What does your partner find annoying about you?

Georgiegirl256

Judi wrote: »

Yes he's not divorced me yet I'd be rubbish on my own.

Sorry I meant the OP!

krustylouise

Purplesky wrote: »

Nope. We bought a house 18 months ago, and spent £25k on it so far, and I've had a lot of life-altering events (Parent's divorce, fighting with solicitors to get an inheritance that I had NO IDEA I was getting from a family friend and illness for almost a year, with a reduction in wage and increase in time spent in the house 'pulling my weight') while trying desperately to complete a phd

We've spent a lot of the last 18 months closely examining our relationship in light of these events, our parents relationships/our upbringing and our distribution of housework/work outside the house.

It all came out in response to an article on a website I frequent. It really surprised me how much of the minutiae really bugged me and it was cathartic to get it out. Our biggest problem is the washing up.

I am happy to do the laundry and he puts away his stuff really easily, once I've put it on his bed,and the mess bothers him, and since I'm home and bored it is proliferating a little. We're just finding our middle ground.
It's taken 5 years to get here and we've moved from a rented one bed flat to a mortgaged two bed house (so we feel like we should be more grown up). I should mention that we basically come from opposite houses in terms of tidiness (hence the time taken to find a middle ground....), but equivalent houses in the amount of work that 'Mum' does, compared to 'Dad'. Which mean that I've had to fight the compulsion to just do everything because sometimes that just feels easier, because it's expected of me by our parents and by him, because I know it's no good for us (me!) in the long term.

One thing I have noticed, which is purely me being nosey. Why do you have separate beds?

System

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

That's just mean. That goes beyond the usual annoying niggles people have about their partners. That's mental cruelty. Have you confronted him about it?

He thought it was funny. Unfortunately his sense of humour isn't the same as mine. He did apologise after he realized he'd upset me but the damage had been done by then.

19lottie82

he gets annoyed at my messiness and general laziness.

I get annoyed at him always being late, generally through underestimating his arrival time. i.e. he will be on the phone to someone and say i'll be there in fifteen minutes even though they are a 20 min drive away and he still has to have a shower!

And also him ignoring me when I ask him a question or just replying with a grunt. :mad:

itchyextremist

Things that bother my girlfriend about me:


- I tend not to listen that well and she hates having to repeat herself


- I go on about, request, talk about, sex too much


- Leave mud on the carpet


- Moan too much


- too contrary


Things that bother me about my girlfriend:


- she moans too much


- talks consistently to and kisses the dog all the time


- takes constant pictures of the dog


- constantly worries about the dog


- hears EVERYTHING


- remembers EVERYTHING


- doesn't really want sex that much

Izadora

It annoys me that there'll often still be a film of grease on stuff after he's washed up.

It annoys him that I'll often rewash things after he's washed up.

When we move we are most definitely getting a dishwasher

fairy_lights

I got home yesterday and he had hovered the flat but left the hoover plugged in with the cord all pulled out and trailing across the floor - I tripped over it and came face to face with a pair of very ripe socks he had left abandoned on the floor. Annoyance levels ran pretty high.

itsanne

I've just asked OH. After a very long pause (because the list is so long or I because I am perfect?), apparently I can nag. :cool:

charliewocka

My partner gets annoyed by my stress levels and how I don't give myself any 'me' time. I work full time, care for my brother (Asperger's), have two dogs and a cat, try to run the home and keep it clean, am training for a marathon and also currently caring for him (he suffered a very serious injury when we went skiing which put me into a carers role). He had to move back in to his parents as he couldn't manage his house so I then had to drive to see him a couple of nights a week (45 minutes each way) to shower, dress him etc. Luckily that is getting better as he is starting rehab now and can stay at mine a couple of days a week but I then have to cook dinner, wash his clothes, clean around him, drive home at lunch to prepare food, oversee and help physio excercises etc. No rest for the wicked


What annoys me about him? Sometimes he seems to make fun and light of everything and it's hard for us to sit down and have a 'serious' conversation unless I say 'can we have a serious chat now'. It can be a pain but it's part of what attracted me to him as well as we have lots of fun (or did have till recently!).


His crazy ex-girlfriend. Still tries to contact him despite him clearly spelling out the relationship is over and she throws abuse left right and centre. He completely ignores texts now but she is persistent and likes to start abusing me when she gets no reaction.


Other than that I think we're pretty well suited!

Scottie_dog

Things I do that annoy him:
He thinks I'm a control freak - in my defence I have to organise everything as he works away from home.
He hates that I constantly want to update and improve our house - we are now in our 3rd house and I have took great pleasure in making each one our home. He has asked me to slow down with the DIY, he says every time he come home the house is different:rotfl:
He thinks I "baby" our dog - I can't help it, I've had him for 10 years. If I had one wish in the world it would be to turn our dog in to a real 10 year old boy:o
I like to be organised - he likes to go with the flow

Things he does that annoy me:
Leaves clothes on the floor/bed/sofa.
Doesn't share my love of diy
Sometimes I come home from work and catch him sleeping on the sofa with the dog (dog is not allowed on the furniture)
He's late for everything

I must say that these are just little niggles and I think we bump along quite well together. I think I will keep him :rotfl: