Feel absolutely gutted for a stranger

Newlyboughthouse

Tygermoth wrote: »

I feel very sad for the lady. I have donated

Thank you so much Tygermoth x

fuzzyduck22

I have been following this thread and feel so bad for this lady, she must have felt very let down and embarrassed.

I was wondering if maybe she was always organising things and her friends were a bit bored of it as there is only so much time/money you can give to charity.

However, it seems that some positives have come out of this, both of you have potentially made a new friend plus extra money is being raised for the animal rescue.

I understand that you feel gutted for her but you have done a lot to turn the situation around which is lovely :j

Peter333

fuzzyduck22 wrote: »

I have been following this thread and feel so bad for this lady, she must have felt very let down and embarrassed.

I was wondering if maybe she was always organising things and her friends were a bit bored of it as there is only so much time/money you can give to charity.

However, it seems that some positives have come out of this, both of you have potentially made a new friend plus extra money is being raised for the animal rescue.

I understand that you feel gutted for her but you have done a lot to turn the situation around which is lovely :j

I must have missed something. What is it the OP has done to turn things around for the woman in question? :huh:

fuzzyduck22

Peter333 wrote: »

I must have missed something. What is it the OP has done to turn things around for the woman in question? :huh:

She brought more people into the pub, gave a donation and is trying to raise more money for her. I think the OP has done good in trying to help

Newlyboughthouse

fuzzyduck22 wrote: »

She brought more people into the pub, gave a donation and is trying to raise more money for her. I think the OP has done good in trying to help

Awww thanks Fuzzyduck, long way to go on Crowdfunding - hope momentum picks up!

catkins

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

Awww thanks Fuzzyduck, long way to go on Crowdfunding - hope momentum picks up!

Can you post a link for the Crowdfundin page

Newlyboughthouse

catkins wrote: »

Can you post a link for the Crowdfundin page

Don't want to identify myself on here, so have asked above if anyone wishes to donate, to PM me and I'll send the link privately

By the way, I hope people don't think I've started this thread with the intention of getting donations - that was very much an afterthought

anotheruser

I hate this sort of thing.

Not the event but the fact someone goes to loads of effort to organise something, and it clearly bombs.

I am in a band and hate it when we have a big build up to an event, then at the night, less than 20 people turn up - and most of them are the other bands. It really makes me sad.

I guess it's just a sadness that someone made effort for something and wasn't supported. But then I rarely go to "events" like this myself - although that's because I don't hear about them.

It's like those people who do, what seems like a lot of fundraising only to have a total of £200 - a lot of money to some people, but in the grand scheme of things, was it worth doing?

TBagpuss

I wonder whether part of the issue may be that she seems to have combined a birthday party and a fundraiser.

If someone invites your to their birthday party /do, you are expected to reply, and to let them know whether you are coming or not, and then to turn up if you've said you will.

If someone 'invites' you to a fundraiser then that is more of a notification - it doesn't require a response, it is simply giving you information so you can go or not as you want.

It sounds as though this was pitched more as a fundraiser than a birthday celebration, and it seems that it wasn't a very successful one.

I also think that people may have been put off by combining the events. If you are invited as a birthday guest, you are then in a position of being pressurized to donate, because it is your friend's birthday, and her cause. I would find that off putting even if the specific cause as one I supported. If I knew ahead of time then I would probably chose not to attend unless the event and cause were ones I would have supported and attended anyway - It would feel uncomfortable going and not donating, or going and feeling coerced into donating to a cause, or a specific organisation, you don't support.

And if I were not a friend of hers I would feel a bit awkward about going to a fund raiser which had been tacked onto someone's birthday party, as he implication is that the attendees would mostly be the birthday person's friends, so you could easily end up feeling a bit like a gatecrasher at a private event.

obviously it is upsetting to organise something and have it flop, but I can see why it may have happened on this occasion.

Slinky

Some people I knew were complaining about a fundraising event they organised where only a handful of people turned up for it. But it was on a Saturday night on Valentine's day, when a lot of people are going to be spending time with their OH.