Appropriate? Disrespectful?

Mojisola

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

But ex said he wants to make an example of me.

Have you got that in writing or recorded?

shoe*diva79

Mojisola wrote: »

Have you got that in writing or recorded?

He said it in court on Thursday

Mojisola

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

He said it in court on Thursday

Won't that have been noted as vindictive motivation?

If his main interest is to get you into trouble rather than what's best for his daughter, will what he says really be counted?

marisco_2

It is irresponsible in the extreme for any parent to send a child of just 4 years old home with such injuries, leaving it to them to explain how they came about to the other parent. You need to know exactly what happened and of any after affects this had on your daughter such as headaches, vomiting, whether her vision was okay. If this sort of incident had happened at school this would be the normal process. As if that doesn't raise enough alarm bells the fact that your ex is ignoring your requests to talk this through is very concerning.

shoe*diva79

I just want to make a point incase anyone thinks I am some awful women who withholds contact etc, I really am not.

After court at beginning of Dec he saw her for 24 hours on the weekend and then didnt turn up for his weekend which would have been boxing day (the friday) until the sunday. I offered him 8 other dates and he said he could not make any of these so ended up going from mid december to jan 9th with no contact. I have all of this documented on email as proof.

He has been offered other dates over and above his court ordered ones as well but has always refused, I honestly think he is going to get a shock when we go back to court. We both have to write statements (I have to file mine in response to his) and I can back up everything with logged calls to Social services, emails to him (and his responses) and a recorded telephone call where he states he is going to get DD and not bring her back. That call is the only time I have ever told him not to bother coming for her as I wont let her go if he isnt going to bring her back.

shoe*diva79

Mojisola wrote: »

Won't that have been noted as vindictive motivation?

If his main interest is to get you into trouble rather than what's best for his daughter, will what he says really be counted?

I dont know. Another thing he said in court, at the beginning of Dec, was that the magistrates were making him choose between his GF and his DD (he said this when they told him his gF was not allowed contact with her)

whitewing

I would definitely see the GP tomorrow, and also get it investigated.

DevilsAdvocate1

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

I dont know. Another thing he said in court, at the beginning of Dec, was that the magistrates were making him choose between his GF and his DD (he said this when they told him his gF was not allowed contact with her)

So does he not mind that his GF said that to his daughter? Sounds like a great dad.

shoe*diva79

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

So does he not mind that his GF said that to his daughter? Sounds like a great dad.

He said our DD is lying.

Infact, firstly he said that it couldnt have possibly happened because he was with DD 24/7 and then over the course of a 20 minute conversation he said he took DD to work with him (he was supposed to have a weeks holiday) to he went to work himself and left DD with his GF.

Personally, the circumstances in which DD told me (see my other posts for explanation), I believe her.

shoe*diva79

whitewing wrote: »

I would definitely see the GP tomorrow, and also get it investigated.

I will definitely be having it logged with the GP.