Appropriate? Disrespectful?

RAS

Take her down to A&E now.

shoe*diva79

duchy wrote: »

I'd be telling the triage nurse there is a possibility of abuse and they'll fall over themselves to get you into the GP (actually I'd have said this to the receptionist and if still insisting on triage I'd have asked to see the practice manager.)

The receptionist did ask what the appt for for and i responded that I wanted to speak with the doctor about it.

RuthnJasper

duchy wrote: »

I'd be telling the triage nurse there is a possibility of abuse and they'll fall over themselves to get you into the GP (actually I'd have said this to the receptionist and if still insisting on triage I'd have asked to see the practice manager.)

I would too. Apologies, Diva, but your DD's father sounds like a complete tool, and his GF sounds just as bad.

Trust your instincts. I would not want anyone's four-year-old child being left in the "care" of this pair of idiots. If someone treated my dog with such reckless disrespect they would not be given a chance to do it again.

Good luck with the GP (if you can get one) and I hope that all goes well for a happier future with your little girl. x

shoe*diva79

RAS wrote: »

Take her down to A&E now.

I dont want to take up their time with something the GP can log. She isn't in any immediate danger (she is with me until a week Friday). The GP will hopefully check her injury and if necessary refer her on.

RuthnJasper

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

The receptionist did ask what the appt for for and i responded that I wanted to speak with the doctor about it.

No - call her back and tell her! Or, as RAS says, take your daughter to A&E. Seriously; it's important. A receptionist cannot help you unless they have proper details.

Your DD ought to be seen whilst her injuries are clear and her memories are still fresh. Any bruises will fade quite quickly, especially in a very young person. If you leave it, all that you may achieve is a note of "no significant markings" on your DD's file.

shoe*diva79

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I would too. Apologies, Diva, but your DD's father sounds like a complete tool, and his GF sounds just as bad.

Trust your instincts. I would not want anyone's four-year-old child being left in the "care" of this pair of idiots. If someone treated my dog with such reckless disrespect they would not be given a chance to do it again.

Good luck with the GP (if you can get one) and I hope that all goes well for a happier future with your little girl. x

Thank you, believe me, my instincts are to keep her away but its not up to me sadly and if I do restrict contact then I am breaking the law.

rpc

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

Now the police in 2013 I have NO idea what this is. I called 101 and they cant tell me as it does not involve me so data protection, I called social services and again, they wont tell me as its not there data and they cant release the info so I spoke to CAFCASS to ask them to find out what it was and they said whatever it was isn't important enough for them to be told in detail.

As a parent, you can (with limitations) act on behalf of your daughter for data protection. So you can submit subject access requests, etc. A 4 year old isn't competent to do it themselves, so the parent does it instead.

The police and social services have a number of exemptions.

The other issue is that the data controller must be satisfied that the disclosure is for the benefit of the child and not the parent. Contested contact cases are a common example of where a parent could be requesting data for their own ends and not the child's.

shoe*diva79

RuthnJasper wrote: »

No - call her back and tell her! Or, as RAS says, take your daughter to A&E. Seriously; it's important. A receptionist cannot help you unless they have proper details.

Your DD ought to be seen whilst her injuries are clear and her memories are still fresh. Any bruises will fade quite quickly, especially in a very young person. If you leave it, all that you may achieve is a note of "no significant markings" on your DD's file.

I have taken photographs when she got home last night. Today the redness isnt so much but the bruising more. Her cheek is tender to touch but she appears okay otherwise.

fivetide

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

Sadly due to past experiences, DD father lies to save his own bacon so establishing the facts with him are difficult.

I didn't say ask him I said ask DD.


Do you think your daughter would lie to you if dad said so? I think you need to trust your daughter that she can and will say what she wants, especially if you have a good relationship. Of course you don't want her telling you what she thinks you want to hear either. That's the issue with battling parents.


I absolutely wouldn't be suggesting abuse at this point. I really don't think you have any strong evidence of that.

haras_nosirrah

Before everyone screams abuse and involving the police my dad took my two year old to the park on Xmas day and he came back with a massive black eye as he had slipped when getting off the roundabout and fell forward and hit his cheek under his eye on the roundabout. My dad worships the ground my son walks on and accidents do happen