Mother's Day - Bar Humbug!!

june.elizabeth

My eldest has done a photo box album of a holiday I spent with my two girls in Chicago about 7 years ago. It is fantastic I love it and them.

Sezzagirl

So many different thought!


I think on balance, I tend to agree with the thought that it's the thought that counts!!


I don't really "want" anything and Mother's Day is very traditional and can be marked without great commercial effect.


Just an acknowledgement would be nice

warehouse

It card shop and flower shop day for pity sake. If you're all getting upset that your other halves are forgetting this over-commercialised day then you really need to get a life.

I suppose you all sit in stupidly filled and overpriced restaurants on valentines day do you? Mugs.

jp1964

warehouse wrote: »

It card shop and flower shop day for pity sake. If you're all getting upset that your other halves are forgetting this over-commercialised day then you really need to get a life.

I suppose you all sit in stupidly filled and overpriced restaurants on valentines day do you? Mugs.

Surely you must realise that you don't have to spend a fortune in order to acknowledge a day like this, I have spent less than ten pounds in total on a card and bunch of flowers for both my Mum and MIL, and on St Valentine's Day I and my DH exchanged cards only, shared a home cooked dinner and (ahem) made our own free entertainment...

Why is it that people seem to be so blinkered and sniffy about these occasions, they are only as commercial as you let them be, I see them as what they are, a chance to remember and appreciate the people who you care about, and I for one, since you ask, have a perfectly lovely life, and will be spending tomorrow with all my children, at home, with a home cooked meal shared with everyone I love. The only mugs will be the ones in my kitchen cupboard.

Other people like to make a big gesture on these occasions, and again, that is their choice, and their money to spend as they wish, we are all different, and thank goodness for that!

Of course, one of the advantages of having a good parent (in my case my Dad) is that they bring you up to make your own decisions, not just to follow the herd, and to respect, understand and appreciate our own and others' choices, and not to be rude or unkind, clearly some people have not had that benefit and feel the need to rubbish others' perfectly valid concerns and choices in order to try to unnecessarily hurt them, that is really quite sad.

pinkshoes

I made DH pick a card for his mum, and I sent one to my mum.

I think you are getting stressed and fed up over nothing. You should have just waited until tomorrow, and then if they had forgotten, remind them by refusing to do all the useful things you usually do, and see what happens.

[Deleted User]

I have in the past gotten a little sad on Mothers Day. But not this year.., I have been given some good news about getting high social housing priority.., so will be able to move out of this horrible private rental house and all the LL worries. No more worries about ending up on the streets. This is more than a 'little miracle' lol.,. its major.

So I'm not spending a penny on anything other than food. Its rent week as well so I always have to dip into money I'd rather save.., which always hurts lol. I've had to economise a huge amount on my son's birthday presents which I hate. Not giving the kids money to get me something.

But eight year old has given me one of the things they've done in school:

My mum likes to play with me.

In the summer my mum likes to tickle me.

In the winter my mum likes to make hot chocolate.

I like it best when my mum plays with me.

My mum looks silly when she does funny dances.

I love my mum for helping me to do anything.

They are all very mundane things.., no 'my mum is a superhero' stuff.., but made me feel so appreciated. Just one look on his glowing face as he gave it to me (early cause he couldn't wait) said it all. Who needs presents lol?

marisco_2

Sezzagirl wrote: »

So, I will sort out it out so no one is let down.................except me that is. I suspect I will get a card or 2 on Sunday but it will be a bit bittersweet as it will only be because I have asked for them as it were.

I would really have liked to think that my family were doing this because they wanted to.

Maybe if you hadn't stepped in two days early and put the chasers on them you might have been pleasantly surprised instead of setting yourself up to feel as above. I cant stand it when someone does that to me, it takes away all the pleasure of doing something for them!

carmina_piranha

You don't HAVE to get anything for his mum, unless you want to.

I tend to do most of the present and card buying but that's because I work near to the town centre and can easily shop during my lunch breaks. When I started buying his mum's presents I was a stay at home mum so it made sense for me to do that kind of stuff. We like to spend family time together at weekends rather than traipsing around shops.

As long as somebody makes me a cup of tea tomorrow I'll be happy. When my kids leave home I'd like a visit or phone call but cards and presents aren't important.

I would be upset if nobody remembered my own birthday though, that's something my husband organises.

Tiddlywinks

It's 'bah humbug' not 'bar humbug'.

tesuhoha

My husband wouldn't know Mother's Day (or any other day come to that, including Christmas) if it rose up and sloshed him in the face. When the children were young, Mother's Day went unacknowledged until they were old enough to make things at school.

Nowadays my daughter always buys me a card and a gift like flowers or chocs and my son buys me nothing. My husband looks mildly bewildered when Father's Day comes round and my daughter buys him a present.