should i move back home?

martinthebandit

I think the thread title answers its own question.

You clearly still consider your mum's house as home ........

victor2

If Mum would be happy for the company, then it seems to make sense to go to Mum & Manchester and look for work there, with a plan to move into your own place once settled in a new job.
Even if Mum doesn't want rent, pay her something anyway, and be prepared to chip-in with the housework etc. Hard to change the living style after uni, know that after experiencing both DDs coming home after uni and driving us crazy in their own little ways, bless 'em!

theoretica

I would suggest for the medium term that you neither plan to stay or move back. You are in the position where you can hunt for a good job anywhere and move to wherever that job is.

elsien

glamrochick wrote: »

thing is be hard to go home after being independent thats the only thing.. yes manchester has more places to apply to for my chosen career.. im in a house converted into flats.. lease up in august. i am applying for both leeds and manchester jobs.. my mum be happy to have me back and closer to her

When I moved back home after living away, my mother and I rowed like cat and dog. Are the reasons you moved back to Leeds still valid. If not, could you work in Manchester and still live independently? It doesn't have to be either or. I'm wondering if part of the reason you moved back to Leeds was to hang onto what you had when you were a student? But that's going to change regardless of where you live. People move on, social circles change, the realities of the 9-5 and earning a living start to kick in.
So what's important to you in your new situation, and what changes will suit that best? And presuming the job situation will be similar in both, which City do you prefer and what compromises will you make eg moving to a cheaper less desirable area vs less independence at home.

summerspring

There are obviously things you can't do in your parents house that you can freely do in your own! Bringing a boyfriend back to stay overnight for example. But if you don't mind that, then it might be worth moving in with your mum and putting some money aside each month so that you can get your own place.

BitterAndTwisted

If the job you're doing is not related to your degree and "like slave-labour" then I reckon it's a no-brainer.

Wait until your tenancy expires in the summer and get your butt back to Manchester.

As an aside, many, many people have little left at the end of the month once essential bills have been paid. A lot of people have squat. It's possible that living in a one-bedroomed flat on your own is the luxury you can't really afford. I'd consider giving that up and going into shared accommodation if Leeds was where you wanted to be for your career but it doesn't sound like it.

Get some packing cases sorted and go back to Manc.

glamrochick

yeah true that is a hard one with my boyfriend cos used to him staying over here.. yeah me and mum have rowed a bit and i needed some space.. i could save upand get a nice flat in manc.. mum seems fine with that, said at least can rent something decent.. a nice modern place.. would pay mum a bit of money for having me, but no need to pay bills or anything

glamrochick

bitter and twisted. .sounds like good advice go back after lease is up.. i hate the job now can get one with better pay

pickledonionspaceraider

Where you do you feel your ''life'' is, these days? In terms of friends, boyfriends, social life

The reasons you suggest for moving back in with mum are likely never going to go away (for her) as in struggling to cope financially alone and if you move home to your mum it is unlikely that this will be a permanent solution for her as you will likely want to move out again at some point in the future and then she will struggle again - it all sounds a bit co dependant

I understand you are not loving your job, it is definable time to find something more suitable, and if staying in Leeds, a flat share option - which would not have a knock on for your boyfriend staying over as you will still have your own bedroom. Many people have little left at the end of the month especially if living alone it is not easy

victor2

glamrochick wrote: »

yeah true that is a hard one with my boyfriend cos used to him staying over here.. yeah me and mum have rowed a bit and i needed some space..

You have to accept that if you are under Mum's roof, you abide by her rules, no matter how antiquated you believe they are.
It's incentive to earn your own place...