Could you describe your partner's job?

Goldiegirl

'Retiired' is not difficult to describe.

Although when he worked, I could easily describe his role as a civil engineer, as' designing drainage solutions'

enginesuck

My wife isn't interested, I used to be an aircraft technician in the RAF, she didn't know I fixed aircraft, she honestly thought I stood on the gate every day. (I used to regularly go home smelling of jet fuel)

I'm now a field service engineer offshore working on power generation. All she knows is that "I'm on the rigs" she is genuinelynpt interested and it !!!!es me off if I'm honest. She is a housewife.

Andy_89

My OH is a nurse, I have nothing but admiration for the work she does. I probably understand the basics of her role but not much more.


She knows the title of mine, probably not much more.

Alchemilla

Chalkface worker.

Jagraf

Andy_89 wrote: »

My OH is a nurse, I have nothing but admiration for the work she does. I probably understand the basics of her role but not much more.


She knows the title of mine, probably not much more.

And I bet she appreciates the comfort of not having to discuss it when she comes home. I think the more stressful a job, the less you want to talk about it with your partner. I know that's the situation in our house.

Jagraf

AubreyMac wrote: »

And that is fine. My job is not very entertaining either but that's still no reason to not know what your partner does for a living.

I find it more astounding that people don't ask their partners either.

How much would you want to know? Just the position? Grade? Day today skills? Problems? I think everyone would know their actual job title, its the rest of it lots of people don't want to know about or talk about.

If your OH was a doctor, how much would you want to know?

Jagraf

Skintski wrote: »

I'm surprised people don't know what their other halves do. Do you not talk to each other when you come home from work?

My husband is a Racing Mechanic. I like to support him by going to watch them race with some girlie mates. Most girls go shopping, we go racing.

Does he know what you do and support you?

My OH is often not in til 9 or 10. The last thing he wants to do is talk about his day.

My ex husband used to have to attend a lot of client functions. I supported him on those. I can't think of a bigger waste of time, using my free time to line the pockets of company MDs.

I think the older you get the more you appreciate your OH for themselves, not for what they do as a job.

Torry_Quine

Jagraf wrote: »

And I bet she appreciates the comfort of not having to discuss it when she comes home. I think the more stressful a job, the less you want to talk about it with your partner. I know that's the situation in our house.

I find the opposite. When I worked as a nurse and especially after a stressful shift I needed to off-load when I came home. For instance if there had been a death or other difficult incident. It seems strange to me that you wouldn't talk about work with each other.

Jagraf

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I find the opposite. When I worked as a nurse and especially after a stressful shift I needed to off-load when I came home. For instance if there had been a death or other difficult incident. It seems strange to me that you wouldn't talk about work with each other.

Maybe then its all to do with individuals and how they best manage their stresses,rather than anything to do with relationships or not communicating.

My OH compartmentalises and that's how he manages. He also exercises a lot and that helps.

coolcait

I know what he does - but I'm not sure that I could 'describe' it to someone else in the way that he does.


So, when talking to other people, I'll say that OH is a "job title". He does the same when telling other people what I do.


When we're talking to each other, we have a reasonable understanding of each other's job. Obviously not to the extent that we could each stand in for the other!