Renovations and Repayments.

maman

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Well done on rebuffing the guilt trip! She's an adult so she can bloody well act like one. I definitely think she's used to quiet Alex who she can boss around, and she's not liking assertive Alex. We do, though.

HBS x

Well done for standing firm Alex.:T
MrsK well knows about orchestra on a Friday. It seems she's just childishly competing for your attention and would feel she'd scored one over LittleK if you agreed to go out with her on Fridays. How pathetic is that!


I don't think it's quiet Alex she's used to but rather guilt ridden Alex who'd take all sorts of rubbish as pay back because he behaved badly donkeys years ago. This new Alex is the one who turned his finances around, drew the line over what he'd accept from his parents (who now respect him for it) and is going to do the same with his wife.:D

lincoln-potter

Can't believe I've never read your diary before, it's a great read, I think I need to elaborate mine more.

By the sounds of things your wife and my ex sound like they could be twins with their attitude. Sadly I lack the backbone which you seem to have in saying no.

All the best
LP

AlexLK

Fay wrote: »

Alex Have a look in you tube for mindfulness body scan, i find it gets most people to sleep who struggle. Might be worth a try?
I'm glad to hear you didn't give in to the pressure to change your plans and then retrieve her car.

Thank you, I will try it.

Went to bed at the target time last night. Wasn't asleep before midnight but the light went off at 11.30 after a bit of reading. Got a LOT more sleep than usual.

smallholdingsister wrote: »

One of the behaviour "interventions" we use in the classroom is tactical ignoring.

Well Done on boundary setting in your last encounter with MrsK and tactically ignoring her not very subtle threats.

BTW have you considered what happens if she finds this thread?

I've used that as well. I have a music class at the 'difficult school', it seems to work fairly well. Also doing lots of reading about behaviour management / teaching due to the course in September. However, I did find it amusing you bringing it up as a potential Mrs K strategy... perhaps I ought read a few behaviour management books from a different angle. :rotfl:

Can't say I had, to be honest. Though I'm fairly certain I've not said anything on here that I wouldn't say to her in person. I suppose I do use this as a way to get things out of my thoughts sometimes, sorry.

heartbreak_star wrote: »

The new job is absolutely fantastic. I love being back in a lab again, messing about with tissues and staining

Still coughing like a good 'un, but thankfully the antibiotics have done their job and I'm not rattly anymore. Apparently the cough can persist for a little while so I've just got to keep an eye on it.

Well done on rebuffing the guilt trip! She's an adult so she can bloody well act like one. I definitely think she's used to quiet Alex who she can boss around, and she's not liking assertive Alex. We do, though.

HBS x

Glad to hear you're enjoying the new job, also glad to hear you're recovering.

She does expect me to be happy with her doing whatever she wants and for me to pick up the pieces.

maman

My pupils were always amused by the copy of this on my desk.:rotfl:

AlexLK

misscousinitt wrote: »

Well done you!

MCI

Thank you.

maman wrote: »

Well done for standing firm Alex.:T
MrsK well knows about orchestra on a Friday. It seems she's just childishly competing for your attention and would feel she'd scored one over LittleK if you agreed to go out with her on Fridays. How pathetic is that!

I don't think it's quiet Alex she's used to but rather guilt ridden Alex who'd take all sorts of rubbish as pay back because he behaved badly donkeys years ago. This new Alex is the one who turned his finances around, drew the line over what he'd accept from his parents (who now respect him for it) and is going to do the same with his wife.:D

I think that's exactly what she's doing. It is like having another child with her at times.

I certainly hope things between my wife and I work out how things between my parents and I have; I'm getting on with them better than ever before.

You've reminded me about something I occasionally have to say to pupils and / or parents of pupils; there needs to be a degree of trust and respect between a teacher and pupil and teacher and parent. If not things don't usually work out. Some parents can't quite believe that teachers are doing everything within their power for the child to succeed in lessons.

lincoln-potter wrote: »

Can't believe I've never read your diary before, it's a great read, I think I need to elaborate mine more.

By the sounds of things your wife and my ex sound like they could be twins with their attitude. Sadly I lack the backbone which you seem to have in saying no.

All the best
LP

Thanks, Lincoln Potter.

Saying "no" is a recent development, to be honest.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

My pupils were always amused by the copy of this on my desk.:rotfl:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I've found that a really good book.

AlexLK

No alcohol - 12/28.
No sweet treats - 6/31.
No meat - 2/10.
Walking - 12/31 11,000 steps.
Savings - £0.
Going to bed at a reasonable time - 1/31.

smallholdingsister

Don't be sorry Alex. Just thinking of you.

I thought that book was rubbish.

AlexLK

No alcohol - 13/28.
No sweet treats - 6/31.
No meat - 3/10.
Walking - 13/31 11,000 steps.
Savings - £0.
Going to bed at a reasonable time - 2/31.

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Don't be sorry Alex. Just thinking of you.

I thought that book was rubbish.

Thanks, smallholding.

I read it a while back when I first took on the class at the 'difficult school' and was expected to lead about 20 teenagers having initial experiences with (classical) music and violin. At that point I was only volunteering and didn't have any paid pupils there. I found the book useful as a starting point of how to manage a class on my own - was effectively just left with them, which I'm sure they shouldn't have done, really.

smallholdingsister

They should not!
Much better is "You know the fair rule" by Bill Rogers.