Mother's Day - Bar Humbug!!

Mojisola

ViolaLass wrote: »

Ugh, the whole thing is horrible. Appreciating your mother once a year because the shops told you to.

Mothering Sunday predates by centuries the cards and presents in the shops.

bossymoo

CRANKY40 wrote: »

I'm a widow with a 10 year old son. We went shopping for a card and present (both cheap) for Mother's Day at half term because if someone asked him what he'd bought me and he hadn't got anything he would be upset. This is the first year he hasn't made a card at school so he is conscious of it. It's bad enough that he didn't have a dad to make a card for on Father's day when all of his friends were making them. When he's older I'll leave him to it. It doesn't bother me if he buys me a present or not..... I have to admit that if school hadn't started it, we probably wouldn't have bothered. Christmas and birthdays are enough.

Aww, hugs to you and your boy, cranky x
It's hard when they've lost a parent. My two were upset just watching a bit of comic relief earlier. We switched off in the end, and they went to get their pics of daddy and I told them stories about him. If it's any help mine still make Father's Day cards but give them to my father-in-law, and then we make a special one and put it in our memory box. My inlaws seem to now book their holidays to be away from all the shops when it's Mother's Day or Father's Day. But they know I'm thinking of them. X

ViolaLass

pollyanna24 wrote: »

But it's not just cos the shops told you to. I'm sure most mums would be happy with anything, i.e. the thought rather than a nice neckless or something.

It's the making a fuss of one's mother on that particular day that gets to me. I'm a mother and I would much rather be generally appreciated and occasionally surprised than have my husband or daughter make a fuss about Mother's Day. It IS because the shops tell you to - you wouldn't get so many people doing it on the one day otherwise! I loathe Valentine's Day for the same reason and don't mark either.

ViolaLass

Mojisola wrote: »

Mothering Sunday predates by centuries the cards and presents in the shops.

True, but that was about the church, not mothers.

Mojisola

ViolaLass wrote: »

True, but that was about the church, not mothers.

It started out with people visiting their mother church but shifted to the working children bringing small gifts for their mothers as well.

ViolaLass

Mojisola wrote: »

It started out with people visiting their mother church but shifted to the working children bringing small gifts for their mothers as well.

Apparently because that was the one day a year they would see their mothers. Hardly relevant now, is it?

22cuddles

I always send cards - one to my nan, who I'm very close to and one to my mum, who I'm not. Find it very hard to find a nice but not sickly sweet card for my mum - she separated from my dad when I was very young and I've never had much to do with her. Getting a card that's gushing about how wonderful your mum is doesn't feel appropriate. OH isn't really a card sender so not sure if he'll send anything to his mum. Not a mother myself so I don't know how I'd feel if I didn't get a card :undecided

Mojisola

ViolaLass wrote: »

Apparently because that was the one day a year they would see their mothers. Hardly relevant now, is it?

That only applied to the children working away but children at home also gave their mothers small gifts or found ways of making them feel special.

Just because you say thank you to someone on one particular day of the year doesn't mean that you don't appreciate them all the rest of the time as well. Equally, just because you appreciate someone all year doesn't mean you can't make a fuss of them on one particular day.

raven83

itsanne wrote: »

Em.....Why does Mothers Day matter at all? It's just commercial nonsense. The most thoughtless, uncaring people buy 'stuff' for Mothers Day just because it's advertised without it meaning a thing. What matters is how you're treated and that you're cared about all the time, not one day in 365.

Rant over.

This^^

It is one day out 365 days of the year, exactly the same as Valentines day, most people I know that go mad on Valentines days, have some of the fakest relationships I know, but back to mothers day, it doesn't really bother me if my girls don't get me anything, tbh it is the little things they do that can't be bought that make me the happiest. And it is definitely more of a woman thing to buy gifts/cards and organise dates etc, saying that, your children are that bit older now, so you would expect them to maybe get you a card off their own back, but tbh I wouldn't be too bothered, it is just commercialism and just a ploy to get you to spend money.

BargainJunky

I have two children and the youngest (6) came home tonight and gave me the card he made at school although I did suggest he kept it until Sunday. The eldest (10) would not tell me what their treat was this afternoon at school - it was a secret so I guess he has also made a card.

I love the things they make but I would also like hubby to put in a little effort on their behalf. I let him get away with a trolley dash around Asda for my birthday and Christmas but to me mothers day is different. I'm not expecting huge presents just something that they have taken time to think about - in fact I saw a lovely keyring in the pound shop or even a slice of carrot cake from Asda.

My eldest was due on a Mothering Sunday and missed it by 40 minutes so the day is quite special to me.