Renovations and Repayments.

smallholdingsister

Shot in the dark here Alex but your wife appears to respect you...otherwise she wouldn't bother with your parents.

Or is it you that doesn't respect her?

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

I do facilitate him having a social life, he meets other children when he goes to my cousin's to ride. He's also going to be starting to play violin in a young children's string orchestra as of next week, so hopefully he'll meet others there.

We had a chat with him about this and told him he doesn't make a fuss when we've chosen lunch in the morning for a picnic, so shouldn't regarding lunches at school. Hopefully that will work.

I remember thinking it was a good idea at the time when you started visiting your cousin (relatively new venture?) and I'm sure he'll enjoy the orchestra too. But although they are great they are on your terms, you're in control. I do wish you'd trust the school as first steps into the wider world that you aren't part of.


Very good comparison between the picnics and school lunches. Good thinking.


Sounds like a good idea to redecorate spare room. Is this for the scummies to come for Christmas? :D

AlexLK

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Shot in the dark here Alex but your wife appears to respect you...otherwise she wouldn't bother with your parents.

Or is it you that doesn't respect her?

Trust is more of an issue between us. She doesn't trust me not to spend all our money, due to past misdemeanours and I'd rather not admit to why I don't trust her. Not sure I'll ever be able to forget the past, despite being told I need to.

maman wrote: »

I remember thinking it was a good idea at the time when you started visiting your cousin (relatively new venture?) and I'm sure he'll enjoy the orchestra too. But although they are great they are on your terms, you're in control. I do wish you'd trust the school as first steps into the wider world that you aren't part of.

Very good comparison between the picnics and school lunches. Good thinking.

Sounds like a good idea to redecorate spare room. Is this for the scummies to come for Christmas? :D

Getting on with cousin is a recent thing but I'm pleased we put our differences behind us because I get along with her and family very well now. Funny how things change. My son loves being there and is very excited to join the orchestra (which I'm not involved in).

I suppose I do have some control and trust issues. Regarding school I don't feel very informed about what he's learning or who he's playing with and what they're doing. Headmaster does spend some time talking to me but I do try to avoid going into school to see him as no other parent seems to.

Mrs K has told son she's taking a "picnic" to work tomorrow too. :rotfl: Hopefully, that'll help.

Pleased to say we have stripped all the wallpaper off the walls. Also pleased to say no In-Laws will be coming to stay, although they're coming to my son's birthday party in two weeks time... think I need to up the drinks budget with that in mind. :rotfl:

Muser1

Alex you do frustrate me sometimes!

I don't wish to be unkind but LittleK is coming across as rude. He needs to behave in class..telling him to not let others influence him is typical Alex. Perhaps he's the problem? He also needs to realise that as part of a group the teacher has more than him to worry about. It's not a lot to ask to pick a lunch and stick to it.

Also I'm sure if his GM is a nurse she has so much to teach him. Try not to be so harsh Alex it makes uncomfortable reading.

I do still love your diary tho.

PS Lady M is an amazing secondary school. I'm assuming you are in catchment? People move house and pay a massive premium for that.

AlexLK

Muser1 wrote: »

Alex you do frustrate me sometimes!

I don't wish to be unkind but LittleK is coming across as rude. He needs to behave in class..telling him to not let others influence him is typical Alex. Perhaps he's the problem? He also needs to realise that as part of a group the teacher has more than him to worry about. It's not a lot to ask to pick a lunch and stick to it.

Also I'm sure if his GM is a nurse she has so much to teach him. Try not to be so harsh Alex it makes uncomfortable reading.

I do still love your diary tho.

PS Lady M is an amazing secondary school. I'm assuming you are in catchment? People move house and pay a massive premium for that.

My son is not a rude child and other pupils can be a bad influence. I'll admit his behaviour hasn't been particularly good but I think he's just not ready to be at school all day including lunchtimes.

Not really sure why being a nurse means Mother-in-Law has a lot to teach my son? Don't really see him becoming interested in nursing or medicine, to be honest.

Should son stay in the state system, he'll go to Lady M's. Personally, I don't want that to happen, although I'm aware it's very good for a state school.

wendyla

Hello Alex

For me this is a first. I have never before contributed to a forum of any sort, though for a few weeks I have been following some threads (is that the correct terminology?), yours included.

Alex, I both feel for you and am frustrated by you in equal measure... You so obviously love your son and your wife dearly. You might not always get it right, but then show me a spouse or parent who does. Just allow yourself to feel loved by them as they surely do. God that was bad English - does the fact I too received an independent education exonerate me?!

I am in not position to preach, but I dearly wish you could let them help to make you happy. That would be the greatest gift you could give to your family.

Let me know if it would have been better if I remained just lurking!

DollyDee_2

Alex

I've never had a diary as I (we) are debt and mortgage free but I enjoy reading your diary (diaries) and several others. I wish you and your family all the best. I do wish you could stop dwelling on the past and focus instead on the present and future in your own home. Perhaps the cloud would lift if you did so? Forget the inheritance for now - it will happen when it happens.

My father passed away in 2000 and very sadly my mother passed away last October. She was 86, bright as a button and very fit especially for her age. Did all her own cleaning, loved gardening and went dancing 3 times a week plus holidays with her friends. It was a complete shock when she had a stroke last September and died 6 weeks later after suffering cardiac arrest. I was in the ambulance with her on blues and twos. I'll never forget it. Anyway, the funeral followed then probate and selling her house which was ex council - my background is very different to yours. Everything was finalised in July and I, my older sister and my son received our inheritance. Not a life changing amount but a decent sum (by our standards:)). I would forego every single penny to have my parents back. Money isn't everything.

Have you ever thought that if you & Mrs K had decided to send LittleK to pre-prep school he wouldn't have been able to come home for lunch? He would have had to adjust wouldn't he?

Hope I haven't offended you by my post.

DollyDee

greent

kelpie35 wrote: »

As for LK's behaviour, I hope you and MrsK have told him how, his bad behaviour has disappointed you both, and there are consequences for that bad behaviour.

I am sure your son is picking up your bad vibes re how you feel about the school. You need to support the school in managing this bad behaviour and show LK that this is not acceptable.

You see from teaching in schools, the bad behaviour of pupils, so this is why you need to nip it in the bud NOW

AlexLK wrote: »

I will not ever tell him that he's a disappointment but agree the behaviour issues need to be nipped in the bud.

Little K is not a disappointment - his behaviour can be viewed as disappointing - they are not the same thing. x

smallholdingsister

Well you are nothing if not contentious, Alex!

DollyDee_2

Dear Alex

I really hope I haven't upset you, that was certainly not my intention but you didn't do your usual late night post.

I am worried. Please post.

D