Renovations and Repayments.

choccielover

AlexLK wrote: »

Our current property is my wife's achievement, for the majority of the time we've been here I've earnt very little money. Personally, I see no point in staying here when we could move to a much better house and have no mortgage. As usual I'll do as I'm told, though. How very "sexist" of me.
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have you ever considered that by constantly telling your wife you want to move back home you are undermining and disrespecting your wife and the home that she provides...... You are so busy feeling bad for not earning "enough" you fail to see the value of what you do offer to the family unit.

Happiness isn't linked to how much money you earn, it's not possessions its experiences, preferably shared.

AlexLK

wendyla wrote: »

Hello Alex

For me this is a first. I have never before contributed to a forum of any sort, though for a few weeks I have been following some threads (is that the correct terminology?), yours included.

Alex, I both feel for you and am frustrated by you in equal measure... You so obviously love your son and your wife dearly. You might not always get it right, but then show me a spouse or parent who does. Just allow yourself to feel loved by them as they surely do. God that was bad English - does the fact I too received an independent education exonerate me?!

I am in not position to preach, but I dearly wish you could let them help to make you happy. That would be the greatest gift you could give to your family.

Let me know if it would have been better if I remained just lurking!

No need to remain lurking and thank you for posting.

Not really sure what to say, to be honest.

DollyDee wrote: »

Alex

I've never had a diary as I (we) are debt and mortgage free but I enjoy reading your diary (diaries) and several others. I wish you and your family all the best. I do wish you could stop dwelling on the past and focus instead on the present and future in your own home. Perhaps the cloud would lift if you did so? Forget the inheritance for now - it will happen when it happens.

My father passed away in 2000 and very sadly my mother passed away last October. She was 86, bright as a button and very fit especially for her age. Did all her own cleaning, loved gardening and went dancing 3 times a week plus holidays with her friends. It was a complete shock when she had a stroke last September and died 6 weeks later after suffering cardiac arrest. I was in the ambulance with her on blues and twos. I'll never forget it. Anyway, the funeral followed then probate and selling her house which was ex council - my background is very different to yours. Everything was finalised in July and I, my older sister and my son received our inheritance. Not a life changing amount but a decent sum (by our standards:)). I would forego every single penny to have my parents back. Money isn't everything.

Have you ever thought that if you & Mrs K had decided to send LittleK to pre-prep school he wouldn't have been able to come home for lunch? He would have had to adjust wouldn't he?

Hope I haven't offended you by my post.

DollyDee

I'm not offended.

Would like to forget the past but I clearly cannot manage this or I wouldn't be in the position I am.

Regarding school lunchtimes, that was one of the reasons I decided he'd be better going to the village school for a few years.

greent wrote: »

Little K is not a disappointment - his behaviour can be viewed as disappointing - they are not the same thing. x

I suppose you're right.

AlexLK

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Well you are nothing if not contentious, Alex!

Seems that way.

DollyDee wrote: »

Dear Alex

I really hope I haven't upset you, that was certainly not my intention but you didn't do your usual late night post.

I am worried. Please post.

D

Please don't be worried about me, really not worth it!

AlexLK

choccielover wrote: »

have you ever considered that by constantly telling your wife you want to move back home you are undermining and disrespecting your wife and the home that she provides...... You are so busy feeling bad for not earning "enough" you fail to see the value of what you do offer to the family unit.

Happiness isn't linked to how much money you earn, it's not possessions its experiences, preferably shared.

Thanks for confirming I do nothing of worth.

wendyla

Hi Alex

Good to see you back.

How has your son managed this week? Is he feeling any more settled?

DollyDee_2

AlexLK wrote: »

Seems that way.



Please don't be worried about me, really not worth it!

But you're the only one that thinks that.

Hope LittleK is OK at school?

Dolly

AlexLK

wendyla wrote: »

Hi Alex

Good to see you back.

How has your son managed this week? Is he feeling any more settled?

DollyDee wrote: »

But you're the only one that thinks that.

Hope LittleK is OK at school?

Dolly

He's a lot better, thank you. Seems to have made two friends that don't abandon him at lunchtime.

DollyDee_2

Great news!

heartbreak_star

Ah that's awesome news about Little K. Often it's just a matter of time.

You might not think you're worth worrying about, but we do

HBS x

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

He's a lot better, thank you. Seems to have made two friends that don't abandon him at lunchtime.

I'm delighted to hear that Alex but please try to put a more positive spin on things even if it's a face for LittleK otherwise he's going to continue to pick up unintended messages from you. So in damning the two new friends with faint praise you've given the impression that all the rest of the school community is contemptuous.


The black dog seems to be snapping at your heels this week (or even chewing at your leg). Any idea of the trigger?