Half way there and a slight change of direction

elantan

beanielou wrote: »

Sounds good when my back finally comes out of spasm.
Doped up so much on diazapam.............

Yikes that sounds awful, hope its started easing for you honey xxxx

judi24 wrote: »

Oh dear I remember it well! I was a single parent with 2 kids doing my training and working evenings and 1 weekend day in the bingo hall to get by (not very well I must add - this is when my debt started!!!) But it was definitely worth it - my current work place reminds me of that every day! (I work in a hospice!) - you will get there - and I can see you are motivated to off set your mortgage but you do need to look after you in all this!!! You're garden will wait!!!

How on earth did you manage? My son has grown up and left home, the Husband basically deals with everything and when I am not working or studying I am sleeping, I take my hat off to you, genuinely, I often look at the people with young kids and look on in amazement at their strength... Hospice work must be very rewarding for you, hard, exhausting but rewarding xxxx

edinburgher wrote: »

The foot spa sounds like a very good purchase, I have to say that I don't miss jobs where I had to walk around for 9-10 hours a day.

Hope you're plotting a way through all the disruption and managing to enjoy whatever small triumphs come along?

Ed you bring in a very good point actually, I had read the messages on here as I was running out the door to the dentist ( there's another big bill appearing on the horizon) and you know what Ed thank you ...

I have been feeling so down recently with the whole situation ( lack of time, money and total exhaustion) and for just now I am going to be writing my triumphs, even the small ones, it's not something I normally do, but just now I think I need it and it will help me

So triumph today... well nothing so far has been triumphant ... however, later on Mr El and I plan on going for a walk, a good long chat ( we have barely spoken in the last few months as we have been so busy) then we are coming back putting the fire on and cuddling up time, something we both badly need. Now that will be a HUGE triumph for me, something we both love doing but havnt managed to do for so long

Foot spa has arrived so I will have a wee foot spa later on as well and if I can talk Mr El into it a wee foot massage

I start my new placement on Monday so whilst I am sad to leave the last one as it was amazing, I am looking forward to the change

Have a wonderful weekend everyone and catch you all soon

Tilly_MFW_in_6_YRS

Am sending a :grouphug:

You've helped me so much and if I can do anything for you, then let me know.

Tilly x

elantan

Oh thank you very much Tilly xxxxx

Tbh it's a case of so many things going on just now ... I am having to become more involved with the inlaws, we think the MIL has the start of Alzheimer's as she is becoming very forgetful, however like so many people she is currently in denial so it's a case of trying to help her remain as independent as possible whilst taking the strain off of the things that are slowly becoming too much, Mil also helps with the aunty that has been ill for four years, so whilst I have also helped out over the last few years Mil has had the most burden there, she is no longer able anymore so I am having to step in there as well, added to that the study 37.5 hour placement week and 25 hour working week, it's hard... More people have it worse than me and my problems are merely a scratch on the surface of what others are having to deal with so really I am grateful that things are not as bad as they could be.

I think I will only work part time though when I qualify as I think I will slowly be taking over a more prominent role in the care management of the situations, I am ok with this ... and I know when I have qualified I wont have to study or work so hard so the pressure is off ... I just need to get there .... oh woe is me :rotfl::rotfl:

Anyway, time for a walk with Mr El ...

Thank you very much Tilly it's great to know I have so much support here where I can vent and moan ... and plan and plot

edinburgher

El, I couldn't do your week, never mind all the extra things in your life that take up time, kudos.

Enjoy your walk and QT with Mr El.

gallygirl

Am off for a wee lie down just reading about it :eek:. Enjoy your 'us time'.

beanielou

Have a lovely evening with Mr El

elantan

edinburgher wrote: »

El, I couldn't do your week, never mind all the extra things in your life that take up time, kudos.

Enjoy your walk and QT with Mr El.

Thanks Ed, but honestly so many people do so much more I am blessed in so much as it could be a whole lot worse , in saying that you have your hands full just now, I am so happy for the three of you xxxx

gallygirl wrote: »

Am off for a wee lie down just reading about it :eek:. Enjoy your 'us time'.

I went for a wee lie down myself, just what the Dr ordered lol

beanielou wrote: »

Have a lovely evening with Mr El

Cheers Beanie, we had a great night and a good day today

Managed to spend a few hours out and about, went for another wee walk with Mr El, then out into the garden to move some of the wood piles about, I had to go for a wee lie down at one point as I didnt feel so good, but a wee siesta later and I was back at it

Now going to watch a wee film with Mr El then earlyish night for my 12 hour shift tomorrow, nothing really money saving today but I did have a triumph


Drum roll please ........ I found my Patchouli oil, yes I am a sad old hippy that LOVES patchouli oil, I had bought a bottle a while ago but couldnt find it, today I was clearing out a wee drawer ( as you do) and lo and behold came across my oil, so obviously I had to smother myself in the stuff


ahhhh thats better... I smell like me again

Karmacat

I know what you mean about the smell of a favourite oil - White Musk from Body Shop for me, though its not an oil like patchouli ... hope you enjoyed the film

elantan

Hey all, just passing through again, these long shifts are really hard work so I'm not on as much

money seems to be flowing out of our hands at a rate of knots just now, thats the car had to get some work done on it, we still have more to go as well.

In other news, was talking to a nurse the other day and we were both having a wee moan about our feet and i jokingly added oh well when we win the lottery we can relax a bit more a wee million quid will do us the world of good, the nurse replied I doubt it, I've paid off my mortgage and I still never have any money to my name, I looked at her and said " but your mortgage free that must feel great? one thing less to worry about and more money in your pocket" her reply took me aback she said " no we are not any better off now that we are mortgage free, we are still skint"

That got me to thinking, Is paying the mortgage off like giving up smoking?, do you get to the stage where you dont have the extra money left? I know some people give up smoking and insist they save the money for a holiday or clothes etc, and I know for a while that that is exactly what they do, but then they seem to stop. I hope this never happens when we become mortgage free, this conversation really got me thinking to be honest. How do I ensure that I am not like the nurse? How do I ensure that I make the most of this opportunity I have worked hard towards?

In other news, Mr El and I are away to Castle Douglas tonight to see an Am Dram performance of Shakespeare, I love Shakespeare Mr El hates it as he says he doesnt understand it, and usually when we are going to see a play he sits bored Master El and myself try and explain it to him but as any fans know it moves very fast and it's hard to keep quiet and translate at the same time, so Mr El heard this play advertised and it is being done in Scot's so he said I fancy going as maybe I can understand this one, now ofcourse it is a midsummer's nights dream, possibly my least favourite Shakespeare play, I just dont like it at all, so here we have a situation where one person loves Shakespeare but not this particular play and one person that hates Shakespeare cause they dont understand it, but it is a day out and if Mr El enjoys himself maybe he may enjoy the other one I have planned for this year

http://www.glamis-castle.co.uk/event_detail.cfm/event_ID/86/title/title=Lord-Chamberlains-Men---Twelfth-Night

We did this last year, it was Romeo and Juliet, it was amazing, watching the play with the backdrop of the castle, as the sun goes down the play comes to it's climax, the acting is interesting and with the play done in the traditional way it is a fun day out, I am desperate to see McBeth though, that one is my fave...

anyway time to head out as we have a packed day ahead and I have taken tomorrow off as well as I need the break

Hope you are all well xxx

Karmacat

The Shakespeare sounds great! Both of them - I hope you enjoy Midsummer Night's Dream

As for the nurse - conscious spending seems to be the answer - if you don't *think* about your purchases, yes, they escalate. If that was someone on here, we'd say "you need a month's spending diary" ... Illness, a change of jobs, redundancy, they can all have an effect on our income, of course. But you keep going for your own needs, El, you'll be fine.