Feel absolutely gutted for a stranger

purpleshoes_2

I'd find it hard to believe that one person could fall out with all of their friends at the same time (the same friends who are now full of apologies)

I'd never heard the phrase drama llama until I posted on here, I won't say what I think of it

I do think it's sad that someone ended up more or less on their tod on their birthday.

Plenty of birthday parties take place in pubs, I was out yesterday and one was going on in another room.

Really doesn't take much effort to turn out for someone's birthday and chuck a couple of quid in a donation bucket.

As for the folk from the charity not showing face, no one from the charity I raised money for did, I didn't expect them to.

Fen1

I'm not on FB, nor my OH, nor a good number of my friends and none of my family. I don't like it for several reasons, whilst my family are non-techie and only just manage email, let alone FB.
Using FB only touches a minority of people. As other posters have written, advertising needs to be across the board, not just using one method.

Sadly, I too have attend parties with dismal turn-outs. General invitations just don't work with big events; postal invitations with RSVPs are necessary. Psychlogically, you are tied to a 'contract' when responding RSVP, signing on the dotted line of acceptance. It is far more powerful than a verbal 'Sure, I'll come.'

I feel very sorry for the lady and hope it all works out OK in the end.

Piggywiggy

Yes it's sad if she put a lot of effort in for it to be a flop, but I'm sure we are all guilty of being the 'friends' who don't turn up, sometimes you just say you will go to something because you are so fed up with being pestered to go.

catkins

I think it is pretty sad reflection of her so called "friends". Not only could they have showed up for at least a short time to support the charity but also if it was her birthday you would think they would go.


I have a couple of friends who do a lot of work for animal charities and if they organise any event me and OH always go even if only for a short time to show support.


A few weeks ago a friend organised an event which I really didn't fancy at all plus we were doing something else most of that day so to go to the evening thing we would have to organise a dog sitter. Anyway we decided we should go so we organised a sitter for the whole evening (we planned to stay an hour or so then maybe go for a meal). As it turned out we both really enjoyed ourselves and ended up staying for about 5 hours.


Quite a few people who had promised to come though didn't turn up

BrassicWoman

I dunno - much like a candle/makeup/tupperware party, I'm not really being asked for the pleasure of my company, am I....

Newlyboughthouse

catkins wrote: »

I think it is pretty sad reflection of her so called "friends". Not only could they have showed up for at least a short time to support the charity but also if it was her birthday you would think they would go.


I have a couple of friends who do a lot of work for animal charities and if they organise any event me and OH always go even if only for a short time to show support.


A few weeks ago a friend organised an event which I really didn't fancy at all plus we were doing something else most of that day so to go to the evening thing we would have to organise a dog sitter. Anyway we decided we should go so we organised a sitter for the whole evening (we planned to stay an hour or so then maybe go for a meal). As it turned out we both really enjoyed ourselves and ended up staying for about 5 hours.


Quite a few people who had promised to come though didn't turn up

Yeah you sound like me. If I say I'm going, I go. I'm not fickle, so I guess that's why I can't understand why seemingly everybody else is.

Looking back through her Facebook page it would appear she did post several status' about it which her 'friends' liked/commented on.

I think all I can do is just extend the hand of friendship to her - she said she'd love to stay in touch. So hopefully out of this she'll cleanse her life of rubbish friends and gain a couple of new good ones.

PenguinOfDeath

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I dunno - much like a candle/makeup/tupperware party, I'm not really being asked for the pleasure of my company, am I....

Hmm this is what I am thinking, especially if she has organised such events before, maybe it's getting a little 'old' to her friends?

Georgiegirl256

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

Yeah you sound like me. If I say I'm going, I go. I'm not fickle, so I guess that's why I can't understand why seemingly everybody else is.

Looking back through her Facebook page it would appear she did post several status' about it which her 'friends' liked/commented on.

I'm not on Facebook, but as far as I can gather, just because you like something doesn't mean you are agreeing to go to an event.

Did people actually tell her for sure that they were going?

Tbh, it doesn't sound very well organised at all. It's a shame, and sad for the lady, but if you're going to go to all the trouble of putting on an event, then it needs to be advertised ALOT more than it appears to have been. Also, she should have tried to get numbers of attendees before booking anything. I guess it's a hard lesson learned.

Newlyboughthouse

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

Hmm this is what I am thinking, especially if she has organised such events before, maybe it's getting a little 'old' to her friends?

She seems quite introverted though. I genuinely think this is the first time she has tried to organise something like this, judging by her FB page history

Tygermoth

I feel very sad for the lady. I have donated