Renovations and Repayments.

AlexLK

No alcohol - 13/28, shared a bottle of wine tonight.
No sweet treats - 6/31.
No meat - 4/10.
Walking - 14/31 13,000 steps.
Savings - £0.
Going to bed at a reasonable time - 3/31, went to bed but had a dreadful night's sleep.

Had a very eventful but good day today. Need to go to bed now rather than sitting up reflecting on the day / last night's sleep going badly.

smallholdingsister wrote: »

They should not!
Much better is "You know the fair rule" by Bill Rogers.

Haven't seen that one, will have a look on Amazon. To be honest, I reckon if managing to get a class of unruly teenagers to behave mostly very well is an indication, I don't think I'm going to have much of a problem with primary. However, any new strategies / information is always good and much appreciated. Thank you.

newgirly

Oops! you feel off the wagon with me last night then Alex

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

To be honest, I reckon if managing to get a class of unruly teenagers to behave mostly very well is an indication, I don't think I'm going to have much of a problem with primary.

:eek: I'll remind you of that when you start your placement and, even then, you'll have the class teacher to support you. Of course a range of behaviour management strategies is useful but that's only the start of what you'll need to know and do.:D


What interests (nosey:o) me is who you shared the bottle of wine with.:)

Watty1

maman wrote: »

What interests (nosey:o) me is who you shared the bottle of wine with.:)

Indeed ......

AlexLK

No alcohol - 15/28, none yesterday, won't be drinking tonight, either.
No sweet treats - 7/31.
No meat - 5/10.
Walking - 16/31 18,000 steps yesterday, 11,000 today.
Savings - £0. Still and it's been an unexpectedly expensive weekend.
Going to bed at a reasonable time - 4/31, will be going to bed at a reasonable time tonight.

newgirly wrote: »

Oops! you feel off the wagon with me last night then Alex

:rotfl: At least I haven't fell off it as badly as I have fell off the not eating chocolate and cakes wagon.

maman wrote: »

:eek: I'll remind you of that when you start your placement and, even then, you'll have the class teacher to support you. Of course a range of behaviour management strategies is useful but that's only the start of what you'll need to know and do.:D

What interests (nosey:o) me is who you shared the bottle of wine with.:)

Watty1 wrote: »

Indeed ......

Do, I'll either be right or very, very wrong. :rotfl: Can't say I really care if I am wrong, though the comment I made above was purely about handling the behaviour as I'm sure I'll learn lots of things on the course - I'm already reading lots with great interest and look forward to starting and learning new things.

:rotfl: re. the bottle of wine. My wife and I shared it. We had a fantastic weekend together with our son. Not getting my hopes up too much but we did a lot together as a family, my wife and I talked about things and she is taking some steps to make me think there may be a positive future, though I'm aware it's one weekend and know her well enough that all may change come Friday. She came for dinner on Friday night after all the fuss and we took our son to orchestra together. Saturday we went horse riding, swimming after and did lots of walking. Sunday we went out for lunch, just my wife, son and I then worked on one of the cars and my son's fish tank at the house she and I own together before going for a drive. Evening was dog walking and spending some time with my parents. My wife decided to come over and make a pizza for us all to share (she makes very nice Italian style pizzas, not had one for years because she refuses to make it usually).

Did realise having lived here for a month or so that the house my wife and I own together is still practically hoarders paradise.

heartbreak_star

If she can keep that up for six months, with no going out with workmates and being an idiot or acting like a child, then consider a potential future.

Yes, I'm a very harsh skeptic who has heard the phrases "I'll change" and "I'll never do it again" and "It was your fault" far too much...

On the flip side, I'm glad you had a good weekend though How is LittleK being with MrsK?

HBS x

maman

I'm also pleased you had a good weekend but pleased you're keeping an open mind as to whether MrsK can sustain things longer term.

AlexLK wrote: »

Did realise having lived here for a month or so that the house my wife and I own together is still practically hoarders paradise.

You keep using this phrase (pointedly it seems to me) and I think the implication is one area where I have sympathy with MrsK. You've never accepted the 'house you own together' as your home.


As for the 'hoarders paradise' why are you reluctant to sell some of the stuff? It's dead money that you and MrsK could probably do with.

Watty1

Ditto what Heartbreak and Maman said. Though pleased you had a good weekend together. That is nice. Just don't rush into believing a weekend means a big change. Cynic that I am
As for the "horders paradise" so what? You can deal with it one day. Maybe just not now. Maybe you will become a minimalist :rotfl:

AlexLK

No alcohol - 18/28.
No sweet treats - 8/31, .
No meat - 6/10.
Walking - 19/31 9,000.
Savings - £0.
Going to bed at a reasonable time - 6/31.

heartbreak_star wrote: »

If she can keep that up for six months, with no going out with workmates and being an idiot or acting like a child, then consider a potential future.

Yes, I'm a very harsh skeptic who has heard the phrases "I'll change" and "I'll never do it again" and "It was your fault" far too much...

On the flip side, I'm glad you had a good weekend though How is LittleK being with MrsK?

HBS x

Thanks, HBS.

Yes, I need to see a commitment to a change in attitude. You're right about the "I'll change", "not do it again", "you're fault". I too have heard it far too much.

I had a brilliant weekend. My son and wife got on really well over the weekend, he seems excited by the idea of doing something similar this weekend and I hope he won't be disappointed. She has left him very disappointed in the past when she's promised things and did not deliver.

maman wrote: »

I'm also pleased you had a good weekend but pleased you're keeping an open mind as to whether MrsK can sustain things longer term.

You keep using this phrase (pointedly it seems to me) and I think the implication is one area where I have sympathy with MrsK. You've never accepted the 'house you own together' as your home.

As for the 'hoarders paradise' why are you reluctant to sell some of the stuff? It's dead money that you and MrsK could probably do with.

I'm trying to keep an open mind as I want to make the right choice rather than the easiest. For me the easiest choice would be to pretend nothing has ever happened that is negative in my marriage but that is not the right thing to do.

I do not view that house as "home". I likely never will. I do want to complete the project and pay the mortgage off, though. I suppose if I had my way, things would go well for my wife and I and we'd all move here, finish the project and pay the mortgage but not live there. My son doesn't see the house I will pass to him from my parents as "home" and I want him to. This is a much nicer place, leagues apart from the house my wife and I own together.

Some of the things I have acquired over the years does need to be moved on at some point.

Watty1 wrote: »

Ditto what Heartbreak and Maman said. Though pleased you had a good weekend together. That is nice. Just don't rush into believing a weekend means a big change. Cynic that I am
As for the "horders paradise" so what? You can deal with it one day. Maybe just not now. Maybe you will become a minimalist :rotfl:

Thanks, Watty.

:rotfl: re. becoming a "minimalist".

heartbreak_star

Here's a laugh for you Alex.

You know how I've gone nuts at you in the past over impulse purchases?

I thought some medical tests related to my pneumonia were going to go horribly wrong, and Mr HBS wouldn't want me anymore...and I had everything in place to essentially impulse-buy a flat :eek::rotfl:

What a plonker I am. All is well (as I knew deep down it would be!) and now I have to cancel a mortgage...!

HBS x