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newgirly

Hi Alex ,I'm not sure how old house Ds is? Could he have a try at lunches at school as that's when they often create freindships, it may end up being harder for him to settle if he keeps coming home. I know how hard it is , the youngest of my twins sailed through reception and then in year one refused to go in and had to be peeled off me by the teacher who carried him in :eek: however he did settle after a couple of stressful weeks.

AlexLK

My son is 4 and will be starting school in September.

edinburgher

Alex, have you tried addressing why DS is anxious about school? This strikes me as one of those things where OTT parental enthusiasm may need to be the order of the day, regardless of how you're feeling

Alchemilla

I know where you are coming from Alex, my son is starting school in September.

Is he going in for some transition sessions?

AlexLK

edinburgher wrote: »

Alex, have you tried addressing why DS is anxious about school? This strikes me as one of those things where OTT parental enthusiasm may need to be the order of the day, regardless of how you're feeling

He'd rather be at home. He has similar issues over nursery, though when he first went he loved it. This started when the children that were 4 last year went up to school and he had difficulties making friends with the other children.

Choosing a school has been very difficult and has caused quite a lot of problems between my parents and I; they really didn't want him attending the school we chose and think we've chosen badly. I wanted him to attend my old school but knew he wouldn't cope very well. Hoping it's a different story when he's 7, even though my parents think we've done the wrong thing in not sending him to my old school whether he's happy or not.

I've tried to get him enthused about school as he is bright and should do well but he's just not interested.

Alchemilla wrote: »

I know where you are coming from Alex, my son is starting school in September.

Is he going in for some transition sessions?

I've taken my son into the school a few times. He's met the Headmaster (who teaches) and seen the classroom.

In July he will go in for an afternoon, I presume then he will meet any other new starters.

AlexLK

AlexLK wrote: »

Wednesday 10th June, 2015.

...Should the weather be nice tomorrow, I'll be using the day to spend some time on the windows with some renewed enthusiasm...

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Well, I spent some time on the windows but I think the enthusiasm has gone until next year now.

On the positive side, I found some time to put a few things up for sale that I'd been meaning to do for a few days and confirmed 3 new music pupils. The scary thing is the music teaching is making more than my "main" business is at the moment. Still got the ongoing problem with ex-business partner, making things even more difficult there and the less said about helping my parents out the better. Really wish I'd gone into teaching post-university now, even though at the time it was my idea of a nightmare.

cazmanian_minx

AlexLK wrote: »

Really wish I'd gone into teaching post-university now, even though at the time it was my idea of a nightmare.

Never too late, Alex You can go in on the Schools Direct programme and get paid a salary while you train.

https://getintoteaching.education.gov.uk/explore-my-options/training/school-direct-salaried

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Really wish I'd gone into teaching post-university now, even though at the time it was my idea of a nightmare.

I think you'd find that class teaching in a school still can be that nightmare. Very different to 1:1 instrumental teaching. I think you've experienced that with some of your voluntary work.


While we're on the subject of education, I think you've taken the right decision for LittleK but maybe for the wrong reasons. I really hope he settles soon and wants to stay to lunch. I'd talk to his teachers about trying to encourage him once he goes full time.

AlexLK

cazmanian_minx wrote: »

Never too late, Alex You can go in on the Schools Direct programme and get paid a salary while you train.

https://getintoteaching.education.gov.uk/explore-my-options/training/school-direct-salaried

I've looked into going into teaching but not sure whether my medical history would mean I wouldn't be allowed.

maman wrote: »

I think you'd find that class teaching in a school still can be that nightmare. Very different to 1:1 instrumental teaching. I think you've experienced that with some of your voluntary work.

While we're on the subject of education, I think you've taken the right decision for LittleK but maybe for the wrong reasons. I really hope he settles soon and wants to stay to lunch. I'd talk to his teachers about trying to encourage him once he goes full time.

I still do the voluntary work and whilst some are utter *%$*s, I don't find they wind me up. I like doing the teaching because I find that I don't have time to focus on the negative things I usually focus on.

As for my son, I will try to get him to stay at lunch.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

I think you'd find that class teaching in a school still can be that nightmare. Very different to 1:1 instrumental teaching. I think you've experienced that with some of your voluntary work.

While we're on the subject of education, I think you've taken the right decision for LittleK but maybe for the wrong reasons. I really hope he settles soon and wants to stay to lunch. I'd talk to his teachers about trying to encourage him once he goes full time.

Tonight I've realised that I'm becoming the parent who will do anything to please his child. My wife and I had a discussion about school today, she thinks he needs to learn to get on with other children, enjoy making friends and not being "different". I wholeheartedly agreed but she pointed out that I'm the first one to reassure him that he will get what he wants whether it is the right thing or not. The right thing is not excluding him from playing with other children because at the moment he's apprehensive. My problem is fearing that any upset will come back to haunt him when he's older and that I could potentially do harm.

Not really sure how to set the right example when most of the time the black dog is firmly by my side, walking to heel. Today has been particularly difficult, one of those when I wonder if everyone would be better without me. It meant nothing got done; I'd planned to do some more work to the house.