Nice People Thread No. 14, all Nice and Proper

michaels

PasturesNew wrote: »

Typically I'd say the middle aged woman thinks it's "the real deal/love ever after"; the waiter is thinking "get to Britain, get as much cash as possible, try to get a passport, leave ASAP", possibly with a "repeat as necessary" command at the end of their programming.

Even if the women are deluding themselves perhaps they are still happier than they would be otherwise, after all they can also repeat as necessary....

PasturesNew

michaels wrote: »

Even if the women are deluding themselves perhaps they are still happier than they would be otherwise, after all they can also repeat as necessary....

Not when their life's savings have disappeared, their house is newly mortgaged ..... and the waiter's nowhere to be seen. He can rinse/repeat, all she can do is get £250 from the DM for an article on what a plonker she's been.

This one's a howler. 77 and he was 21!
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2766466/Woman-77-wed-Tunisian-waiter-21-whirlwind-romance-says-no-regrets-divorced-failing-UK-visa.html

Nice to see you paid for this one to get her leg over:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2710540/British-mother-51-disability-benefits-left-penniless-spending-18-000-life-savings-Tunisian-toyboy-met-chatroom-shes-dating-26-year-old-country.html

The divorcee says she blew £18,000 of her benefits money on toyboy No1, smooth-talking 22-year-old Rami Selmi

I've nothing against toy boys .... but it needs to be on a level playing field - and not one player and one sucker.

In fact, if anybody's got any spare (cute) toyboys kicking around, send them over.

vivatifosi

But how often in the real.world and on even footing would a 21 year old really fall in love with someone in their seventies? Someone I know in his seventies moved to Thailand and married a Thai woman. He barely speaks Thai, she barely speaks English. When people are old enough you can't stop them spending how they want and they're responsible for the consequences. It's the same whether they are spending all,their money on their lover or blowing all their benefits on lottery tickets and not buying food (someone else I know). A fool and their money and all that.

hjd

PasturesNew wrote: »

In fact, if anybody's got any spare (cute) toyboys kicking around, send them over.

If I had any, they wouldn't be spare - but do feel free to form an orderly queue..

CKhalvashi

I know of a couple; he's about 70 now, she's about 50 that have been together for about 30 years. They met through work.

I know of another couple, she's about 20, he's about 50, and they've done nothing but break up/get together. They're both on benefits

There's very little age difference between me and OH (a year and 3 days), but surely the above demonstrates that sometimes things work, sometimes they don't but nothing else.

ivyleaf

I did feel rather queasy when I met a man in his late seventies who'd got a 16-year-old Thai "mail-order bride" _pale_

Hopefully the poor girl has by now inherited what ever money he had and gone back home!

lostinrates

My sibling's partner is older than our parents.

GDB2222

For several years in my fifties, I was married to an undergraduate.

vivatifosi

GDB2222 wrote: »

For several years in my fifties, I was married to an undergraduate.

To have as big an age difference as in Pastures's article, you'd have needed to marry a preschooler:eek:

Did Mrs GDB study with the OU?

lostinrates

I'm very glad i fell in love with fir. I think it makes our domestic life easier that we are close in age and met when we were you g and flexible ish in our ways. However, i can imagine falling for someone outside norm age ranges in some circumstances.

And unlike many i don't think financial security as PaRT of the deal is such a heinous reason to be drawn to someone. As the whole deal its pretty silly unless you remember all investments can go down as well as up, in people as well as any other investment type, but why is financial security as a draw so bad when not bring drawn to people who are charming but total, repetitive financial nightmares not a bad traight? Or being drawn to people wee find physically attractive ( and genetically subconsciously a wise investmentment for our procreation attempts?)

I can see WHY my sibling was drawn to an older person, And i had oldr lovers in the past...not THAT old mind you!, but i could imagine i might have been drawn very easily to an older, caring person. Or all the wors that entails. I mean, age hasn't stopped fir being a carer for much of our relationship, for an example.