How to catch a thief in the house.

maman

It's a very unpleasant situation but I think if it was me I'd start keeping my purse much closer to me or in a locked place. I may have misunderstood but if £40 has gone missing over a period of time then why hasn't OP asked her family before. I think I would ask each of them (including OH) but still take measures to stop it happening again.


What's surprised me is how many posters think it's OK to take money from their partner's purses and/or have money taken from them.


I'd never have taken any money from my parents without permission. My DH won't go into my handbag. He even asks if he wants to retrieve his own glasses that I've been carrying for him. And even then he's more likely to bring me my bag as he feels really uncomfortable. It would feel like intrusion if my DH (or DDs when they lived at home) went in my bag for anything without asking first.

SimonSays

Mojisola wrote: »

And that's fine if that's the system you use.

When every penny is accounted for, you can't be that casual about other people dipping into each other's money. The money isn't 'spare' - it's needed for something important even if it hasn't been spent yet.

If someone is micro budgeting then they need to either improve the situation (Ie get a job or a more paid one) or look at what they are buying

Jagraf

maman wrote: »

It's a very unpleasant situation but I think if it was me I'd start keeping my purse much closer to me or in a locked place. I may have misunderstood but if £40 has gone missing over a period of time then why hasn't OP asked her family before. I think I would ask each of them (including OH) but still take measures to stop it happening again.


What's surprised me is how many posters think it's OK to take money from their partner's purses and/or have money taken from them.


I'd never have taken any money from my parents without permission. My DH won't go into my handbag. He even asks if he wants to retrieve his own glasses that I've been carrying for him. And even then he's more likely to bring me my bag as he feels really uncomfortable. It would feel like intrusion if my DH (or DDs when they lived at home) went in my bag for anything without asking first.

Found my Hubbie going through my handbag tonight - he needed ibuprofen, the back door key, a tenner for the window cleaner and the phone charger. He said it was a scary place

thorsoak

SimonSays wrote: »

If someone is micro budgeting then they need to either improve the situation (Ie get a job or a more paid one) or look at what they are buying

So says someone who hasn't had to work out how many slices there are in a cheap loaf of bread, and how many each person in the family can have for breakfast, tea and supper tomorrow.

merlin68

Of course simon, i'll trot of and get a job tomorrow with severe lung and joint disease.

Maybe oh can get a job and stick me and dd in a home instead, twill cost the state far more.

Jagraf

merlin68 wrote: »

Of course simon, i'll trot of and get a job tomorrow with severe lung and joint disease.

Maybe oh can get a job and stick me and dd in a home instead, twill cost the state far more.

Did you sort your litte monkeys out x

merlin68

Not yet, they all deny it.

wapow

merlin68 wrote: »

Not yet, they all deny it.

Hey, that's a good thing I guess, they are all sticking together !


Time for that U.V thingy someone mentioned off Amazon.


You could set a trap too and leave a fiver next to some shopping or summat.

lazer

SimonSays wrote: »

If someone is micro budgeting then they need to either improve the situation (Ie get a job or a more paid one) or look at what they are buying

Or use the child tax credits for their intended purpose, looking after the child interested here and nowt a unique fund, you daughter will get student finance and probably a part time job to support her through uni

fivetide

Loving the suggestions, as well meant as they are, that the OP, who has a very limited budget, simply downloads an app onto two iPhones to resolve this...


Borrowing a webcam might be an alternative but budgets are needed.


It seems unfair on one of the girls for the bread/water treatment. Surely only one is guilty yet both would sort of be punished?


I like the UV idea, or the note in the purse. I would also be looking for signs as to why the theft might have started all of a sudden (being out later, smells of drink etc in the case of the older daughter just in case she is trying to keep up with the Jones as it were)