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  • Flybaby
    Flybaby Posts: 570 Forumite
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    Also not too many people about at 4/5am! Agree totally with trying to focus on the here and now (personally finding that a bit hard at the mo as supposed to be deciding upon a course of action for my future).
    I think I am going to take the "put the bad in the box" thing to a whole new level tomorrow and every time I remember something bad or upsetting - write it down and put it in the box. I used to be good at compartmentalising in my head but lately it seems to have escaped me, so I might get physical and literal tomorrow.
  • Flybaby
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    Hmmm..not sure where you are in the world but my weather also says it will dry up soon and stay that way for much of the week, although Brrr.....chilly! I guess summer is over then. So getting the duvets back out tonight!
  • Flybaby
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    **clears a space on the sofa for sidefx and passes the biscuit tin**
    Nice to know I am not the only one who doesn't have an off switch.
  • calleyw
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    Flybaby wrote: »
    Also not too many people about at 4/5am! Agree totally with trying to focus on the here and now (personally finding that a bit hard at the mo as supposed to be deciding upon a course of action for my future).
    I think I am going to take the "put the bad in the box" thing to a whole new level tomorrow and every time I remember something bad or upsetting - write it down and put it in the box. I used to be good at compartmentalising in my head but lately it seems to have escaped me, so I might get physical and literal tomorrow.

    That is an issue when you want someone to talk to at 4am LOL!!!

    Me too I need to make plans about going back to work and sorting my life out in general.

    How about when you remember something nice put in a jar so you can re-read at a time when this are a bit carp.

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
  • calleyw
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    sidefx wrote: »
    Thanks Flybaby.

    Not only am I lacking in sleep, I'm lacking anyone to talk to:o

    Not while you are here you wont. There are loads of lovely people here to chat to.

    We make duvet forts and give hugs, handshakes and squishes depending on your preferences.

    Mind you I need to think of something a bit more healthy to bring in to the duvet fort.

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
  • calleyw
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    Flybaby wrote: »
    Hmmm..not sure where you are in the world but my weather also says it will dry up soon and stay that way for much of the week, although Brrr.....chilly! I guess summer is over then. So getting the duvets back out tonight!

    Down in the southwest.

    I have not taken my duvets off the bed but I am down to a 3.5 tog one LOL!!!

    Mind you I have the window wide open and still boiling :rotfl: thats all my blubber keeping me warm.

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
  • Flybaby
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    sidefx exactly as Calley said - now you have found a place to hang. Welcome and ~squish hug~


    I too have to decide about going back to work. **Head explodes**


    I already have what we call a new year jar. I write nice stuff down on pieces of paper, mainly really insignificant stuff about normal days that were just nice, and then we open and read on new years eve. It's nice.
    I always thought this was a more productive thing to do than "focusing on the bad stuff" however - maybe it is time to take a new approach to the bad stuff and physically bin it or lock it away, hence the new bad box idea...........is it a bad idea do you think?
  • Flybaby
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    **super jealous face** Used to live in Cornwall - I MISS THE OCEAN. 10 years ago I would have been surfing at 4am and not sitting worrying about the cruddy nightmares.
  • Flybaby
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    hmmm.........maybe more like 18 years ago!:o
  • calleyw
    calleyw Posts: 9,896 Forumite
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    Flybaby wrote: »
    sidefx exactly as Calley said - now you have found a place to hang. Welcome and ~squish hug~

    I too have to decide about going back to work. **Head explodes**

    I already have what we call a new year jar. I write nice stuff down on pieces of paper, mainly really insignificant stuff about normal days that were just nice, and then we open and read on new years eve. It's nice.
    I always thought this was a more productive thing to do than "focusing on the bad stuff" however - maybe it is time to take a new approach to the bad stuff and physically bin it or lock it away, hence the new bad box idea...........is it a bad idea do you think?

    I have to go back to work as I won't be able to pay the bills :rotfl: I am in luxury position that I have no mortgage or rent to pay.

    New year Jar sounds like a nice idea.

    I like this guys website http://www.bakadesuyo.com/ its called barking up the wrong tree and its about stuff like happiness etc but all backed up by research.

    What about writing it all down and then burning so its all released.

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
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