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Just to update, doctor called back and wanted to see her. DD was examined all over, no other marks anywhere other then her face. Doctor is documenting it (I showed her the photo I took yesterday as well) and is making a call to Childrens Services.0
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shoe*diva79 wrote: »Just to update, doctor called back and wanted to see her. DD was examined all over, no other marks anywhere other then her face. Doctor is documenting it (I showed her the photo I took yesterday as well) and is making a call to Childrens Services.
So doctor backs up what has been said already but still putting in a call to children's services? That has to be over the top. It is a shame you can your ex can't just get on or have a bit of trust. Your wee one is smack in the middle of all this.What if there was no such thing as a rhetorical question?0 -
The doctors call. I would love to get on with him and have some trust but am sadly way past that point. DD has been hurt on to many occasions to note down now and not once has he told the truth around the circumstances.
Ill give one example - DD came home last year with bruising around her neck. She told me her teenage brother picked her up by her neck but that daddy got cross so as far as I was concerned, he had dealt with it in an appropriate manner. When I next saw him I asked him what had happened and he said DD was lying and there was nothing wrong with her. The next day he told me that he thinks she caught her neck in a zip. 3 months later he told the court his teenage son was a bit to rough and tumble with her.
Why so many different versions? Just tell the truth and Ill respect and trust him a whole lot more.0 -
I'd be telling the triage nurse there is a possibility of abuse and they'll fall over themselves to get you into the GP (actually I'd have said this to the receptionist and if still insisting on triage I'd have asked to see the practice manager.)
Once you go down that road there is no turning back. It is the very last thing I would do unless there was solid evidence that abuse had occurred. This situation requires very careful handling.
OP your daughter needs to feel that she can talk to you about anything and to know that you will respond calmly. Start airing unsubstantiated claims of abuse and it could damage the relationship that she values with her father and yourself.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
Once you go down that road there is no turning back. It is the very last thing I would do unless there was solid evidence that abuse had occurred. This situation requires very careful handling.
OP your daughter needs to feel that she can talk to you about anything and to know that you will respond calmly. Start airing unsubstantiated claims of abuse and it could damage the relationship that she values with her father and yourself.
I didn't say anything about abuse to the doctor. I asked that some injuries my DD sustained whilst with her father is documented as incidents have happened before which have not been documented and I want to protect myself from any nasty comeback. Im sure her pre school will be asking why she is sporting a shiner tomorrow and they have made a report to CS in the past regarding an incident that occurred with DD and her father (DD told someone about it).0 -
So doctor backs up what has been said already but still putting in a call to children's services?
The doctor has to.
Child protection agencies can make the judgement as to whether abuse has happened or intervention is required. The doctor is reporting injuries to them.
Kids have suffered and died because doctors and teachers (for example, not pointing the finger specifically) didn't pass on reports like this. A lot of the time, it will be nothing. Every so often, it will be something. Patterns can emerge that a single doctor, teacher, whoever doesn't see.0 -
Although contact is Court ordered, you could still stop contact as your child has an injury. You would need to inform the court asap, tell them your child has been to GP and they are making a referral to children's services.
At the end of the day, safeguarding children comes above other laws even contact ordered by Court.
I have never known one parent be criminalised for stopping contact in this type of scenario.0 -
Are you sure that you DD slept in bed overnight with the GF and your ex?
Isn't it more likely that she went in for a chat or because she couldn't sleep and just spent a bit of time in bed with them?
She may have thought it was nice and cosy and that's why she told you - she may have thought it was great... now you're going to undermine this progress in their building of a relationship by making it into a negative and sinister thing.
You've said you believe the story about her injury so why are you acting like this? Jealousy that another woman is playing mummy perhaps?:hello:0 -
Can you phone the social worker and explain your fears? I know you are worried about the repercussions of stopping contact, but in all seriousness if I thought my child was at risk, I'd face the consequences rather than adhere to an order which could put her at risk of further abuse.
Can you speak to the SENCO at your childs school? They can become involved in family matters and voice concerns to reiterate your own.
I would be concerned that your child has been primed to say that she had an accident. I have worked with vulnerable, young children in the last, and it's amazing how much they can back up what they've been told to say by another adult.
Did the GP think the bruising was consultant with a fall? Even on safety surfacing there would be broken skin on the cheek if she face planted, as well as possible, nose, chin and chest injuries.
I would be very concerned given the history, and I think you should pursue supervised visitation with the support of the outside agencies.0
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