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Waves_and_Smiles

I'm homeeeeeeeee!

We had so much fun I stayed a second night! We spent a lot of time chatting together with lots of hugs and reminiscing. WaSp even got hugged much to his slight horror!

We went to the zoo at 8am yesterday morning when it was members only until the official opening time at 10am and we were almost the only ones there! I also spent a lot of time in my friends garden, so much so he offered to put a tent up. He has 10 ft fences in his garden and is surrounded by hills in a detached house, no people could see me at all. Now I am very sunburnt but it was worth it!

There was rather hilarious cringeworthy moment when we were out for a drive and we decided to try to go for coffee in an almost empty cafe. I lasted about 2 minutes before panic set in and I said to my friend we have to leave now. He stood up and said I'll pop to the bathroom first and I was hanging onto his arm pulling him in the other direction saying "Nope! Now! Seriously, we have to leave!" in a panicked stage whisper. In the meantime WaSp was ordering coffee and missing all of this. We ended up texting him from the car to tell him where we had gone and WaSp ended up sitting on his own gulping down 3 cups of coffee so we didn't waste the money while I clung to my teacher friend and Sir Pugliet under a blanket.

We still had loads to talk about despite the fact we exchange several emails every day and we have agreed that I will visit every year from now on if not more often. We were both so happy to see each other.

Now my surprise! My teacher friend has the same corneal scarring that I do so we both need lots of eye drops and can't look at computer screens for long without a break due to eye strain. In his living room there was an enormous parcel on the floor. I unwrapped it and it was a 47 inch tv that is internet connected! It came with a keyboard to attach to it and you can use it just like any other computer, it even has a built-in browser. WaSp is thrilled because it is basically a huge tv for him to watch and I am thrilled because it means I can spend longer online without my eyes becoming sore and developing a headache. My teacher friend bought one for himself instead of a usual monitor and said it really helped his eyesight and headaches so he thought I needed one, too! I couldn't believe how sweet and generous that was, he just said he told me that he would look after me when I was 13 and he will never stop doing so.

System

Glad you had such a great time WaS your friend clearly cares for a lot adn i hopee the tv brings you much joy!

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possible penguin
the anniversary of my nan's death is coming up and i find this month very hard as my grandad also died in July. When my grandad passed i went to the grave a lot as i felt i could talk to him and it gave me comfort, when my nan died i just shut off. i couldn't go back to the grave and haven't been since she passed in 06 and for all these years i have carried such guilt (also i never got to say goodbye). But i have decided that on Tuesday, i'm going to take some flowers and pay my respects. I think i need to do this so i can have some closure as i have avoided facing my feelings for so long now.

WaS i know death is a topic we're not supposed to discuss and i apologize if any of my penguin is triggering but want you to know it's definitely not your fault, ok?

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Waves_and_Smiles

Awww hugs, MU!

Reply penguin - Don't worry you didn't trigger me at all. I actually spent the last two days with death coming up a lot because my teacher friend was worried I would blame myself when he dies.

So sorry this month is hard for you, I think it will help you to visit and say a little goodbye while you are there. I also think you are being very brave. Please do let us know how it goes if you want to and don't worry about triggering me, you won't.

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The tv is hilarious because my flat is the size of a shoe box and there is a huge tv now taking up almost one wall. It is so much better to use online though, particularly for forums. I have already noticed that I am not squinting my damaged eye even while reading on here for an hour and it isn't aching at all. I really can't believe he bought this for me, how incredibly thoughtful and generous.

Pyxis

Welcome home, WaS!

Sounds like you had a super time! And a giant-mega-super-screen!

All these zoos! Are you becoming Dr. WaSittle?

Your friend's house sounds like a peaceful place. Even if you have turned into a lobster!

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Georgiegirl256

Welcome back WaS!! Glad you had a brilliant time! Your friend is an absolute gem, such a kind, thoughtful and generous person! Enjoy your new TV!

MU, I think it'll help you by going to your grans grave, might help to bring closure x x

Eta: I hope anything I've wrote about my Dad (especially my rather long first post) has not been a trigger for anyone? I hope there's been nothing that I should have penguined but didn't, and most importantly, WaS, I hope anything I've said hasn't been a trigger for you?

heartbreak_star

Aww WaS how sweet is your friend? Am so glad you had a fun time!


It's my last day en France, for a work trip it's been OK but I'm not really sad to be going tomorrow. 6.15am taxi though...eek!


HBS x

Pyxis

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Aww WaS how sweet is your friend? Am so glad you had a fun time!


It's my last day en France, for a work trip it's been OK but I'm not really sad to be going tomorrow. 6.15am taxi though...eek!


HBS x

Bon voyage, HBS!

calleyw

morning my lovelies,

very warm here. just got up and showered and dressed but not sure why.

slept well and for a long time. wont take any more sleeping meds for a few days and see how it goes.

i feel very down and even my face feels heavy today. sat on the bed at the moment.

just feel another day which is hrs long stretch out in front of me. seems I am just waiting to go back to bed again. how crap is that.

Yours

Calley

codemonkey

Glad you had a good time WaS. Your teacher friend sounds lovely.

Calley - no offence meant here and I hope you don't take it as such. You seem like a lovely person and your ex seems to be using you. You deserve to meet a nice person but you won't be able to until you've moved on