Renovations and Repayments.

AlexLK

ourcornercottage wrote: »

I think that is absolutely terrible. Whilst what the mum says may be true and they dont get along (you can't get along with everyone) tbh that is irrelevant. I would never allow my son to leave one person out no matter how much he didn't like them.

Also in life you kind of have to get along with people you dont like its a life lesson.

Dont take it to heart, says more about their family than yours. Explain to LittleLK that everyone wont always get along and take him somewhere brilliant at the same time as the party is on

kelpie35 wrote: »

I am so pleased your son is enjoying school, long may it continue.

What a horrible thing to do to wee boy, I hope it doesn't affect your son's confidence.

In this world there are people who have no feelings for those that are around them. I have a names for people like that, they are either ignorant or very selfish.

Thanks, both. I did wonder if I were being perhaps a little more concerned than I should as he is my son.

He said to me today he thinks no one likes him. I hope after the conversation we had he realises that is simply not true. I explained he needs to try to talk to those he does get along with at school (apparently he doesn't talk to other children (at school) but does have friends that he occasionally visits (or visit us)). We went to look at a car today (yes I bought it). The owner had a boy of a similar age to my son and they had a great time together, my son showing the other boy different parts of the car before playing together in their garden. I'm not really sure why my son doesn't take an active approach to making friends at school like he did this evening but it was brilliant to hear him ask if he could stay a bit longer.

Financially and productively it's been a good day: an NSD (apart from the car which doesn't come from day to day money), managed to stick to the plan food wise and started to prep a different car for sale as well as earn some £££s music teaching.

tootallulah

Honestly what a thing to do to a small child, appalling behaviour by the parents. However LittleK sounds like he is settling at school and beginning to enjoy it. Someone suggested Pony Club earlier I think that'a a good idea then he will grow friends in and out of school. Nice to 'hear' you so positive Alex, you are making great progress on all fronts.

maman

I, too, think the boy from school's attitude is appalling or moreso his parents who should be explaining to him that its important to try to get on with everyone especially in such a small school. However, it probably does have the fact that LittleK doesn't talk to other children at school at its root.


I know you've moved on but I wonder whether he has it in the back of his mind conversations he's overheard in the past about the school, his teacher, the state system and comparisons with home schooling so he keeps himself aloof whereas with the car person he knows they're the sort of people you approve of. Just a theory. I'd take very opportunity to show your approval of the school if I were you.


Have you done your meal plan and shopping list for the next few days?;)

AlexLK

Well, after last week's orchestra saga, my wife has decided to go out with work colleagues so can't take him anyway this week. I was told this at 5pm today. :mad: Managed to get my parents to help but can't say I'm pleased about lying to them (it's unavoidable work rather than going to the pub with colleagues, so far as they're concerned). This is despite agreeing this morning that we're going to carry on having a quiet (and cheap) month.

tootallulah wrote: »

Honestly what a thing to do to a small child, appalling behaviour by the parents. However LittleK sounds like he is settling at school and beginning to enjoy it. Someone suggested Pony Club earlier I think that'a a good idea then he will grow friends in and out of school. Nice to 'hear' you so positive Alex, you are making great progress on all fronts.

My son finds school difficult. Not from an academic perspective but purely just being there.

He has friends at orchestra and has joined the pony club. Soon, he'll be joining Beavers too.

Thanks, I'm trying to stay as positive as I can. I've started to realise the more I force my negative thoughts / reactions to the back of my mind and get on with other things, the better I am. Can't say everyday is good but things are getting better.

maman wrote: »

I, too, think the boy from school's attitude is appalling or moreso his parents who should be explaining to him that its important to try to get on with everyone especially in such a small school. However, it probably does have the fact that LittleK doesn't talk to other children at school at its root.

I know you've moved on but I wonder whether he has it in the back of his mind conversations he's overheard in the past about the school, his teacher, the state system and comparisons with home schooling so he keeps himself aloof whereas with the car person he knows they're the sort of people you approve of. Just a theory. I'd take very opportunity to show your approval of the school if I were you.

Have you done your meal plan and shopping list for the next few days?;)

The mother of party invite boy now seems to stare at me when I'm waiting for my son at the end of the school day. I've always made a point of not interacting with other parents (no desire for them to take a disliking to me) but I couldn't just let that go. Today I stayed in the car she was staring at my car and pointing it / me out to another parent.

I don't really know why my son is as he is at school. He talks a lot to his teachers but not to the other pupils. For quite a while now I've been as encouraging as possible about my son's school. In a lot of ways I do think he is in the best place he could possibly be (don't think he'd cope in a school any bigger at all). I do understand where you're coming from but I am positive about the school.

:rotfl: Re. the meal plan / shopping. Yes, I have as it happens, everything has been got for until Monday. Currently saving a lot of time and money.

maman

Disappointed in MrsK but good in a way that your parents are being helpful and doing what grandparents do. Also good that LittleK realises that you're not going to be taking him whatever happens.

That mum sounds like one of the 'school gate !!!!! ' so maybe wise to give her a wide berth. She probably realises she's in the wrong and has done a cruel thing so is trying to justify it to anyone who'll listen. Ignore her but don't take it out on the boy.
Have you ever (sensitively of course) broached it to LittleK that if he doesn't talk to children they might think he doesn't like them? Great idea to join Beavers.

:T Delighted that you've sorted out meals again. We'll soon have you managing a week at a time. Have you thought about that new fridge freezer yet? Sometimes you can cook enough for two meals and freeze one for another day. Very useful for winter stews and casserole coming up and they seem to marinate even in the freezer. Just ask if you want help as from what you've said about your mum's beef best not to ask there.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

Disappointed in MrsK but good in a way that your parents are being helpful and doing what grandparents do. Also good that LittleK realises that you're not going to be taking him whatever happens.

That mum sounds like one of the 'school gate !!!!! ' so maybe wise to give her a wide berth. She probably realises she's in the wrong and has done a cruel thing so is trying to justify it to anyone who'll listen. Ignore her but don't take it out on the boy.
Have you ever (sensitively of course) broached it to LittleK that if he doesn't talk to children they might think he doesn't like them? Great idea to join Beavers.

:T Delighted that you've sorted out meals again. We'll soon have you managing a week at a time. Have you thought about that new fridge freezer yet? Sometimes you can cook enough for two meals and freeze one for another day. Very useful for winter stews and casserole coming up and they seem to marinate even in the freezer. Just ask if you want help as from what you've said about your mum's beef best not to ask there.

You are not the only one disappointed in Mrs. K., maman. She did come home fairly early but expected me to pretend nothing happened, when I refused she told me that she thought our son "deserved" to not be able to go to orchestra after last week. :mad:

On the positive front, my son was really good about his grandparents taking him and they were really positive about his playing (think they were trying to make up for what happened during summer). For the first time in a long time my son let my father give him a hug and a kiss goodbye.

I don't have any contact with party invite boy but wouldn't treat him differently to any other child should my son become friends with him at some point. I hadn't thought about other children perhaps thinking my son doesn't like them as he doesn't talk to them but that does make sense. Will try to talk to him over the weekend. This evening I did wonder if he perhaps doesn't talk to other pupils because I don't speak to any parents? Not sure how to deal with that one as I have no real desire to talk to any of them.

I think he'll love Beavers.

:rotfl: Viewing this pragmatically, I think I'm going to need to sort the meals out in preparation for next year. We have thought about the new fridge freezer, my wife thinks it would be a good idea and I'm having a look to see what we can get at some point over next week. Would others say it's a case of spend as much as possible or is it one of those things were a cheap one will last just as long?

The reheating of a frozen stew / casserole concerns me as I don't really know how I would do it (for it to still taste good)?

:rotfl: Re. my mother's cooking! It's not fantastic. I, at least, do try different things and make sure everything is only cooked for as long as it needs to be. Tomorrow we are having a stir fry, I've not made one in ages. Planning has helped me to think of different things to eat, rather than having the same meals all the time.

zcrat41

Alex I put my leftovers in those silver takeaway containers - you can get them on Amazon. There's 2 x adult portions per container. I put them from the freezer straight into the Oven for an hour at 180. Perfect every time.

smallholdingsister

Alex if there is only one weirdo at the school gate you are doing pretty well. She probably fancies you.

Great that Little K joined pony club.

newgirly

I would have thought you just go by the "a" rating with fridge/freezers? I'm going for the cheapest with a good rating as I plan on changing the kitchen in a few years.

tootallulah

I just bought a fridge freezer and got the least expensive A rated one, I don't think it is loads better to go more expensive it may look more beautiful but I am very happy with mine. The new ones are much better at keeping things fresh.