What does your partner find annoying about you?

Mrs_Ryan

What annoys me about my partner? Hmmm.

If I ask him to fetch me something, and it's not immediately in front of his line of sight, he can't find it. When I get up to get it myself, I inevitably find it immediately :mad:
If something goes wrong, it's inevitably the end of the world even if it's something fairly minor that's reasonably easily fixed.
At the moment im mad at him because his total inability to take delivery of our new bed himself is meaning I'm missing an important match and a girls day out with my best friend this weekend :mad:
When we go shopping, I put my crutches in the trolley and use the trolley to drag myself around the store with. If I stop to pick something up he will inevitably forget and wander off with the trolley containing my crutches :mad: which can be a recipe for disaster as without my crutches I tend to fall over..
I have to ensure I'm asleep before him as his snoring could wake the dead;
He constantly asks me to check stuff on my phone for him (usually when I'm busy)
He feels the need to declare when he needs the toilet;
He pinches my cushions when I'm laying on the sofa;
He's obsessed with his damn PlayStation :mad: if we go somewhere for a day trip he always has to find a Game store.
He eats ripe cheese and I'm allergic :mad:
He always manages to lose my socks when he does the washing;
If he puts the food shop away he has a horrible habit of putting stuff that should be frozen in the chilled section and vice versa; also if I'm away and he has to do the food shop he never checks the date on things (I do tell him to. I have food phobias and won't eat anything past the sell by date)
I think that's it :rotfl:
I think possibly what annoys him is that I'm surgically attached to my phone (he hates my phone. He says it scares him ) my only topic of conversation is rugby I'm obsessed with shopping and keep making him take me to obscure shopping centres on our days out I hog the duvet (I do admit this) I've got the electric Fire/heater on permanently (I have fibromyalgia and I'm always cold) and bizarrely I insist on buying Value brands at the supermarket :rotfl: it drives him mental as he likes his branded stuff. Oh and whenever we go to the supermarket I have to go to the loo before we leave. Every time without fail :rotfl: drives him up the wall apparently

Purplesky_2

VfM4meplse wrote: »

OP - I don't know why anyone would put up with habits that annoy them that much!

They actually don't annoy me that much on a day-to-day basis, but sometimes (usually when his parents are coming up) they all just come bubbling up. He does a lot of the jobs that I can't do well and we work together very well otherwise.

System

Another thing that annoys hubby about me. I get lost when we are out. I can very often wander off when we are out to use the public loos but he very often gets a message from me when I'm out cause I cant remember the way back to him.

I can literally have a panic attack if I'm out somewhere on my own that I don't know well.

As for finding the car in the car park.... he's got no chance.

It would be funny if it wasn't so damned annoying.

Jenny484

Judi, you always give such good advice on this board. Why are you with this horrible man? I'd be depressed too if someone treated me with such little respect.

DigForVictory

What he does

Purplesky wrote: »

At the minute, he's leaving sawdust trails everywhere and leaving woodshavings all over the living room floor

mine too. My fault for buying the lathe TBH, hence I'm making the most of the Vax sale...!

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

We're looking for a house but I'm so rigid in my requirements that I make it ten times more complicated that it ought to be.

House buying is complicated - clearly he needs to improve his negotiation skills, with home cooking, wine, candlelight & seeing things your way...

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

He's a complete duvet thief.

All attempts at duvet thieving are met with a recurrence of my restless leg...

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

If I ask him to fetch me something, and it's not immediately in front of his line of sight, he can't find it.

As it isn't just a husband vice but also sons', I think this may be a Y chromosome thing?

heartbreak_star wrote: »

He moans whenever I have my hair cut.

mine too! He is very helpful, gentle & patient combing out severe tangles though.

aileth wrote: »

He gets annoyed that I manage to cover the whole bathroom floor in water when I have a bath.

It isn't just me then - oh Good!

Judi wrote: »

How long have you got?
...
My weight
...
I'm too slow
...
The list goes on

Mine is just smart enough to Shut Up on some issues - judi, can I lend you a frying pan?

He does not change the duvet cover despite superior height, reach & strength as he "enjoys watching me struggle".

What I do?

I think there's an upper character limit on posts for a reason.

Purplesky wrote: »

They actually don't annoy me that much on a day-to-day basis, but sometimes (usually when his parents are coming up) they all just come bubbling up.

Oh Gods yes, parents. Usually Mine, so it's All My Fault.

We're still married & I for one am thankful, despite the points above.

System

Jenny484 wrote: »

Judi, you always give such good advice on this board. Why are you with this horrible man? I'd be depressed too if someone treated me with such little respect.

Because I'm not perfection either.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

You could try getting your own back by asking a million questions, implying you missed a bit of the programme....

Do those two people know each other?
Why is he doing that?
Is that the same man who did x earlier?
Are they related?

Winds them up no end!

I'm usually too busy trying to breathe slowly and evenly, lest the desire to take the remote control and put it somewhere he would be only capable of changing channels by farting becomes too hard to resist.


I forgot about his putting on programmes that he likes and then, ten minutes after something I'd have liked to see has started, he puts his headphones on and starts working.


I'm not a huge TV fan anyhow, so I'm not bothered all the time - when he first started staying over, I handed him the remote control regularly - and he does sometimes hand it back, saying 'I'm not watching anything'. But he definitely watches far more TV than I do.

Oh yes, and he's not comfortable with silence. He usually needs to have a radio show on at night to be able to go to sleep - but he usually waits until I've already nodded off, and never picks Alan Partridge since I started burying my head under the pillows when still asleep because the frequencies were so high and irritating. I am fine if he picks The Hitchhikers' Guide To The Galaxy or something similarly calm. I'm also quite happy to have no TV, radio or music on during the day and all the lights off at night - I know where the bathroom is in the dark, I know where my bed is, so don't need light - leaving the curtains open so there's a clear view of the moon gives more than enough light to move around, not that I need it: my eyesight is so bad without glasses that I don't rely on vision to get to the loo. And he's been here long enough (he's here more than I am) to be able to do that as well.

I put it down to his childhood home having a stream running underneath, so there was one constant noise as he slept in complete darkness, but nothing else, as he lived in the middle of nowhere, so urban noise wakes him up. When I eventually go to sleep (I'm as much of a night owl as he is), I grew up in a house full of kids and animals, adults watching TV, street lights and sirens, so once I'm gone, I can sleep through a hurricane. As I did in 1987 when half the roof fell off directly above my bedroom.



In the great scheme of things, I think that these are tiny things. And, as they are the limit of our disagreements, I reckon we must be incredibly well matched.



I did joke recently that he's been here nearly eight months and hasn't wanted to murder me yet. He said rather pointedly 'no, not murder you'. The Village Idiot cat is the bane of his life. And his best buddy.

Good grief. We sound almost domesticated.

Bluebell68

I breath too loud

or maybe just because I BREATH

I like eating raw veg he thinks im weird doing that

I ask a question if I don't understand something
he thinks im thick or shakes his head

pees him off people may ask my advice I will give it but say you may not like the answer I give



I despise cheaters
should be named and shamed

he thinks im stupid again for thinking that
don't need be Einstein work out why he thinks that

Tells me I was never thin or even had a decent figure

doesn't like my honesty
enjoys seeing me hurt by his comments nastiness we call it


I will fight till no fight left in me for my boys
yet if they are in the wrong they are told to apologise an yes they do out of respect

He does like my cooking
likes fact i can think outside the box to do things unless its working something out that he didn't think of
im not perfect never was all I do is my best

I am ME Nothing More Nothing Less;)

fairy_lights

Bluebell68 wrote: »

I despise cheaters
should be named and shamed

he thinks im stupid again for thinking that
don't need be Einstein work out why he thinks that

Tells me I was never thin or even had a decent figure

doesn't like my honesty
enjoys seeing me hurt by his comments nastiness we call it

Those don't sound like things to be annoyed about, it reads more like a list of reasons to break up with him.

Brallaqueen

Things that annoy him -

When i stock up on tinned stuff.
When I buy clothes with gift vouchers when you can buy cheaper at matalan.
When i don't put the lids on jars properly.
When I use the same mug and tea spoon for more than one cuppa.

Things that annoy me

Washing his clothes separate from mine or household stuff to the point he will take anything to be washed out of the washing machine, wash his stuff, then put it back in and leave it for me to do.
His complete inability to understand that cleaning the kitchen doesn't start and end at putting one single dishwasher load through.