38 and Single :o(

FBaby

I agree. Although while men can father children in their 40's and beyond. I think the impact of that decision is often not taken into account

So it's been considered acceptable that men and women are healthy enough to be working until their 67 but look after teenagers in their early 60s is beyond what they are capable of doing. Ridiculous!

It's becoming more and more difficult to guess the age of someone who is 60. Some are so active and fit, you wouldn't think they are older than 50 whilst others have not looked after themselves and their health and look 70. I think having children a bit older makes you much more conscious of looking after yourself.

Rebel_Cause

I too am guilty of logging in to have a butcher's hook at you!

You are the double of my OH (only thing is, he has dark hair). He is also a self-proclaimed short @rse too at 5'8'' I am 5"6" and do not wear heels...luckily.

You do not look 38 either, I would put late 20's early 30's. Good luck on your search for your significant other!

Rebel_Cause

Forgot to say... I think my OH is gorgeous! Interpret that how you will!

VestanPance

FBaby wrote: »

So it's been considered acceptable that men and women are healthy enough to be working until their 67 but look after teenagers in their early 60s is beyond what they are capable of doing. Ridiculous!

Actually the new regulations on pension age have nothing to do with ability to work and everything to do with reducing future pension payments and the taxation required to pay them. Only a fool would assume it was a policy measured on any other metric.

NWOIHTS

neatheyc wrote: »

Hi all,

Anyone got any advice on how to cheer myself up?

38 year old male and have been single again since the beginning of the year. Live alone in my flat. No children.

Feel depressed as I feel I would really would like to have been married and have my own children by now. Feels like I have missed the boat and will be single for every. Too old for children.

Have tried POF but not having much luck on their. Can't really afford Match.com or Zoosk and not even sure they would be any better.

Need to get out and meet people but most of my friends are settled down now.

Hi Mate

I am in the same position as you (39 looking for a partner, want to settle down etc. had little to no luck so far). I think you've done quite well posting up a pic of yourself and the interest you've got here! I posted on here a good while a go, feel free to have a read:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4865730


If it's any consolation try meetup groups I have just started a few weeks ago and been to a few already. It gets you out and mingling. That was my problem for years, I was, and still am a quiet dude with new people and didn't particularly like going out. instead of facing my fears I hid away in a shell from being a teenager to late 30s. Had a few relationships but not really anything really long term or committed.

What I found at the meetup groups is you'll get a whole mix of people but rarely your ideal match, like anywhere really, but the good thing is usually you find yourself with a large(ish) group, and you easily mingle with others who are nearby but not in the group, so you might meet someone not tied to the group as well.


So for any ladies (or even your single friends) in central belt of Scotland I'm 6' 0", own teeth/hair, good job, brush up well, no baggage, a little shy to start out with but if I click with someone I can talk away and have a good laugh. Willing to travel as well although restrict to central belt mainly.

Keep us updated how things are going as well.

Good luck

N

j.e.j.

I'm surprised you're not swamped with offers on the dating sites. Men in their late 30s and older who are single and have no baggage (so to speak) are pretty few and far between.

A friend of mine got his first ever date aged 40!!! He's now a dad. She wasn't all that young, either, maybe late 30s.

NWOIHTS

j.e.j. wrote: »

I'm surprised you're not swamped with offers on the dating sites. Men in their late 30s and older who are single and have no baggage (so to speak) are pretty few and far between.

A friend of mine got his first ever date aged 40!!! He's now a dad. She wasn't all that young, either, maybe late 30s.

The truth is we don't, well speaking from personal experience. I've contacted loads of single girls I'd be interested in meeting and hardly ever get replies. I've had loads of meet me requests and winks but when you contact them same thing - no replies.

neatheyc

NWOIHTS wrote: »

The truth is we don't, well speaking from personal experience. I've contacted loads of single girls I'd be interested in meeting and hardly ever get replies. I've had loads of meet me requests and winks but when you contact them same thing - no replies.

Yeah I agree with this. I really believe the women have a vast choice to pick from as there are far more men on there than women.

Which is why I am thinking of biting the bullet and going to a paid site as I feel there would be less men looking for one night stands. Can't decide between Match or Zoosk.

ineed

38 isn't old, my OH is the same age as you and perfect imo . We don't want kids of our own but we are considering fostering in the future and were told age isn't an issue for that.

My dad had me when he was in his 40's, he was and is a fantastic parent, I personally feel the added maturity was a big bonus.

VestanPance

neatheyc wrote: »

Yeah I agree with this. I really believe the women have a vast choice to pick from as there are far more men on there than women.

Which is why I am thinking of biting the bullet and going to a paid site as I feel there would be less men looking for one night stands. Can't decide between Match or Zoosk.

Listening to most guys I know in their late 30's/40's (single/no kids) who have used online dating sites and apps their experience tends to mirror that of yourself. Common theme was that they'd end up giving up after a period of time due to rarely getting replies to messages.

Having done contract work on a site of this nature many years ago the data at the time actually suggested a lower response rate on paid sites compared to free ones. Probably as the paid sites do quite a lot of cheap tricks to make it look like they have more active users than they actually do.