The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

monnagran

I knew I could count on you.

We have had many open discussions about this.
In fact it was my DIL who started it all off when she said that she knew I wasn't happy and they would do anything in the world to make me happy. So it all stemmed from there. We have discussed building an annexe on to this house. Not practical. Them renting me a bungalow. I'm not keen on that, I have always lived in my own house and would like to continue to do so. Also it begs the question of my pension top up.
They have already offered to move out but I scuppered that idea although we may have to revisit it.
The trouble as I see it is that we are all trying to do the best for each other but also trying to be practical and its just not working.

I'm not in the least worried because I know that it will all work out in the end. It's just that this morning I felt particularly low about something else and it all got a bit too much.

A million thanks to all of you for your care and helpful suggestions.

elona. Most of my bits and pieces are already in a friend's garage. The garage here has to be seen to be believed! I don't think you could get a tintack in there.

OK. Chin up. Titus out.

Let's talk about something else. I'll keep you posted.

x

mardatha

Tsk Tsk monna, you're slipping. The solution is obvious woman!
Make appointments with buyers.
Tell none of the family.
Ten mins before the appointed time, grab the family, duct tape the sods, throw them down the cellar steps. The dog can go in a shed.
Sorted!
This is what cellars are for!

monnagran

No cellar Mar. However there is a sort of metal structure, a cross between a shed and a metal chest.We keep the bbq in it. May see who we can squeeze in there.

x

mardatha

I don't know about you lot down south, but it's a truly hellish night up here. Really big gusts of wind and horizontal snow outside, lights already flickering.

monnagran

No snow Mar, but pretty windy and torrents of the wet stuff. DS2 reports that he had to scrape the windscreen this morning. The forecasts are pretty dire but we usually escape worst of the cold weather.

Floss

Big winds in Blackpool with horizontal rain in squalls too. The cat is not impressed!

ivyleaf

OK here so far - apparently we're to get the wind and rain later. I can hardly wait.

Hard_Up_Hester

Hugs Monna, I hope your situation can be resolved.
My L&M had a hospital appointment today, he also visited a friend who was admitted a couple of days ago.

ancientofdays

I hope it will all work itself out Monna. I do know what you mean when something that is bothering you in a non-obvious way comes to the surface when something else is upsetting you.
As a house hunter, I'm not too bothered by other people's clutter, though it does make me look carefully at storage.

fuddle

Drat monna. You and your family have spent too long walking on eggshells trying not to upset one another. I know your family are precious to you and I wouldn't have a bad word said about them because of that but I could have flogged 'em the day they brought a puppy into the equation. I do suspect that the puppy brings you a good few smiles so not too bad but your lovely little family's thought processes worry me.

It's hard enough mustering the motivation to keep everything looking good when you're a tidy, organised freak when there's change afoot that's really, really wanted (ask me how I know ) so I do feel for your DIL and all of you but we're getting to the nearly a year and a half stage now so there has to be a sense of urgency about solving and finding a solution.

There's more talks needed and I fear that you are going to have to be a placid, wonderfully understanding dear lady who is not the least bit confrontational in order to get a solution. I'm not saying you're not like that but if DS is feeling the need to protect his wife then I think he's feeling super sensitive about it all anyway and is acting quite defensively.

They are a close loving little family monna. Think of all the messing around of houses my family have endured over the years and the added stress and strains that go with it. It's time for them to stop being a bit self centered and comfortable and start to make their own way my friend. It's hurting you and no matter how much I adore your closeness to them, you is what I am concerned about. I am quite cross with them and I know you won't think ill of me for saying that.

They can make it out of your house. They can, in fact, thrive. x