Feel absolutely gutted for a stranger

Jagraf

purpleshoes wrote: »

To be fair, I support a charity for dogs at risk (I donate to them monthly), dogs in pounds that a charity try and get to rescue and foster before their time is up. There are 5000 people who like that rescue page yet the charity almost went under a few months ago due to rising costs and not enough donations. If everyone who liked the page had given £2 they'd have made the money they needed to keep afloat for a few months (they have survived but for a time they had to take only the most urgent cases).

Thats not how it happened, many people who liked the page won't donate and others will give 50 quid plus in times of need.

My point is, a lot of people see stuff on facebook, taking action is something else entirely.

Absolutely.

Newlyboughthouse

Jagraf wrote: »

People can be very fickle.

Very true!

pelirocco

j.e.j. wrote: »

So she's paid for the disco and the venue hire out of her own pocket?

Lesson learned, I think.

No-one is obligated to put in an appearance at a disco. I think I would definitely have asked for confirmed number of people attending before I went ahead and paid for it. Even if just to try and avoid the embarassment of no-one turning up.

Sounds like poor planning , sorry if that sounds harsh but I have organised charity events , they take a lot of planning and a lot of work in finding people to attend , just posting a link on fb is a silly thing to do.

theoretica

I know a lot of small charity events where the charity doesn't send anyone, for instance Children in Need don't send a representative to every bake sale and I wouldn't expect them to. Though I would for something like Race for Life.

I think you should be grateful for all the volunteers do, and not expect them to do more - or volunteer yourself to do it if you feel it needs to be done.

Jagraf

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

Very true!

It's just normal behaviour really. That's why we have marketing experts. We need to understand that one persons interest isn't the interest of most others, especially when their availability isn't considered.

I don't think people were being cruel. I just think they have their own lives etc.

j.e.j.

tea_lover wrote: »

It's never been easier to engage with people - Facebook, local websites, radio, twitter, good old posters.

Had she done all that she might have had the opposite problem. You know how it is when teens hear about parties on social media and then turn up in their hundreds :eek::rotfl:

onlyroz

Whenever I've been to a Facebook organised event you get the option to confirm or decline your attendance. Was this done, and how many people actually confirmed that they were going? I wouldn't go to the trouble of organising such an event unless I had at least 20 confirmations.

*max*

I agree it's gutting, but I think she just didn't organise it properly. Did she create a Facebook event, where people have the option to agree or decline (which gives an idea of expected numbers), or did she simply post about it on the charity's page? Did she organise this off her own back, without the official backing of the charity in question? Does she volunteer with them? If I organised something like this, I would not expect anyone from the actual charity to attend, unless I knew them very well/personally.

It's very easy to "like" something on Facebook, to sign an online petition....etc, but when it come to actually giving up their time or making an effort, you'll find that a LOT fewer people bother!

I think she just didn't organise it properly. Although it's a bit awful of her own friends not to have bothered going without even telling her, if it was her birthday.

Newlyboughthouse

*max* wrote: »

I agree it's gutting, but I think she just didn't organise it properly. Did she create a Facebook event, where people have the option to agree or decline (which gives an idea of expected numbers), or did she simply post about it on the charity's page? Did she organise this off her own back, without the official backing of the charity in question? Does she volunteer with them? If I organised something like this, I would not expect anyone from the actual charity to attend, unless I knew them very well/personally.

It's very easy to "like" something on Facebook, to sign an online petition....etc, but when it come to actually giving up their time or making an effort, you'll find that a LOT fewer people bother!

I think she just didn't organise it properly. Although it's a bit awful of her own friends not to have bothered going without even telling her, if it was her birthday.

Pretty much spot on in all fairness. Could have been advertised better I guess. No there wasn't an invite, and the lady didn't advertise it herself at all. But I still say I saw the advert perfectly fine and it was an easy event to attend, so am shocked that more people didn't.

More upset for the fact that none of her friends showed for her birthday if not for the charity. Utterly shameful.

iammumtoone

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

More upset for the fact that none of her friends showed for her birthday if not for the charity. Utterly shameful.

I think this is the main point.

Perhaps the lady mainly organised it for her birthday and rather than presents asked for a donation to her favourite charity, perhaps the one post of facebook was an afterthought just to see if a few extra people wanted to come to raise a bit more money as she was having the party anyway.

If a charity I liked organised an event like the one you describe I would not go, its not my thing, however if a friend organised it for their birthday then I would go.