arms that are ok, with some lovely people, but even there, I am careful how I phrase things, as even there, there are several posters who seem to delight in jumping on people.
Unlike this lovely thread, where you can really open up and be honest, and know that you won't be judged, but completely accepted.
There have been two incidents in the past when I have been upset on other threads. The best thing is to back right off and not try to to defend yourself or to explain, just to drop it completely. Then come here, dive in the fort, and we'll make you better!
People that just delight in goading others and twisting everything can't be reasoned with, I'm afraid, and use 'frank discussion' as a synonym for having a go at someone that doesn't agree with them.

Indie_Kid

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Thank you for the reply WaS.

I technically need to see one of my GP's before i sign up because i know hen you transfer there can be a delay in them getting your notes (thats happened before and they wouldn't give me my meds as i had no proof of them!) so i could do with a list of my prescriptions.

Do you have the white repeat slip thing? I did have to see the nurse (I was due a check anyway) before I could get any more inhalers; but that was enough proof of the meds I was on. If you don't have it, speak to your old surgery and ask for a print out. Or if you have them, take the boxes that your medication came in.

One GP told me, when i told him i was suicidal and was going to act on it, that i needed to just take some sleeping pills and go back to work! Another when i was trying to lose weight said swimming wouldn't help and i just needed to walk up some hills! I think also it because part of me still feels angry that my MH problems were missed at a younger age, and cos i never got treatment then it got so much worse

Some people do need to think before they speak! I'm lucky. I've seen all the doctors at my surgery (not by choice; I just have) and I've not had a problem with any of them. I used to see the student doctors at my old surgery quite often. One was fine. The other claimed I was just imagining being in all the pain I was in.:mad:

Pyxis

Calley, I'm really proud of you! Really impressed by you going out for the run when you felt so carp!

You're brilliant! :T






Ps. People, I have a big AmDram workshop today and tomorrow, all day both days, plus am out this evening at a social with them, so I may not get a chance to post until tomorrow evening. Or late tonight at the earliest.

calleyw

Pyxis wrote: »

Calley, I'm really proud of you! Really impressed by you going out for the run when you felt so carp!

You're brilliant! :T

Ps. People, I have a big AmDram workshop today and tomorrow, all day both days, plus am out this evening at a social with them, so I may not get a chance to post until tomorrow evening. Or late tonight at the earliest.

Thank you. I wish I was.

My ex has so messed me up. Because he is messed up, I don't think that I will ever be able to have another relationship again. He is the cause of pretty much all my issues for the last 3 and bit years.

I seem to attract wasters, messers, blokes with partners and men that only want one thing.

I am nice caring, loving, attentive person. Which is why I don't get why I get treated so badly. And time to give up that.

I am a lot stronger now. There is no one could can convince me I am nothing but a big fat heifer at the moment. Who is going to be lonely and on her own for the rest of her life. Who hell would want me.

I am just so stupid to fallen for someone who just a big mummys boy. Can't cope with life and keeps running away all the time. The mans 50 yrs and is talking about selling up and moving in with his mother!!!!

I been awake since 4.30 this morning. So going to be a long and boring day me thinks. Might just stay in bed. I have one errand to run if I can be really arsed and that is time critical.

Have a while to think about it so shall see how I feel in a while about it.

Pyxis good luck with the Am Dram stuff.

Yours

Calley

codemonkey

Calley - can I share a story about one of my exes when I was in my late 20s with you? I met this guy and I fell head over heels with him really fast. At first he was amazing but then he became inconsistent and nasty and borderline abusive at times. He made me feel like I wasn't good enough for him and nobody else would want me and I never really knew where I stood with him. I didn't even know if he loved me - he didn't but he gave me just enough to believe that he would so I didn't leave. There was always a reason he couldn't commit to me. Then he broke up with me and broke my heart. Just as I started to get over him and move on, he popped up again just long enough to break my heart again. He kept doing this, bruising me over and over and eventually I realised I needed to be somewhere he couldn't reach me to recover. I changed my number and I went to Australia and I realised that through the entire course of our 'relationship' , I'd only really felt good at the beginning a day the rest of the time I felt miserable. When I came back I was so much stronger but he kept trying to reel me back in. I realised he actually got off on breaking women. Before him I'd been a feisty take no prisoners kind of girl and he enjoyed the challenge of dismantling me. I realised he was pathetic and egotistical and that we hadn't had this 'great once in a lifetime love' that he'd promised me. Once I realised that he lost his power over me. Does any of this sound familiar?

As for the dating sites, I met DH on match. I dated a lot of guys on there and had relationships with 3 or 4. Yes there were rejections, yes there were terrible dates, yes on one occasion I waited til my date went to the loo and ran off much to the amusement of the barman. But then I got a message from a guy and he seemed sweet so I messaged him back and we emailed for a while before I decided I'd just be a spinster and didn't answer him for ages. He sent a sweet email saying he understood if I didn't want to talk to him but gave me his number just in case, and I decided to take a chance and text him. And then we met up and he was sweet and lovely and brought me a card and a birthday cake as we met in person a few days after my birthday so he got a second date and we've been together for 6.5 years and married for 4 and he's still a sweet and lovely guy when he'said not annoying me.:rotfl:

All but 2 of my friends met their SOs on dating sites (1 married her husband straight out of uni and 1 married my best male friend and won't let me talk to him anymore), and they all used subscription sites because there are less likely to be time wasters than the free sites.

Why am I writing you a novel about my boring experiences? Because I believe you are a sweet, lovely, wonderful person who has been ground down by the wrong guy because she wants love. You feel like you're defeated by it, but you're not. You have Team WaS backing you up and we won't give up on you. One day you will find that special guy who deserves to be with you but you need to build your strength so you're no longer attracted to the ones who only want to make you small before that can happen.

Phew. Did any of that make sense?

calleyw

Code,

Yes it does. As I said I am a bit stronger mentally than a few months ago but no where near 100%.

I think at the moment I am over whelmed with so much to do in the house and garden, as I have been so lazy about it all. I think I have worn myself out physically with the work. As well as mentally. chuck in the lack of sleep over the past few weeks. And I have messed my back up with the digging I have done. Not sure how I even managing to function on a basic level.

I did binge today but that was left over from last night. Half a sharing bag of doritos and 3 flakes yes 3 flakes!!!!!! Did you know flakes are not suppose to melt in the microwave. 60 seconds in the microwave see here. There's your usesless fact of the day but you never know it might be on a pub quiz one day.:rotfl:

I feel a bit like this. Its from the deacon blues song chocolate girl

And that she knows she's the chocolate girl
Cause she's broken up and swallowed
And wrapped in bits of silver

I feel my ex has messed me up so much that no one will want me as I have no idea how I suppose to behave in a relationship.

I could tell you what a he has done. But I won't. I don't condone his behavior I know that he has been messed up by his ex. And there is a nice person in there somewhere when he is not being a total !!!!!!. But never been fair to me from the start.

He made me laugh as he said I don't complain about you being on dating websites. Oh really, from what I can tell you are not my boyfriend and we are not in a exclusive committed relationship!!!!! and when I was seeing him I was not chatting to anyone on there :eek:

On and something really boring and practical got to get the Car MOT'd next week. just hope it does not fail big time. Not that it matters at the moment as I don't really need it not working at the moment. But just don't need the hassle.

Yours

Calley

codemonkey

I am having a panic over something so very stupid. I was doing a Google image search earlier for a pair of shoes I liked (Sophia Webster shoes but I couldn't remember the Webster part) and safe search wasn't on and on a later page an image came up which was something I didn't want to see and so, so illegal for very good reasons. It made me feel sick and I instantly scrolled back up and closed the search but I am now panicking that the police will come and arrest me immediately for seeing it, even though I didn't open it and wasn't searching for it.

mellymoo74

Code. They won't, and if they did your search history will show you ONCE accidently came across something horrible you didn't click on.
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codemonkey

I keep telling myself that, but still jump when I hear a car door outside. I'd be a really, really terrible criminal :rotfl: