Nice People Thread No. 14, all Nice and Proper

Yorkie1

vivatifosi wrote: »

Yorkie, if I recall correctly, are your parents in Herts?

Generali wrote: »

Ah yeah, useful stuff.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Selfish-Pigs-Guide-Caring/dp/0749929863#productDescription_secondary_view_div_1438665267797

Fab resources and suggestions, thanks Viva and Gen, plus ta to all for your thoughts etc.

Have bookmarked the links for Mum

LydiaJ wrote: »

DD told me this week that she would like a stepfather. I said that while I'd like a new man, I'm not sanguine about the prospects for finding a suitable one, and explained about the shortage of single Christian men over 40. She says it's a pity finding a man is so much harder than finding a dog, and that she wishes there were rehoming centres for potential husbands where you could go and pick out the one that you'd like.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

PS Thanks for the supportive comments about Speedy Dog

:rotfl: Now that's an idea :T:T

GDB2222

I heard from my local waitrose that they are pretty much out of stock of my coffee.

Yorkie1

kabayiri wrote: »

NPs.

What's the concensus?

Fewer + bigger rooms, or more + smaller rooms.

I think there's probably a minimum size of a room for the furniture which it should hold. I have a living room which is a little over 10' square. Given the location of doors, fireplace and windows, I've struggled to get sofas which fit.

But once you're happy with the basic size of a room, I quite like the idea of open plan. Assuming that you won't find it difficult to heat the space and won't get lots of cooking smells throughout the whole living space.

michaels wrote: »

This (the first bit, don't yet kow abot the second bit) is so true.

Clothes, food, having a big house, having a big car, school uniform, guides/brownies/cubs/football/piano/clarinet/violin/ballet/dance/drama/football/singing/cookery/netball/football all cost a fortune
Plus school dinners, school trips, birthday parties, birthday presents, firends birthday parties, holidays...you get the picture.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Those things that are "expensive" are wants/choices, not needs.

As a kid you don't appreciate how much these things add up. I now suspect that M&D had to economise to give us these experiences which they felt would improve our lives and development (music lessons, guides etc). But they never let on and, I suspect, we were probably pretty ungrateful for some of the opportunities (ugh, piano practice!).

However, one thing which I think is vastly different today from when we were kids, is the birthday party culture. From an astonishingly young age now, it seems that it is expected to hold a party for lots of kids, plus party bags - and that 'keeping up with the Joneses' in this way is essential. It just gives another way in for bullying to occur.

And you hear stories of schools not allowing party invitations to be circulated on school premises unless the whole class is invited.

I do feel for families now.

Yorkie1

LydiaJ wrote: »

the shortage of single Christian men over 40.

PasturesNew wrote: »

I can understand you not wishing to consider people active in a different culture/religion, but surely there's the potential for a bit of rummaging around with regular blokes?

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Is there a difference between Christian and "people who just potter about the country without even thinking about religion"?

Interestingly enough, I was recently invited by a church friend to a day of activities which were happening in our town and arranged through number of Christian friendship / dating groups (the dating site was called Christian Connections, plus a local facebook group and an email-based group from a local city), although I didn't realise that at the time. I had a great day but I think many of the women were there for friendship, and many of the men for dating! I certainly just went along for the day with no expectations

It did make me wonder about dating a non-Christian, though. Being a Christian is, for many people, a full-on sharing of values. That can be a pressure if you have different views (e.g. more liberal) than a Christian you're dating, or a bonus if you share those views. I suspect it depends partly on where you are in your particular faith.

I have one church friend who is very happily married to a non-Christian. And I went out with an atheist who was overtly intolerant of anyone with a faith, insofar as his assessment of their character was concerned.

kabayiri wrote: »

Controversial moment!

I say "pah" to these book issues

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I also hide many records, to make the numbers look reasonable.

You do realise that once you start hiding something, it's indicative of a bigger problem??

Yorkie1

I do enjoy the Great British Menu , and GBBO starts tomorrow :j

Nikkster

PasturesNew wrote: »

From what I've seen there are two groups:
1] Chancers, blaggers and the unreliable - who have great presence.
2] Grunters who just sink lager, get drunk/loud and shout a lot.

Neither are a good bet, which is partly (mostly) why I'm single.

I've never mixed and mingled in "polite society".

There is definitely a 3rd group: already taken.
The 4th group (none of the above) appears to be largely the stuff of legend.

vivatifosi

Nikks, saw this on another part of MSE and didn't know if it would be something you would be interested on (if you haven't seen already anyway):

http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/deals/parks#ourparks

zagubov

kabayiri wrote: »

NPs.

What's the concensus?

Fewer + bigger rooms, or more + smaller rooms.

I find these Beeb housing auction programs depressing. They always bang on about dividing up a big bedroom into 2 to maximise the revenue stream.

Why don't we just go straight to the end game, and just live in rabbit hutches?

The whole of the living space in one of Sis's house in Canada is open plan. Truly massive big windows over looking the Rockies. Surely a better living option?

They should just build more proper-sized houses in the first place. London's nothing but rabbit-hutches. But once you've got kids ...you need more rooms even if smaller.
6.5 rooms counting conseervatory as 0.5. For the three of us as DD not permanently resident

michaels wrote: »

This (the first bit, don't yet kow abot the second bit) is so true.

Clothes, food, having a big house, having a big car, school uniform, guides/brownies/cubs/football/piano/clarinet/violin/ballet/dance/drama/football/singing/cookery/netball/football all cost a fortune
Plus school dinners, school trips, birthday parties, birthday presents, firends birthday parties, holidays...you get the picture.

One advantage of a low income is that you get half price school music lessons Sadly school dinners are based on a different means test.

Er, I'm afraid that sc is telling it like it is. If only she were wrong.:(

lostinrates

Anybody watching Chinese school?

Its not dramatic, and none of the children are real horrors, just a little. Restless. But interesting.

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

I don't fancy many celebs/blokes on the telly, but that Due South mounty was right up my street

Mmmm yes. Very nice. I do prefer short hair on men, so celebs often look nicer to me when playing a role like that where the uniform requires the kind of haircut I prefer.