Ecstatic Laughter In The Evenings

fairclaire

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Hi all, I'm not having a good time and need to ask advice again please (sorry for being such a moaner ) I've quit my job yesterday because things came to a head. OH and I had had a tiff and I tried to talk to my boss when she asked if I was ok but she was just nasty to me. I went to a job with her but started panicking about things that had been said/happening. I needed to get out and go home. I told her I was feeling unwell due to anxiety and I needed to see the doctor. She threatened me if I left I won't have a job. I told her I'm not upto working that day and apologised and left. I made a list of everything she's done to upset me, mostly since yesterday except for the job she didn't want to pay me for which I mentioned on here last week. I've now been signed off work by my GP for a month. I'm really angry that she's treated me this way and wonder if I have a case for legal action. I know I didn't get anywhere with this with my other boss but this boss knows about my ASD and anxiety issues so I feel I should get something for the distress she has caused me. The following is my list of horrible things she has done:

• Promised me 25 hours guaranteed and an admin job. Then she gave the admin job to someone else. I’d told her I would do it after she stops giving me so many cleaning jobs that there was no time left.
  
• Nasty to me when I told her I was upset and she told me to look in the mirror and that I've brought it on myself
  
• At first said she would not pay me £41 she owed me as I didn’t work a week as in the contract
  
• Was nasty saying I should grow up and learn responsibility
  
• Sent text next day demanding I return customers key to her same day. I asked about my pay and she replied I would get it at the end of the month. This is not what normally happens.
  
• Accused me of stealing key and threatening to call police
  
• Twice she has said that customers have said their house isn’t clean. First customer said she was unhappy with kitchen and bathroom but rest of house was ok. Boss wasn’t going to pay me anything but then agreed to pay for 2 hours rather than the 4 hours I did after I told her my partner was seeking legal advice. She then sent another girl for 4 hours without inspecting what I’d done. Of course this girl said it was filthy and pocketed 4 hours pay for a few things I missed that shouldn’t have taken more than an hour. The 2 hours is part of the £41 she still owes me so I still haven’t been paid. I spent 6 hours on another customers house and it was immaculate but now she'saying the customer asked what have I done for 6 hours? She is aware I have ASD and that this will cause me immense anxiety to worry about my ability to clean and what went wrong
  
• She had a dig about me not loving my children because of personal information I told her
  
• Said that my partner is controlling and will throw me out
  
• Gave my personal mobile number to a new cleaner without my permission (against data protections act) to pester me about returning the key

Is it worth me pursuing this and if so how do I go about it? I'm not sure what kind of solicitor would deal with this :undecided TIA

ETA most of her nastiness was in text so I have the proof

Sorry to hear you're having these problems I'm no expert on employment law but as you've been in the job for such a short time I don't think you'd be able to be pursue this through a tribunal.

On some of your points though.....

Was the offer of the admin job a formal one? I.e written down? If it was just a verbal promise then I doubt you could prove the offer was ever there.

The nasty things that have been said by her, unless someone witnessed the conversations, are hearsay and would be very difficult to prove.

You say she knows about your ASD? I can't remember if you've had a formal diagnosis of this or not? If you haven't then that's not something she has to take into consideration.

It does sound as if she made some very personal comments to you You could seek advice from a solicitor but unless you took advantage of one that offers free half hour consultations, it would be costly.

You might be able to complain about her giving your number out without your permission but I don't know enough to know who'd you'd complain about that to?

No one can advise what to do, if anything, but those are a few things to consider.

I hope things improve for you soon. Take the time the doc has signed you off for to have a good think/research what sort of work would suit you best in the future and try not to stress too much :A

Evangeline1971

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Evangeline, am I right in recalling you have only been in that job for a very short time? If so then I believe employment law has changed, I think she can just boot you for next to no reason :eek:

Although someone like FC may know better?

It would seem she is simply a nasty person.

And I briefly looked into taking out a constructive dismissal case some time ago but it was very expensive and there is a very short time frame

Yes it is only for a few weeks but I didn't mean about dismissal. Sorry I know I'm not explaining very well as I'm very anxious at the moment so don't get my point across properly. I believe she is lying about what customers have said so I'm going to call the customer and find out if she's unhappy with my clean. She's also accused me of stealing when I never said I wouldn't return the customers key. She's taken things I've said and twisted them to hurt me. Yes my partner takes control but I like it that way because otherwise people walk all over me and she is annoyed about him because he defended me last week over the money she refused to pay. I don't think she should be allowed to treat me like this and get away with it. Also I wouldn't have left my other job had she not promised me the admin work, which I then could not do because she kept sending me cleaning. I'm now out of a job because of her lies and not in any fit state to start a new one

David.

fairclaire wrote: »

Sorry to hear you're having these problems I'm no expert on employment law but as you've been in the job for such a short time I don't think you'd be able to be pursue this through a tribunal.

On some of your points though.....

Was the offer of the admin job a formal one? I.e written down? If it was just a verbal promise then I doubt you could prove the offer was ever there.

The nasty things that have been said by her, unless someone witnessed the conversations, are hearsay and would be very difficult to prove.

You say she knows about your ASD? I can't remember if you've had a formal diagnosis of this or not? If you haven't then that's not something she has to take into consideration.

It does sound as if she made some very personal comments to you You could seek advice from a solicitor but unless you took advantage of one that offers free half hour consultations, it would be costly.

You might be able to complain about her giving your number out without your permission but I don't know enough to know who'd you'd complain about that to?

No one can advise what to do, if anything, but those are a few things to consider.

I hope things improve for you soon. Take the time the doc has signed you off for to have a good think/research what sort of work would suit you best in the future and try not to stress too much :A

and for ref folks thats about a grands worth

fairclaire

David. wrote: »

and for ref folks thats about a grands worth

I wish :eek:

David.

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Yes it is only for a few weeks but I didn't mean about dismissal. Sorry I know I'm not explaining very well as I'm very anxious at the moment so don't get my point across properly. I believe she is lying about what customers have said so I'm going to call the customer and find out if she's unhappy with my clean. She's also accused me of stealing when I never said I wouldn't return the customers key. She's taken things I've said and twisted them to hurt me. Yes my partner takes control but I like it that way because otherwise people walk all over me and she is annoyed about him because he defended me last week over the money she refused to pay. I don't think she should be allowed to treat me like this and get away with it. Also I wouldn't have left my other job had she not promised me the admin work, which I then could not do because she kept sending me cleaning. I'm now out of a job because of her lies and not in any fit state to start a new one

You got the last one quick enough chill relax have some me/partner time without thinking of her and then onwards and upwards she doesn't sound like the type of person you would want to stay with anyway

Classy_Chick06

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fairclaire

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Yes it is only for a few weeks but I didn't mean about dismissal. Sorry I know I'm not explaining very well as I'm very anxious at the moment so don't get my point across properly. I believe she is lying about what customers have said so I'm going to call the customer and find out if she's unhappy with my clean. She's also accused me of stealing when I never said I wouldn't return the customers key. She's taken things I've said and twisted them to hurt me. Yes my partner takes control but I like it that way because otherwise people walk all over me and she is annoyed about him because he defended me last week over the money she refused to pay. I don't think she should be allowed to treat me like this and get away with it. Also I wouldn't have left my other job had she not promised me the admin work, which I then could not do because she kept sending me cleaning. I'm now out of a job because of her lies and not in any fit state to start a new one

If the money is an issue to you, there's always the option of pursuing her for it through small claims court. Unfortunately the prices have just gone up recently but if you win she'd be liable for your costs.

I don't know the amounts involved? But if it's about the principle rather than the amount, it's an option. It's not a very complicated process.

HILLBERN

Bananababe wrote: »

Ah we had a good giggle peoplewatching. Including a girl with hair to her knees brushing it in the food bit :eek:

Guess the coversation. Why is one guy drinking coffee and eating ice cream and his male companion only having water ?

Is that her husband ?

Good fun xx

Oh I love people watching:)

David.

Now who is going to start the next thread :rotfl:
Afternoon Locarr trust you are well

fairclaire

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

Leave it in hope the sputum results come back clear x

:rotfl::rotfl: lovely looking ladies :happyhear

Another egg today :j it was most definitely my speckeldy. Two more are crouching and generally being mardy so it won't be long until they are laying too



Creme egg purely for size comparison :rotfl: today's effort was a whole 4 grams bigger than yesterday's :rotfl::rotfl:

If that's from your speckeldy they probably won't get much bigger. Those are the smallest ones I get (when I get them!) by far. I have a black rock like you and she used to lay bombs! Lots of them with double yolks. You'll have half a dozen by the. end of the week