Mother's Day - Bar Humbug!!

bossymoo

It's a tricky one, lots of us are used to the custom of Mother's Day, I grew up with it and have always done a little something for my own mum - breakfast in bed when I lived at home, or a card and maybe her favourite soap or flowers.

I'm not fussed for a huge gesture, and my children are too young for anything other than making something at school / nursery (which they both have) so I'm just made up with that. My inlaws are on holiday so there's nobody to buy me chocs from them (good news as I'm dieting!).

I'm just going to treat it as another day - no one else to do the cooking / cleaning / laundry lol.

purpleshoes_2

When fathers day hits, Im aware that I don't have one. Hes not dead, he just has nil interest in me.

My mum is a teacher and when her mum died she said that when the kids were making mother's day cards, it felt really sad.

One of my best mates, his mum died really young, its just that so many people don't have a mum or dad and a day like that might make them feel a bit sore.

I think its just expected that everyone has a mum and a dad that you have a good relationship with and I certainly don't, my mum is fab, my dad is the total opposite.

Jagraf

And then there's those who are divorced whose kids are not with them on mothers or Father's Day anyway.

Mojisola

ripplyuk wrote: »

She gets gifts during the year whenever she mentions she'd like something, so she's telling the truth that she already has everything.

There's the answer - buy something when she mentions it but keep it until Mother's Day.

theoretica

ripplyuk wrote: »

One thing I find a bit odd is that most women I know expect their partner to buy them gifts on Mother's Day, even when the kids are plenty big enough to do it themselves.

Perhaps knowing whose fault it is that they are mothers?

CRANKY40

I'm a widow with a 10 year old son. We went shopping for a card and present (both cheap) for Mother's Day at half term because if someone asked him what he'd bought me and he hadn't got anything he would be upset. This is the first year he hasn't made a card at school so he is conscious of it. It's bad enough that he didn't have a dad to make a card for on Father's day when all of his friends were making them. When he's older I'll leave him to it. It doesn't bother me if he buys me a present or not..... I have to admit that if school hadn't started it, we probably wouldn't have bothered. Christmas and birthdays are enough.

pollyanna24

I think it is all commercialised and a way to spend money etc.

But... at the same time, it is nice to feel appreciated. My girls are at their dad's this weekend and I know my eldest (6) has asked her dad to get me something. I don't want anything from him, but it would be nice if he sat her down on Sunday morning and got my girls (youngest 4) to draw me a picture of something.

Their school (and Rainbows) have made a bit of an issue about it. Both made me cards and presents (had to send £3 in for these pressies, but didn't want them to be the only ones not making them, so I did).

Taking my mum out for lunch tomorrow at a Jamie Oliver's restaurant because she got upset last year when me and my brother didn't do anything for Mother's Day.

I like going out for lunch anyway with my mum, so just figured we'd go somewhere a bit more upmarket than our usual Saturday haunts when the girls are away (usually the local cafe), so it's something we do all the time anyway.

ViolaLass

Ugh, the whole thing is horrible. Appreciating your mother once a year because the shops told you to.

pollyanna24

ViolaLass wrote: »

Ugh, the whole thing is horrible. Appreciating your mother once a year because the shops told you to.

But it's not just cos the shops told you to. I'm sure most mums would be happy with anything, i.e. the thought rather than a nice neckless or something.

As in my previous post, yes I am taking my mum out for lunch, but we do this a lot anyways, it's just me paying this time and we are going somewhere a bit nicer than we normally go.

Wouldn't occur to me to buy her flowers and chocs cos they are not really her thing.

As I'm not with my girl's dad, my mum bought me some hyacinths and a top from my girls. Is this commercialised? Maybe, I don't know, but it was a nice gesture. I love hyacinths and I wore the top today (£4 from Peacocks, but I like it!) and the girls have told everyone that they bought it for Mother's Day for me.

Kaye1

My LO is knitting me a bookmark. Best present ever, made with love.