Standing up for Pregnant lady

Chlorine7

I am fortunate in that I live at the start of a tube line. That means I generally have a choice as to what train I get on - the one about to leave, which is usually full or the next one, which usually has empty seats.

I always get on the following the train unless there are seats on the next departing train. I deliberately leave early enough to account for this.

This morning a pregnant lady decided to get on my train even though the one on the platform opposite was empty. I did see her but I didn't notice she was pregnant from the angle I saw her at and even if I did I would not have stood up for her. Or I would have done so with great reluctance.

I think that she could have taken the next train that was leaving only 5 minutes later and had a seat without asking someone to stand up for her. Would you have got up for her in this situation?

If she had got on at any other subsequent station I would have given up my seat.

EDIT: I should also point out that it causes me pain to stand for a prolonged period as I have problems in my knees and because I look young you wouldn't know it but I do generally give up my seat for people who need it.

Flyonthewall

Just because you are aware that the next train is only 5 minutes later and has seats does not mean that she knows that. Plus she could already be running later and 5 minutes, while not long, is longer than you'd want to wait when you need to get somewhere. So yes, I'd have got up for her.

duchy

And your point in posting is ?

Surely not just to say you have no consideration for others ?

Mrshaworth2b

Did she ask for someone to stand up? Im pregnant myself and don't expect people to stand up for me, however would it really have done you any harm to offer her your seat? Regardless of whether you think she should have gotten on another train, it wasn't your choice and hopefully not everyone has the same attitude as you.

Chlorine7

Flyonthewall wrote: »

Just because you are aware that the next train is only 5 minutes later and has seats does not mean that she knows that. Plus she could already be running later and 5 minutes, while not long, is longer than you'd want to wait when you need to get somewhere. So yes, I'd have got up for her.

There is a ticker that states when the next train is (as there is at any other station) and the next train was clearly empty.

I have considered the whole needs to get somewhere quicker - but if that person didn't...

thorsoak

Chlorine7 wrote: »

I am fortunate in that I live at the start of a tube line. That means I generally have a choice as to what train I get on - the one about to leave, which is usually full or the next one, which usually has empty seats.

I always get on the following the train unless there are seats on the next departing train. I deliberately leave early enough to account for this.

This morning a pregnant lady decided to get on my train even though the one on the platform opposite was empty. I did see her but I didn't notice she was pregnant from the angle I saw her at and even if I did I would not have stood up for her. Or I would have done so with great reluctance.

I think that she could have taken the next train that was leaving only 5 minutes later and had a seat without asking someone to stand up for her. Would you have got up for her in this situation?

If she had got on at any other subsequent station I would have given up my seat.

I don't understand the reason for your post - are you trying to justify your inaction?

The pregnant woman might be someone who does not normally use the tube - she might not realise that a train on the opposite platform is going in the same direction in five minutes. Why should she have to wait for another train when, according to your own post, there were seats on "your" train.

Sorry - you get no commiseration from me. Just the throwaway comment that you seem to be self-satisfied - which is not a pleasant thought.

JoW123

Yes I would have offered. I felt very dizzy when pregnant due to very low blood pressure, so would have struggled to stand on a tube train. Basically it's about consideration for other people, but I guess a lot of people don't feel the same sadly.

Chlorine7

duchy wrote: »

And your point in posting is ?

Surely not just to say you have no consideration for others ?

As stated: "Would you have got up for her in this situation?"

In essence how much consideration would others have.

Chlorine7

thorsoak wrote: »

I don't understand the reason for your post - are you trying to justify your inaction?

The pregnant woman might be someone who does not normally use the tube - she might not realise that a train on the opposite platform is going in the same direction in five minutes. Why should she have to wait for another train when, according to your own post, there were seats on "your" train.

Sorry - you get no commiseration from me. Just the throwaway comment that you seem to be self-satisfied - which is not a pleasant thought.

No, I'm wondering other peoples thoughts as people at work seem to agree that yes she could have got on the next train and I simply wanted to know if people disagreed with those thoughts and why.

Actually I didn't say the were seats on my train. There were seats on the following one and I don't feel good about not seeing her badge or not giving up my seat. I do feel bad about it but I also think if she really required a seat (as I sometimes do) then getting on the next train may have been better for her.

Mrshaworth2b

Thinking about this another way, an old person gets on your train and has a walking stick and seems unsteady on their feet, so do you offer your seat? Knowing that the other train will have more seats? Would you have the same opinion?

purpleshoes_2

I'd get up for anyone who looked like they were struggling.

The only thing I don't like is the fact that on buses in my area there's space for two baby buggies or two wheelchairs and if you are sitting in a certain seat and have to move, I've had so much rudeness.

If the bus is packed and you are at the front in the buses where I am there are 3 seats that pull down so the folk with buggies could sit there, but it's always assumed they need the seats directly behind as well.

The number of times I've had people shouting at me, you'll have to move!!!! When I had every intention of anyway and not as much as a thanks.

As I said, I'll always move even if it means me standing, but sometimes people's manners leave a lot to be desired.

Which is another subject I guess.

By the way my mum is 60 plus and very mobile, she'd never expect to be given a seat due to her age.

But if someone is pregnant, they might be uncomfortable standing.